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“The Secret of Happiness” on my 30th Birthday

Good Morning – Today is my 30th Birthday! #KJ’s30 !

I don’t normally pay much attention to my birthdays, but I’ve been looking forward to this one. Not for a celebration or anything like that, but because this feels like a milestone for me.

I live my life happy, smiling, moving and with friends & family. I have a good life, but I have some big goals and opportunities ahead of me. For today’s blog, I wanted to share a story from the book ‘The Alchemist’ by Paulo Coelho entitled, “the Secret of Happiness.” I’d love to hear how you all interpret it and what you can take away from it. For me, it’s inspiring and gives focus looking ahead at this next chapter of my life.

‘The Secret of Happiness:’

“A merchant sent his son to learn the Secret of Happiness from the wisest of men. The young man wandered through the desert for forty days until he reached a beautiful castle at the top of a mountain. There lived the sage that the young man was looking for.

However, instead of finding a holy man, our hero entered a room and saw a great deal of activity; merchants coming and going, people chatting in the corners, a small orchestra playing sweet melodies, and there was a table laden with the most delectable dishes of that part of the world.

The wise man talked to everybody, and the young man had to wait for two hours until it was time for his audience.

With considerable patience, the Sage listened attentively to the reason for the boy’s visit, but told him that at that moment he did not have the time to explain to him the Secret of Happiness.

He suggested that the young man take a stroll around his palace and come back in two hours’ time.

“However, I want to ask you a favor,” he added, handling the boy a teaspoon, in which he poured two drops of oil. “While you walk, carry this spoon and don’t let the oil spill.”

The young man began to climb up and down the palace staircases, always keeping his eyes fixed on the spoon. At the end of two hours he returned to the presence of the wise man.

“So,” asked the sage, “did you see the Persian tapestries hanging in my dining room? Did you see the garden that the Master of Gardeners took ten years to create? Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?”

Embarrassed, the young man confessed that he had seen nothing. His only concern was not to spill the drops of oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.

“So, go back and see the wonders of my world,” said the wise man. “You can’t trust a man if you don’t know his house.”

Now more at ease, the young man took the spoon and strolled again through the palace, this time paying attention to all the works of art that hung from the ceiling and walls. He saw the gardens, the mountains all around the palace, the delicacy of the flowers, the taste with which each work of art was placed in its niche. Returning to the sage, he reported in detail all that he had seen.

“But where are the two drops of oil that I entrusted to you?” asked the sage.

Looking down at the spoon, the young man realized that he had spilled the oil.

“Well, that is the only advice I have to give you,” said the sage of sages. “The Secret of Happiness lies in looking at all the wonders of the world and never forgetting the two drops of oil in the spoon.””

Chocolate Bar is Back for the Fall!

I am very excited to tell you all that Chocolate Bar is back, TOMORROW! The Chocolate Bar is featured at Cafe Fleuri in the Langham Hotel in Boston.

The Chocolate Bar is set up with a variety of stations that offer all different types of chocolate treats, desserts and food. The Langham Hotel describes it as such:

“The decadent Chocolate Bar features stations with varying levels of chocolate intensity and flavors – from white to dark and everything in between. A DJ plays hit music to set a fun, upbeat tone where families indulge in close to 200 pounds of premium chocolate each Saturday. A never-ending supply of cupcakes, truffles, brulees, bread pudding, crepes, whoopee pies and more take center stage while Executive Pastry Chef Jed Hackney creates rotating items with fresh, seasonal ingredients such as September’s lemon madeline with ivoire cremeax and strawberries, and a caramelized white chocolate torte with banana and sesame.

The DJ is yours truly 😉 They also serve chocolate based cocktails that can be included as a part of the package price. I look forward to the Chocolate Bar every year because it is so much fun (and we all know how much I love to have my fun!) Everyone enjoys it, the location is beautiful and you have awesome views of the city. The food options are always changed up a bit, like they mentioned in the excerpt from above, and it never disappoints.

 

If you have any friends or family visiting, bachelorette parties coming up, etc it’s a great place to bring them. It’s a unique experience and it’s in a great location to show anyone around Boston – and just in case it wasn’t clear.. it’s CHOCOLATE (who doesn’t love that?)

Until the end of next June, I will be there every Saturday from 11a – 3pm and I hope to see as many of you there as possible :)

Also, for something equally enjoyable and delicious, every Sunday at Cafe Fleuri they have their Sunday City Brunch. The best brunch option in Boston (in my humble opinion) while live jazz music is played.

