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Coming of Age

As I read through past blogs and notes, random thoughts and feelings I often wonder where I’m gonna end up. What’s at the end of my rainbow (or journey to sound more masculine 😉 ?) Am I gonna reach my full potential? Will I find a woman that takes my breath away like in the movies,) will I inspire thousands by teaching them to dance in Street Feet or to MakeMoves? Will I have a family of little Kupahs running about gnawing at my ankles? Who knows?!

What I have learned in my 30 year tenure is that no matter what I think I know… Two years pass and I realize all of the things I DIDN’T KNOW. Looking back: 20-22 clueless, 23-26 moron and & 28-30 infant! What’s exciting about this is that I’m always learning new things that allow me to take a step back and recognize my own growth. We are all today’s sum of past variables; and it’s important to remember that when making present decisions for tomorrow…

This thought came to me just about a year ago and I have been developing this for some time now.

The platform: First, you have to acknowledge the fact that you know more now/today than you did yesterday. Seems obvious right? Well take a second and think about how many times you have dated the same idiot, ate the same unhealthy thing, or landed yourself in the same financial stress after swearing you would never do THAT again? Well there you go.

The idea: To have a conversation with yourself today, from tomorrow’s you. You wanna read that through again? No problem! Try to think about what a Tomorrow’s version of you would say to a Today’s version of you. Take that advice and live it today for a better tomorrow. Don’t worry I’m gonna give examples.

Typically the worries of youth are whims of the old. What this means is that worldly problems of the inexperienced aren’t usually viewed the same by the mature. Just think of what it would be like if you told you what to do. Helping you steer clear of that girl/guy, take that job, buy that dress, pay that ticket, see that movie, or take that trip. There are some serious things too like, take on that mortgage, move to that place, see family more, invest in stocks (this I do NOT DO), or plan for your retirement instead of Foxwoods! These are some ideas and things I introduce to you from my mind and experience to yours.

I encourage you to take this trip and have this conversation with yourself. Challenge your own thinking and educate yourself from within. See what happens and let me know what things you have taught yourself, FROM YOURSELF!

Hope to hear some of those thoughts! #MAKEmoves

 

Some Days

Some days I want to be you

Some days I want what you have

Some days I wanna know who you know

Some days I wanna know what you know

 

Some days I want as much as you

Some days I wish I was

Some days I want to be there

Some days I think about it

Some days I wanna be part of it

Some days I wish I tried harder

Some days I own it

Some days are BAM!

Some days are UGH!

Some days I wish I found her

Some days I wish she found me

Some days I wish I didn’t

Some days I wish I did

Some days I wish I found

Some days I wish I kept

Some days I wish it was enough

Some days I think it’s too much…

There are days when I wish I could do something else, be someone else, live another life and then, I wake up and realize I have everything I could ever want right now in THESE days! I’m not cursed by wants, wishes & desires. I’m blessed by drive, ambition & direction. It is natural to want what you DON’T have but it is your LIFE to own and appreciate what you DO have.

#MakeMoves #NoNoise #KjSay

 

 

New Strategies for Every Excuse

I’m constantly reflecting on ways to make the most out of my day, my life, my company and I think the biggest thing I run into when I discuss #MakingMoves with others is that they don’t know how to start or where to start. I’ve written a few blogs about that, but that doesn’t cover all of the other excuses. I say excuse, not to be harsh, but because that’s all it is and I think that can be more motivating for people. No one wants to be accused of making excuses!

So, today, let’s talk about strategies for every excuse; non-specific excuses, specific excuses including a few I hear most often.

What’s a non-specific excuse? I can’t, why should I, I don’t really need a change, I don’t even know what I want, why does it matter, it’s just how it is, I’m happy outside of work, so what does it matter if work is good? I’m happy at work, so what does it matter outside of that?

Well I’m here to tell you that you can, to be happier/make a difference to yourself or others/fulfillment/success, if you’re reading this, you probably do, you can still start somewhere, it matters because what you put out is received by others – negativity breeds negativity, happiness breeds happiness, it doesn’t have to be, you’re crazy.

The first strategy is just adopting a different general way of thinking; believing you can and wanting to. From there you can work into more specific strategies for more specific excuses 😉 Start by making a list of 5 positive things that will come from whatever change you’re looking for, then 5 things you could do to work towards that (ex: make this list, update your resume, get 30 minutes of extra sleep, drink more water, schedule one hour a week of you time to do something nice for yourself.)

