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MakeMoves: Post Roundup

I thought it might be cool to do a “roundup” post to make it easier to find certain types of posts. Today, I’m linking all of my Make Moves posts to really take all the work out of it for you 😉

MakeMoves – Straight to the point. Droppin knowledge. #MakeMoves.

How Do You Challenge Yourself to #MakeMoves? How do you challenge yourself? I write a lot about #MakeMoves and how I strive everyday to accomplish as much as i can and live as much as possible. But, how do I do that everyDAY? How do you?

Live, Laugh, Love – Looking to Summer 2013  A post to get the Summer started on the right track. But, useful for any time of year.

How to Start Making Moves with a TED Talk TED is a nonprofit devoted to Ideas Worth Spreading. There are a series of “talks” which are videos of speakers on the widest range of topics and each talk ranges from 3 min to 20 min. Let this one motivate you!

New Strategies for Every Excuse – I’m constantly reflecting on ways to make the most out of my day, my life, my company and I think the biggest thing I run into when I discuss #MakingMoves with others is that they don’t know how to start or where to start.

For some other reading/watching check out:

Steve Jobs: How to live before you die TED Talk 

Malcolm Gladwell: The unheard story of David and Goliath TED Talk (also new book of the same name out in stores)

The 25 Commandments of Self-Improvement from ThoughtCatalog

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As always let me know what YOU think!?!?!

Coming of Age

As I read through past blogs and notes, random thoughts and feelings I often wonder where I’m gonna end up. What’s at the end of my rainbow (or journey to sound more masculine 😉 ?) Am I gonna reach my full potential? Will I find a woman that takes my breath away like in the movies,) will I inspire thousands by teaching them to dance in Street Feet or to MakeMoves? Will I have a family of little Kupahs running about gnawing at my ankles? Who knows?!

What I have learned in my 30 year tenure is that no matter what I think I know… Two years pass and I realize all of the things I DIDN’T KNOW. Looking back: 20-22 clueless, 23-26 moron and & 28-30 infant! What’s exciting about this is that I’m always learning new things that allow me to take a step back and recognize my own growth. We are all today’s sum of past variables; and it’s important to remember that when making present decisions for tomorrow…

This thought came to me just about a year ago and I have been developing this for some time now.

The platform: First, you have to acknowledge the fact that you know more now/today than you did yesterday. Seems obvious right? Well take a second and think about how many times you have dated the same idiot, ate the same unhealthy thing, or landed yourself in the same financial stress after swearing you would never do THAT again? Well there you go.

The idea: To have a conversation with yourself today, from tomorrow’s you. You wanna read that through again? No problem! Try to think about what a Tomorrow’s version of you would say to a Today’s version of you. Take that advice and live it today for a better tomorrow. Don’t worry I’m gonna give examples.

Typically the worries of youth are whims of the old. What this means is that worldly problems of the inexperienced aren’t usually viewed the same by the mature. Just think of what it would be like if you told you what to do. Helping you steer clear of that girl/guy, take that job, buy that dress, pay that ticket, see that movie, or take that trip. There are some serious things too like, take on that mortgage, move to that place, see family more, invest in stocks (this I do NOT DO), or plan for your retirement instead of Foxwoods! These are some ideas and things I introduce to you from my mind and experience to yours.

I encourage you to take this trip and have this conversation with yourself. Challenge your own thinking and educate yourself from within. See what happens and let me know what things you have taught yourself, FROM YOURSELF!

Hope to hear some of those thoughts! #MAKEmoves

 

Kupah James 101: Handling Critics

In this world you have many different types of people: People with different personalities, views, thoughts and motivators. These people do not always get along and the reasons for this are as complicated as the variety of personalities that are out there.

Most of you that read my blog have hopefully, at some point, been moved, inspired and maybe even learned something new and exciting about yourself? That is the sole purpose of my blog and I’m so thankful to read some of your responses and comments via, text, email etc. because you are all making moves you are engaging yourselves into a new way of thinking and gaining momentum in a positive direction. Taking my thoughts to another level and making them your own actions is such an amazing feeling and iI’m encouraged to keep the positivity flowing while we spread this movement forward.