If you’re looking for something to do around Boston during the day or as a visitor or for visitors – Saturday morning/afternoon at the Chocolate Bar and Sunday City Brunch. Then you can always check out Bond at night. Mentioned in this previous post; and your weekend in Boston is complete – word!

The Details:

Chocolate bar 11AM To 3pm Saturdays

$40 per person $55 with two chocolate martinis

$28 for children ages 5-12

250 franklin street boston, ma 02110

Reservation call: 617.451.1900, ext. 7125

boston.langhamhotels.com

Until next time – Subscribe, Comment, Check out the Chocolate Bar!

Keep It Real..

Why do we do what we do? Does anyone really know? I know I have no idea but I’ll tell you what I do know: When I see something I want, I go for it and I have a natural drive to want more than what is necessary. Some view that as wrong while others salute me for it. I won’t make excuses for who I am, but, allow me to shed some light on the topic.

I do what I do for both selfish reasons and for comfort. I believe that knowledge allows for the ability to create things, have ideas, keep up with trends, etc; while talent usually dictates how well you might do at a particular job/career/hobby. Drive is the other motivating factor which will usually play a very important role in your success. You see we all are going to hit speed bumps in life. That’s LIFE. But sheer will and determination coupled with knowledge and talent (a natural or practiced skill) almost always will equal success. I know that success comes in different shapes and sizes. I respect that, I just want to be able to provide to others as well as myself, and I never bought into the “this or that” mentality (meaning you can have this Kupah or that Kupah.) My thought is, and always will be, “Why can’t I have them Both?” That mentality has worked for me so far, so why change it now? 

I want to share my knowledge and experiences with young adults and help them reach their goals as I am reaching mine. I want to see people feel better about themselves and I want each person to demand excellence for themselves and to never settle. I have lost friends because of my attitude and I will lose more in the future I’m sure, but a wise man once told me, “Say what you mean and mean what you say because those that Matter Dont Mind and those who Mind, Dont Matter”…..

I challenge all of you to wake up each day with intolerance to being lazy and sad. To smile with the purpose of infecting those around you with it and in turn make you smile even bigger. Tomorrow is a new day but it doesn’t have to be the same new day. It can always be a different one. I always try to teach and preach the importance of your choices. I choose to be happy, smile and be positive in my behavior. That’s why others around me smile etc. I’m incredibly thankful for my mentality and hope to continue learning and growing as a person so that I may keep helping others while finding my own way.

I changed what could have been written for me, and I believe anyone has that power. You must commit to a new way of thinking; That is the first step to what I have found to be happiness. 

How do you make yourself happy? I would love to hear how some of you do it! Let’s share ideas and spread the wealth of knowledge!

#MakeMoves and #KeepItKlassy

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Things to be Grateful for during Summer 2012

Sup Peoples, Summer is here and I wanted to help spread some smiles and get everyone excited for it by listing the top things I’m grateful for and/looking forward to in the next few months.

1. The Sun – Hands down the most exciting part of the summer because it leads the way and opens the door for the rest of my “thankfuls”

2. Summer Schedules – Friends and friends of friends always seem to have a more flexible schedule leaving more room for fun outdoors or, simply more time with just the homies.

3. The inevitable tan that will come on the day they said it would be “overcast.” I love that when the sun ends up beaming down on your face leaving you with the “I didn’t know it was gonna be this nice out” face. Good luck with that one!

4. Food – Since I’m no stranger to food I always find that I’m interested in different foods during the summer months such as: salads, fruits, juices and other lighter foods. And of course, let’s not forget the cookouts! #YeaBuddy
5. Pools – That’s right I didn’t say water I said pools… I don’t like the ocean. I know I know. The salt kills me and I like to actually swim in water not just float and endlessly avoid waves. If you think that’s bad you won’t even get me to a beach w/o proper beach games such as Frisbee, soccer or my favorite: volleyball! Easily the most fun ever! But, if you think Kupah James is gonna sit still and read a book for three hours in the sun you would be mistaken. I may as well be watching baseball (equally as boring) s/o to Bang #NewHomie.