Let that list create new habits and new things to look forward to and turn into 10 things, etc.

Specific excuses! We all know what these can be: I don’t have enough money, Its too late, people will be mad at me, people will think I’m crazy, what if I get rejected.

Rewind to previous paragraph: The first strategy is just adopting a different general way of thinking; believing you can and wanting to. This is the toughest thing to do with specific excuses, so if you can make it over that hump. Just trust that somehow you can do it and WANT to do it – you really can start seeing changes.

Another difficult strategy you NEED here is to……. Just start! It sounds so easy so it can’t be, right?! WRONG! Just start. Just show up at that fitness class, just step outside in your sneakers and you’re bound to start running. Maybe you aren’t the best, maybe you don’t run a mile, but you’ve started. Everything else will just come with time.

You want to go back to school? Just make an appointment with an advisor, chances are they’ll do the rest of the strategizing for you. You want to switch jobs? Just start looking at job postings. It’ll start being motivation enough to take the next step.

In this space it’s helpful to write down or think about or talk about some questions. What do I need to get the job I really want? (degree in something specific, a good reference, to finish my short story, etc) How do I increase my salary? (request a performance eval, submit for a promotion, think about a new job/career path) Be healthier! (Do I want to start with my diet or with exercise? What are some things about my grocery list I could start changing? How could I drink more water throughout the day? What types of exercise would I enjoy?)

From there you should have a pretty good list of starting points and how- tos!

Some takeaways from this post:

  • Believe/trust that you can make changes/achieve goals
  • Make a conscious decision to WANT to make      changes/achieve goals
  • Make a list!
  • Just START/Just SHOW UP
  • Flesh it out with questions

The best way of getting through that first one is to soul search and be honest with yourself. If you can’t be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with? Think about what excuses you’re telling yourself. Put them on paper or in the Notes app on your phone and look at them. Are they so big? Don’t you want to start erasing them? As scary or just lazy as you feel when looking at them.. think about how great it would feel if you could look back and say you got past them and started being happier.

Beauty, Brains and a Side of Fitness

The other day someone asked me what I look for in a companion and without hesitation I answered, “Beauty, Brains & a side of Fitness.” It came out so fast I had to say it more than once to make sure I was ok with my statement. If you know how my brain works then you would know that I was playing it over in my head looking for holes in my own thought process. LOL.

First, lets establish that while I have the definition of a wandering eye.. I do not try to wander… therefore that behavior isn’t my forte. Moving right along… I have many layers and if one were to pull back some of those seemingly complicated ones they would find that I can be one of the most easy going people you have ever met: Simple, direct and to the point with no secrets or nonsense in the background.

For example, when I say I like something…wait, are you ready for this? It may come as a surprise, but, it actually means I like something… OMG NO WAY. I would not waste the energy on the acting job I would have to commit to in trying to convince my audience of anything other than the truth. The same goes for things I do not like… Ladies I’m not other men therefore I cannot speak for them but, when I say I do not like something, it is NOT an invitation to seduce me into liking it. SAVE everyone’s time or either sneak it into my life and then I’ll pull the “I told you so” or, leave it be. I’m not one to rock boats or fix stuff that doesn’t appear to be broken. I eat chicken broccoli & ziti and many variations of this particular dish. So, in 24 months when I order it please do not assume I’m boring, rather be happy that we are out in public and still enjoying social events together instead of Bertolli Dinners which can be just as good in a time crunch.

I digress…

Shallow: probably the single most debated word/topic I discuss in addition to Cockiness and the true existence of Santa Claus (who I’m pretty sure still visits me once a year – now that guy MakesMOVES! Ha.) Anyway I state loud and clear that attractiveness (to me) is important when thinking about relationships. I do realize that all the glitz and glamour fades and that’s why I also have Brains on my list and as added security (a side of fitness) to me means that whatever is LOOKING good will look good just a little longer than the one who exercises the right to drive by the gym and wave. Made myself laugh on that one: true story.

Brains are absolutely necessary to keep my attention during conversations and social interactions with other people. Gossip Queens, FaceBook Addicts, Non-Voters, and Land of ‘living with your parents,’ doesn’t suit me very well. Please have an opinion about politics, religion, history, future, technology… Something other than what happened on Kardashians last week or who Justin Timberlake was caught with on a secluded island. Spare me! Not interested. Stimulate my mind and I promise you won’t be disappointed.