As you continue to grow and enhance your own lifestyle or work ethic you may notice that others around you will not always share in your new excitement. Confusion might strike as to why you are different “all of the sudden.” For example, if you radically change jobs for which you are required to be up earlier than normal, some friends will protest your new curfew and pressure you to stay with what’s “normal.” Or if you find yourself in a new relationship and can’t play with the homies everyday, there may be some tension towards the new boyfriend or girlfriend because of your absences.

I’m going to over generalize these groups of individuals as “Critics.” Critics are a person or persons who are not willing to grow WITH you, alongside you. Instead they could become jealous of your new direction, confused by your new behavior and take it as a personal insult. You might hear things like “You’ve been different since” or “All of the sudden you’re” maybe even “what happened to the old you.”

These are hurtful things to say to a person you care about and what you must understand is that they (critics) could be saying and doing these things from their own emotional place. They are feeling left out of your new direction and possible growth and don’t fully know how to express themselves. It’s unfortunate for you to have to take on more responsibility but you are going to have to attempt to comfort them.

  1. Remind them how much they mean to you.
  2. Communicate what you have been doing and how you are only trying to better yourself as a person to be a better friend, employee, son, daughter, etc.
  3. Sometimes just a sit down and an explanation might be all that’s necessary to untangle the thoughts that have spawned due to all the new activity.

I also want to make sure you know that it is absolutely imperative that you continue on the road you are on and you don’t go back to where you were. People will sometimes say “You forgot where you came from” and that should hurt. I personally have heard it from some of my closest friends and it stays with me and hurts everyday. But it’s not that I forget where I came from rather it’s I know what I’m worth and where I’m headed and pursuing that is the point of life: To move, grow, evolve, enhance, change, develop, inquire, build, format, lose, gain, eat, run, play, sleep, love and #MakeMoves.

I remember where I’m from every single day of my life. It’s what inspires me to move forward and get up and not quit and not take long breaks and not ever be satisfied. We live in a world where we can change our own stars and I don’t know about you but, I have already changed mine and I will not be denied my future because of Critics in my present who never understood my past.

Be aware of how changes in your life impact those around you and then address it (see 1-3 above.) Then, stay the course and trust yourself.

Thanks for reading the blog and following my thoughts. How do you handle critics? Any other ways you can think of?

His, Hers and the Truth

Ok here’s the scenario: a friend calls and tells you that his “Psycho Girlfriend” just did something psycho and he’s confused and doesn’t know what to do. He’s freaking out and all over the place trying to make a decision; Does he leave her, how to fix it, how could she be so crazy? All the while I’m sitting on the other end waiting for a pause… Once I hear it, I ask, “well what did you do?”

Now here’s where you have to pay attention. Am I A) Automatically blaming him for her actions, B) Not trusting him to tell me the truth, C) Secretly happy for his distress LOL ( #JuSayin people like that exist), or D) I want to hear more of this amazing story that just stopped me from MakingMoves to play counselor?

Well the answer is NONE OF THE ABOVE. I am asking because I believe in a few things, as you have come to realize through my blog, and one notion which I would like to share with you today is this: His, Hers & the Truth. Completely makes sense when you think about it.

So let’s break this down. People, when experiencing most things in life, view them through a skewed perspective (not surprising and not wrong either): their own. For example, a gentleman opening the door for an older lady can be viewed by one patron as a very nice young man who’s civil, kind, polite… While another patron, witnessing the very same thing, could think that he just opened the door to look good for the older lady’s younger attractive relative or friend who’s walking right behind them… See! Now even I don’t know what the TRUTH is, I’m merely establishing the fact that it is very easy to look at the same situation through completely different lenses.

When a person tells you a story I think you would be simple minded to just accept it at face value. If you think it’s rude to make such a judgmental statement please think of the closest people to you and identify the following: the negative Nancy, the drug addict, the drama queen, the over achiever, the leader, the follower, the successful one and so on. I promise you that each one of these individuals has their own set of beliefs and sees the world differently, so if your closest friends can have their own agendas, why wouldn’t a friend or, even better, a stranger?

What I am proposing here is taking a second to “Consider the Source” and remember that there is always His version of the truth, Her version of the truth and of THE TRUTH (which I have come to find is usually a combination of both over exaggerated stories.)

So the next time you get that 911 phone call, or hear a complete stranger tell you the facts of life, or hear about the newest non-sense. Consider the Source and always ask… is this His, Hers or the TRUTH.

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