6. BIKINI’S, BIKINI’S, BIKINI’S, BIKINI’S, BIKINI’S, BIKINI’S! #NuffSaid

7. Frozen Drinks – Not much explanation needed other than, what is better than a Strawberry Daiquiri, Mudslide or a Piña Colada on the steamiest of days or by a pool somewhere!? And speaking of drinking how ‘bout

7a. DAY-DRINKING s/o to my Cuzo #Xavier (King of Day Drinking). You wake up, it’s your day off, you call a friend, it’s their day off too, you’re both hungry and the words “Can I start you off with something to drink”, all of the sudden sounds like having a gun to your head where it would just be wrong not to go with it, and order a freshly made alcoholic beverage. Next thing you know, you’re out of your mind hammered and it’s like 1:30pm….. #Hilarious #LTD… #LOL

8. Patios – There are so many great places with patios that I cannot list them but here are a few of my favorites: The seaport has a bunch of places, Marina Bay as well, and then there’s all of Newbury Street, North End, Back Bay (Liberty Hotel) and my favorite Monday night spot at #MiniBar.  Although if you want to check out the best new spot it would definitely be #Emerald just opened up last week and is Bomb (says Me!)

9. Family/Gatherings – Whether it’s spending time with the family during gatherings or visiting family in other locations, both can be a lot of fun! You can be catching up on activities and joking about past gatherings or sharing inside jokes only your family has (and we all have them.)Want proof? Think of the last time where you had to explain to a guest why everyone laughs hysterically whenever someone says “El Culo Cagao” after anyone blurts out “I got it”….? Exactly. If you just got lost ask a Spanish person.

10. Summer – It’s the Summer list that could go on forever but it shouldn’t be because you would be reading too much and not enjoying your Summer! We only get 3…3.5 months out of the year, so get out there and enjoy any one of these things on the list, make the most of the beautiful weather and enjoy each second because we only get one Summer a year! I hope to see each and every one of you who reads this, and please feel free to add to this list in “Comments”.

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Spring into New Beginnings

Now that Easter has passed and it’s officially Spring, I wanted to talk about something you should all make a point to try out…. Day Dating!

Day dating is usually cheaper than night dating, but can be more rewarding. Today it can be very difficult meeting someone of a similar nature with common interests and personalities. So if and when you do, a Day date may be the best route. It allows you to see the person and interact, talk, share, listen, laugh and of course ASSESS and Analyze. Trust me, as a Male I analyze with the best of them.

Day dating gives you an opportunity to COMMUNICATE! Get to KNOW the other person, get to ENJOY the other person, and get to RECONNECT with the other person. These are all really important things to achieve and maintain. Relationships aren’t always easy so you should enter them with an honest impression and understanding of each other and then, it’s equally important to keep things fresh and exciting! In other words, keep it #Authentic!

Do an activity that allows the opportunity to talk, discuss, share, eat and LAUGH. Try to ask questions that really allow you to get to know the person and see if there’s a real connection. Be honest with them and with yourself. Then, definitely go for it 😉

………Hold their hand! (What’d you think I meant?) Ha! KJ #CoSigned

If you’re already a couple, go on day dates to keeps things interesting! Don’t maintain a routine. Make a real EFFORT to try something new. To try something you DON’T want to do (you may surprise yourself.) Ask your person about a topic you don’t know about and LEARN FROM them. Tell them something THEY don’t know. Encourage each other. Give yourselves opportunities to grow!

I’d first recommend that you DON’T go to the movies. But, if going to the movies is completely your thing, switch it up. Go to a movie that you’d never see, or let them pick one, and then you pick one. You may find you’ve enjoyed something different, or you can make fun of the experience later and laugh over the idea that you actually watched them. Just talk about it afterwards and stick it between an activity and a meal before or after that allows you to COMMUNICATE! 

As always, I would LOVE to hear what you all think and any fun day date ideas you may have?!

Tour of Boston: Where were you for St. Patrick’s Day?!

St. Patrick’s Day is definitely one of the most heavily celebrated events in Boston. Could it be Southie, the Boston Celtics, Movie “The Town,”  “The Departed,” and their insane embellishment of our accents? (I digress). It seems like every year it’s all anyone is talking about and I’m constantly being asked where I’m going to be and if I celebrate.  Truth is, it’s just like any other weekend for me & #Klass. Meaning: fun, exciting and filled with music and dancing. In other words, worked a few gigs!