 

Side of Fitness is exactly that. I’m not looking to date a female version of myself. I respect all that and those women should be proud to work as hard as they do to reach the goals they have set for themselves. I just don’t want to put my hands on larger muscles than mine (know what I mean.) A side of fitness is just that “a side if fitness.” To me that means a woman who respects the body and likes to take care of it. I don’t just mean just physically either, I’m talking mental, emotional, and spiritual Fitness. Exercise the mind anyway you can. Utilizing a fitness center is really more about mental health anyway as it promotes dedication, drive, consistency and goal setting. Find the nearest gym, sign up and then find my match.com profile! Lol kidding. My account ran out so you will have to resort to just bumping into me on the street.

What does it for you? What do you seek in a companion, partner? What traits are important to you? What do you bring to the table and what advice can you give to others? Sharing is caring so leave a comment!

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Live Laugh Love – Looking to Summer 2013

Summer is almost upon us and the warm weather usually brings out the smiles in us Bostonians. For some of us it is time of vacations, tanning, shorter work days and longer weekends, more time with a partner or the family, car washes and cook-outs.

For others it’s not as positive; unemployment is still very high, some individuals did not do the amount of work required to attain necessary certifications to properly move forward, some relationships are ending, homes have been lost and friends have gone different directions. With all of these things going on for many of us I think it is necessary to reflect inward instead of outward. To stop for a minute and attempt to assess your current situation and see it for what it really is, not for what you hope it to be. Then and only then, once you have seen what you have created or what your reality is – do you MakeMOVES and transform your reality into something you can accept or bring to the next level.

When thinking about reflecting on this, I think for me, the best thing about my life is that it is mine to live and do with it how I see fit. And yours is too! However you want to digest that depends on how you want your story to play out in the end. To help you think this through, I want to talk about the phrase, Live, Laugh and Love. Haven’t we all seen that on a card, tattoo, signage in a person’s home or keychain?

I challenge you to do three things:

LIVE a better, happier, substantial life. One in which you do the things you want to do, including sometimes things you don’t want to do. Do things NOW, patience is subjective and situational…Everything worth doing doesn’t have a calendar date but may have an expiration date so do it now and wait later. I really kinda like that last statement… “Do IT now and WAIT later.”

Laugh at yourself all day and every day. You should be the funniest person you have ever met in your life, when someone else laughs at you, laugh with them, watch comedies, remain light hearted and do not allow the weight of the world to eclipse the beauty of Laughter. If you know someone who is funnier than you, then dammit follow that person on twitter or instagram read their blog but whatever you do, LAUGH.

Love EVERYTHING, your enemy, your ex, your boss, gardens and rival sports teams. Love your family, pets, neighbors; even angry people on the road. Love long lines and traffic, dirty one dollar bills, allergies and mythical creatures that visit you in the night to talk about politics….(too much?) ok, let’s bring it back. LOVE everything because in everything is love or the potential for and/or to love. I don’t mean love like in the notebook (you must watch this movie) but love as an appreciation for the wonder that brought us here as a people and what makes this world go round. This earth, and all of us, will not be here forever. Play till the last second and love each success and defeat. Because when the game is over kids, it doesn’t matter what your win and loss percentage is…I promise you that. What matters is that you showed up prepared to play and had to courage to play (in case I lost you Playing means to LOVE).

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To simplify the above I received this passage below from a person close to me and it spawned this blog post so I thought I would add it at the bottom for you to enjoy. Take in the message from the above and below and let me know if you think differently? Which side of you do you feed and Why? Are you the best version of yourself? If not then let’s get you there through Living, Laughing and PLAYING (I mean LOVING)

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An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life.

“A fight is going on inside me,” he told the young boy, “a terrible fight between two wolves. One is evil, full of anger, sorrow, regret, greed, self-pity and false pride. The other is good, full of joy, peace, love, humility, kindness and faith.”

“This same fight is going on inside of you, grandson…and inside of every other person on this earth.”

The grandson ponders this for a moment and then asks, “Grandfather, which wolf will win?”

The old man smiled and simply said,

“The one you feed.”

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Inner Playlist of a Dj

The acronym Dj (Disc Jockey) is synonymous with fun, energetic, cool..the list goes on 😉 Most Djs are actually pretty socially awkward individuals who use the manipulation of tracks to speak/entertain the masses. In my case, Djing is a way for me to move the masses while engaging in my own level of enjoyment. Today my thoughts take me through an internal playlist of steps during an event or club night. Every Dj is different, this is just my take on this topic!

First it is important to know that I am crazy nervous each and every time I spin records or emcee an event. To think that as soon as I speak I will have everyone’s undivided attention is a little overwhelming and daunting. There are many ways to get through this but, if you know me at all, then you know that I just DO IT. No time to stress and waste time. It’s time to facilitate, organize and entertain so I do what I’m paid and trusted to do and get out there.

My second thought is who is in the room? Who are my ringers? Ringers are the ones at the party who get the party going for you as soon as you play a top 40 track! Lol. Ringers are good and you need/want them around as they are unpaid interns of entertainment! Ha. Ringers are usually a bridesmaid or relative of the guest of honor or the “class clown” of an organization/company. You don’t have to find the ringer they will find you during cocktail hour and usually ask for the most popular song to be played in the first 10 mins of the event. #Really? Ringers don’t and won’t have to be intoxicated to work either; they are self-sufficient and completely autonomous. Never overlook the Ringers as they can be your guide to many more events and will act as PR experts telling everyone how great you are. Work smarter – not harder.

Now the opposite of the ringers are the Djs sans portfolio! Now these individuals are and can be a nightmare so please, if you have a friend who does this, or better yet, if you are this person: STOP THEM OR STOP YOURSELF! These amazing life forms will usually be sneaking behind the Dj booth, looking over your shoulder, trying to see what your playing and what’s coming up next. If you’re not escorting them out from behind the Dj booth they are in your face asking you to play today’s “hottest music” (as if you didn’t know any better) or worse, they want you to play the bonus track to Elvis’ hidden album on repeat and swear that it will get EVERYONE dancing. Meanwhile, if they did a 180 they would see that the dance-floor is about 90% in full effect at the exact time they want to hear the never ending story theme song! C’Mon people! As if this wasn’t bad enough they are notorious for NOT DANCING and MEAN MUGGING you ALL NIGHT while you PURPOSELY DON’T/WON’T play their song. Sorry I laughed out loud on that one.

These two particular groups are the ones you want to look out for and be mindful of. Aside from them you want to play the best music for your crowd while providing the best amount of interaction. Our job is to inspire and remind our audiences of the fun they can be immersed into by the selection of songs played in particular order.

The goal is to forget what’s going on outside and focus on what’s going on inside. Music is easily the remedy to most mental frustrations and I’m proud and honored to be able to bring together strangers in a night club or share in the celebrations of families at a wedding or honor the Bar or Bat Mitzvah man/woman on their journey to adulthood. Proms are no different; playing hits of the last 10 years while students reminisce on the last four years of their lives and look towards new horizons. Playing that song you forgot about or dancing with that one person who hasn’t danced in years or watching a young one know the words to both a Rihanna song and a Michael Jackson song, seeing ties come off and heels removed (wait wait wait I got a little ahead of myself, heels should always stay on… #KLASSY) but you get the point.

This is what I do and this is the internal playlist of steps Boston’s Kupah James of Klass Universal Entertainment. Should I have the pleasure of entertaining your next party of if I have already had the honor of performing for you in the past, I love what I do and I do what I love. I’m extremely lucky to know and believe this. I plan on providing the Klassiest entertainment this country has ever seen and raising the bar for the next decade of Klassmates. Keep an eye out for Shadi, Bobby, Lindsay, Rachel, Kazz, Hectik, Case, Matty, Evan, J Diaz and more. We are changing the way private parties are played through Klassifying each one of our events and bringing them to the next level!

 

#MakeMoves! So, let’s hear it: Which are you?! Ringer or “Dj”?

Parents Just Don’t Understand

This week is for Young Adults (kids) and my Big Kids (Adults) so share with anyone whom fits into either of these two categories. Still with me? Good.

Parents and their children are notoriously getting into arguments which, at the end of each encounter, leave both parties feeling a little defeated. I have had my fair share of ups and downs with my own parents (mother) and even if I feel right in my argument, I still feel like a sack of potatoes shortly thereafter. There’s just something about the connection with parents that does that to you.