This year St. Patty’s Day was on a Sat, which means I was spinning at Chocolate Bar, then I made a special appearance at Red Lulu in Salem, Ma. I love the Chocolate Bar even though I don’t eat much of the chocolate. The Langham Boston Hotel is a dope spot. Right in the heart of the Financial District, the hotel is home to one of my favorite spots; BOND and Cafe Fleuri. Cafe Fleuri has the most amazing, over the top brunch w/live Jazz (perfect for the the next morning). Seriously check that out on Sundays, and Chocolate Bar on Saturdays is a great way to spend a Saturday afternoon. Who isn’t obsessed with Chocolate?!

I won’t even begin to describe how much of an adrenaline rush I had after spinning for Red Lulu on Saturday night. I don’t get behind the DJ booth too much for 2 reasons: 1) Dj Kazz and the rest of the #Klass Dj’s are far better than I, 2) It’s incredibly difficult to stay back there while everyone else is dancin’ it up. Ha! However when I do get back there, It’s a completely different type of fun for me! Red Lulu is a new sexy spot on Lafayette St. Salem, MA. The sister of Lolita in Boston and they both never fail to impress in any regard. I was able to play songs from all kinds of genres and that was easily the best part. From Peter Gabriel, to the Police, to Diddy, Maino, Rihanna, Kings of Leon I mean the list goes on. Crazy Good Time!

Both Lolita of Boston and Lulu of Salem are KJ #CoSigned! Amazing food; I’ve seriously never had anything from there that I didn’t love. Salmon Coco and Shrimp Tacos Please! O,r if you are the healthy type peep their version of the Caesar salad (Try the Croutons) & the drinks are unparalleled. They’re creative and different; every drink is muddled with fresh ingredients/fruit and the menu continues to evolve. Some of my personal favorites are the Bonita, White Lie, Gin Blossom & Diablo margarita. They’re always integrating some new seasonal drinks and menu items soon so check back for any new recommendations!

So how many of you #Bostonians DID go to the St. Patrick’s Day parade in Southie? Any good spots YOU can recommend? Please feel free to respond to this blog and yes I’m serious I want to know what you did!

Pro & Cons…

This will fa sure be part of a longer blog sometime later one but I needed to get this thought out. I have so many flaws it’s not even funny. But what makes me who I am are those flaws and I have to look at myself in the mirror everyday and remember who i answer to, and this is myself FIRST! What that means is that I am not influenced by each person opinion of my work ethic, suspenders, energy or overbearing attitude. I am who I am and while I plan to be the best Kupah James I can be each day. Please note some of my flaws will enhance and some will not. I implore anyone reading this to take the same stand. Stop letting the universe tell you what to do, what is cool, what’s trending, who to date and when to do stuff. Do what you want, when you want, how you want. Just mindful of others around you and how your behaviors will affect others. Other than that LIFE IS TOO SHORT. Live it and stop worrying about everyone else’s opinion. Live YOUR Life and be happy with who you are. That’s what I think anyway… More to come… Until Next Time…

Boston’s Sexiest…

Well if I was looking for a reason/excuse to blog this would be it. Recently featured in the April Edition of Boston’s Sexiest Entrepreneurs I find myself flattered and humbled at the same time. For the last 12 years I have had one focus and that focus has been to make a living for myself, provide for others and live a balanced life. What that means is different for each individual and for me well…

28 years of age I am Kupah James and I currently run, own and operate Kupah James Inc. An umbrella corp for multiple small businesses. KlassUniversalEnt, Urban Kinetiks and “Koreography of Life” to name of few, each one of these entity’s would give anyone a good idea of what I’m about. A true kid at heart who loves to play and hang with my friends and loved ones, I was faced with adversity, poverty, racism and other debilitating factors early. All I remember thinking growing up was “How come I can’t have that?” This phrase amongst others lives with me still and is my motivation to get up each and every day and prevent myself from ever having to relive those moments.

Now I write to those willing to listen and share my stories about what I did to get where I’m at and what I will continue to do to get where I’m going. It isn’t easy, it isn’t always fun, it comes with a price and the sacrifices are plenty. You have to keep yourself focused, driven, humbled and confident in your abilities. Trust yourself and those you surround yourself with. Keep your head up, most importantly welcome the challenge you have just set for yourself and find comfort in the fact that while others will cave, break and lose where you will stand strong, remain resilient and succeed.

“I’m about whatever man” Drake Song Titled “Up All Night”

Your Boi.