Per usual I was talking to one of my closest friends about parents and parenting and, while I don’t have any children of my own, please allow me to shed light on what I think happens between Adults and their respective Youths.

As a youth we are taught to mind adults simply because they are adults; no questions asked. We are taught to be honest, share, pay attention, be polite, wear our seat belts, obey rules and laws, believe in the Easter Bunny, leave fallen teeth out for an imaginary woman with wings who will somehow get into my locked fortress of slumber only to sneak into the space between my drooling face, pillow and mattress to take out the fallen tooth and replace it with a dollar bill of which is most likely bigger and heavier than she is which makes me wonder where she keeps all of these $1 bills in the first place? Sighhhhhhhh.

My point is that we look up to our parents while we are young and I think there may be some gaps in between. Now we’re left with how to bridge this transition from childhood to adulthood and what happens when children are no longer children.

I want to note that I still look up to my mother and lots of parents for the sacrifices and commitments they have made to their children. But, parents no longer are in a position to hold you accountable for table etiquette and convince you of imaginary characters. So because the teaching (for the most part) is done parents can feel left in the dust by their children.

Youth will be always be ahead of Adults in regards to technology, language, slang, fashion and modern day trends because that’s new and evolving daily and the youth, who have NO responsibilities can keep up with the changes daily unlike the adults who are still sitting in traffic trying to reach DD or Starbucks before the morning meeting at 9am sharp.

Conversations now sound like this “(Insert your name here) you have all the time in the world for your friends but never anytime for you family”, “You should be careful with the guy/girl because I heard a story in Texas of a guy who did blah or a girl who tried to blahhhhhh” Or my personal favorite “Kupah you should slow down, you try to do too much and maybe if you showed some patience….Blahhhhh” catch my drift?

What I think parents need to understand is that while the child should never take the role of parent, parenting needs to evolve even if nothing else around them doesn’t. Parents need to trust the investment of time they put into their children to make good, smart decisions, and hang with the right crowd and get enough sleep.

I am 30 years old graduated top of my undergraduate class with two bachelors degrees, worked for the state for 7yrs, created and operate a 6 figure company, teach fitness, I’ve been in magazines and billboards and my mother will still say to me “watch out” and “be careful” or “I do too much” Did I miss something?

I understand that parents never stop feeling like parents and from the bottom of my heart I hope mine never stops. But I am suggesting that all parents evolve in their relationship with their youth. Evolve into a role of counsel and support; children will reach out for advice and support when it’s wanted and really needed.

In a lighter sense, you can evolve with the times through your Youth and learn some things from them in turn. One suggestion: Youth get their information from smartphones, social media and conversations with friends. Adults get it from the tainted, spun, biased news…. Stop watching the news and get outside with your youth. Facebook and Twitter are not the enemy, Fox 25 news is! Lol. Learn to text and snap chat, tweet and email, Skype or FaceTime back and forth, use an app, you might learn something and have something new to relate to and discuss with your Youth!

There’s plenty of love out there and we all have it inside of each and everyone of us. We just need to open up and MakeMoves…. Until next time!

The Day that Einstein Feared

I don’t want to get on a soapbox about the following, I think it speaks for itself. But, it’s something I do feel strongly about and think it so crazy. It was only a few short years ago (or so it seems LOL) that people were only just starting to get cell phones.

The day that Albert Einstein most feared may have finally arrived..

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A day at the beach.

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Having dinner out with your friends.

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Out on an intimate date.

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Having a conversation with your BFF  

BFF is “Best Friends Forever”

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A visit to the museum

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Enjoying the sights

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It’s hereClick Me!

Communication people! Interface – for real! Share a laugh so someone SEES you laugh out loud, take in the sights while you still have that luxury, spend time with your best friends, put the phone AWAY or OFF on a date.

 

I’m NOT suggesting  a war with technology, merely highlighting the experiences being missed that are happening right in front of you. I know that even I am guilty of sitting down at a table with friends at times and checking my phone for what is supposed to be a routine check to see if i have missed any notifications and I find myself clicking on a link then tweeting, making sure it posted to Facebook then seeing who retweeted it only to miss the whole introduction provided by the server and now I don’t know what the specials are? Not Making Moves…

 

I realize that we cannot stop the movement. Cell Phones and social media have already staked their claim on how we interact today and in the future to come. However allow me to offer a few suggestions on integrating them in a better way.

 

Instead of attempting to 86 cell phones lets make them part of the conversation. Let’s include the content at our fingertips as a way to spark convos or laughs. By bringing the cell phone into the convo rather ignoring your audience to stalk someone’s instagram, we are already off to a better start.

 

Between ECard, Meme’s, Rotten ECards and N*** Be Like and B**** Be Like there is a wealth of things to get the laughs going at a table and sharing them in person is even better than using group texting and other forms of mass sharing. Or if you are the serious types who yearn for CNN or Sportcenter, use those apps to converse over why we lost Welker and why people should be afraid that North Korea has 6 missile pointed in our direction for “TESTING” Um… We tend to not react very well to threats or imminent violence. Check the history books.

Another suggestion is to use the phones in a timely manner. Such as everyone checking their phones at the same time making appropriate responses, retweeting, stalking, liking and following, then the phones go back in a purse or anywhere that doesn’t disengage the user from the party. I have already begun doing this with myself and my friends. It comes off as rude at first but if you explain to people what you’re trying to accomplish, I feel that most would adopt the thought process behind what I’m saying here.

 

I am a communicator, if you know me you know that I talk and talk and talk and talk. To some that is not cool but to most it’s perfectly fine because I need to be interactive with people that I am around. It is not to hear myself speak! In fact it because I actually value your presence and self enough to engage in a conversation with you about whatever there is to be talked about. However, ladies and homegirls…. I am not your sister, gay best friend or mom so please spare me the conversations about how the clouds reminded you of the Olympic rings and then you thought about rings and what kind of ring you would want for your wedding which lead you to the rings under your eyes and how you need more concealer to cover it up…(large inhale)… I’m gonna pass on that fun piece of information. Thanks. You know who I’m talking to : )

 

Anyway in closing I just want to emphasize how important it is to interact and communicate with those around you AND those not around you (FB, TWITTER, INSTAGRAM etc). Never forget that people did many a great things before these services and I think that it would be a very sad thing when kids don’t know how to introduce themselves or ask a question… Think about it. Where do you fit in this time of Cell Phones, Kindles and Computers?

 

Live this life, enjoy this life and appreciate it. #MakeMoves.

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Subject for Debate

A friend of mine is reading a book and sent me this passage over the weekend. She thought it would be an interesting conversation topic for me LOL!

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“Our entire society’s based on discontent: people wanting more and more and more, being constantly dissatisfied with their homes, their bodies, their decor, their clothes, everything. Taking it for granted that that’s the whole point of life, never to be satisfied. If you’re perfectly happy with what you’ve got—specially if what you’ve got isn’t even all that spectacular—then you’re dangerous. You’re breaking all the rules, you’re undermining the sacred economy, you’re challenging every assumption that society’s built on………..

Throughout history—even a hundred years ago, even fifty—it was discontent that was considered the threat to society, the defiance of natural law, the danger that had to be exterminated at all costs. Now it’s contentment. What a strange reversal.”

French, Tana (2008-07-17). The Likeness: A Novel (p. 165). Penguin Group. Kindle Edition.

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I think there are many things to be said on this subject. It’s a great subject for debate and I think it’s a matter of what you do with the choices you make. If you’re happy with what you have and you’re content, but what you have are the things you truly wanted, not just settling for not making an attempt at your dreams, then I think that can be more than enough for someone.

It’s true that society is based on discontent in the more shallow dissatisfactions described above, but also on deeper levels. I believe it comes down to wanting to live and feel your life. Reaching, changing, trying on new ideas, careers and experiences in search for that meaning and feeling of fulfillment. Maybe it’s something that’s never attainable and that’s the journey that your life is, or maybe it is and either some people find it and it just doesn’t look the same as mine would.

I definitely want more. More businesses, more fun, more money, more success, more clients, more travel, more homes, more people to share this with: more. And I make no apologies for that. It gives me fire, it makes me who I am.

The second part, about how this principle has changed throughout history I just find interesting! That’s so true! I don’t even know what to say – it speaks so much for itself. That is history in its finest form, that’s the anthropology and the evolution of humankind. Done and done.

I personally don’t fear contentment; I guess I kind of feel sorry for it #NoFilter. Again, I do think it works, if you find what you really wanted along. If all you really wanted was a happy relationship with a secure home and 2 vacations a year to places you’ve always wanted to see. And, that happens, then I support that. If you look around and tell yourself you can’t do this or that’s not realistic and just accept that defeat, I don’t.

Please share your thoughts and opinions!

How do you challenge yourself to #MakeMoves?

How do you challenge yourself? I write a lot about #MakeMoves and how I strive everyday to accomplish as much as i can and live as much as possible. But, how do I do that everyDAY? How do you?

I have days like everyone else when I don’t want to leave my place and I just want to watch movies or play a game and ignore my phone. And, I definitely take time to do those things, but usually it will be a part of my day, not my entire day. So I don’t call them bad days I have unpleasant “Moments” lol these moment are part of life and I take them and do my best to find the good in every moment. Usually just by trying a little harder those moments become motivators and I continue on a better, happier, healthier path.

I focus on my goals. My goals exist for a reason, they’re things I WANT and ENJOY. This is motivation enough for me. I am very disciplined when it comes to reaching my goals, because my goals are pretty dope as it is! There are times when others will attempt to change my focus and provide unsolicited advice. It may sound a little harsh but I would implore you to not listen to these individuals. Yes, it is in a good nature that they are trying to help. But most cases people never fully understand all the variables and factors going into every/any situation therefore they advice, opinions and thoughts are off by default. It is no fault of theirs and if you tell them then for sure they will be insulted so stay focused on the goals and for goodness sake trust yourself. If you got yourself to Monday and Tuesday then there’s no reason why you can’t make through Wednesday and Thursday, Friday and the weekend will take care of itself. Lol.

I remind myself of how great it feels. It feels pretty amazing to look at what I’ve done in a day and FALL into bed with NO regrets. People want to know why I smile so much.. I’ve made moves all day and created my own happiness what?! It feels great to get new events, meet with new event planners, new clients, new equipment and at the end of the day it feels great doing what I love and even better people love WHAT I DO! So remind yourself of how great it feels to do something good for another or yourself. DO IT!

I know I only have me to blame. This sounds negative but stick with me. I’ve built my circumstances and I’m my own boss, if I stop and fail it’s on me. I not only let down myself but I let down those that support me and believe in me. It’s a big responsibility and enough to keep me moving. There are no excuses in the world of Entrepreneurship and I won’t make any. I come off harsh at time to those I care about and I can only hope they understand the pressure I am under to answer every question when it reaches my desk. I don’t think many understand and I don’t need you to. But My role is a role I welcome gladly, the good/perks and the whole bag that comes with it.

I want to be the change. How can I tell other people to #MakeMoves and to expect more of others, if I slack myself? Let’s face it, I talk about this all day long and I’m not about to be a hypocrite. Lead by example. I didn’t make it up but I remember that phrase in my head all day everyday. But know that if I get my job done you better get yours done as well. Accept responsibility for all not just the rewards.

 

When it’s hard, I try harder. If I am walking into undiscovered territory, I’m nervous (it DOES happen,) or maybe I’m not feeling 100% I just push forward. I usually end up meeting someone new, LEARNING something new, having a blast or challenging myself physically or mentally. People want to believe in other people so give them something to believe in. If you sound like your knees are trembling then that will show and then your message will get lost in the fray, but if you stand tall and look people in the eyes (STRUT) then with everything you got… Fake it till you make it! It works trust me (wink, wink.) You think I woke up one day and said “Oh, I wanna host events of the highest regard with celebrities and fancy venues, mitvahs and weddings at the State Room?” Haha. Not a chance… I faked it and made it. Period.

You might say, that all sounds great, but is it really a big deal to just say screw it once in awhile? No, it’s not a big deal. But, it’s a choice and it leads to other choices. Giving yourself a reason to dial it in is giving yourself a reason to sell yourself short. No debating about it. Still not convinced? Let’s try this, next time you want to take a “Day Off” think about some man or woman somewhere who isn’t and how much they are accomplishing in those hours you wanted to CHILL. Then, and only then if you still feel like your “Day Off” is justified then go nuts. But if you’re, like me or people that I MakeMoves with, then your picking up what I’m putting down.

How many of those days are enough days to get you off track? How many of those days are days that could have brought you that much closer to something? And honestly, how many of those days do you feel as good about yourself and energized in comparison with the days when you #MakeMoves?
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What are your motivators?

How do you challenge yourself?