Tag Archives: Happiness

Spring into New Beginnings

Now that Easter has passed and it’s officially Spring, I wanted to talk about something you should all make a point to try out…. Day Dating!

Day dating is usually cheaper than night dating, but can be more rewarding. Today it can be very difficult meeting someone of a similar nature with common interests and personalities. So if and when you do, a Day date may be the best route. It allows you to see the person and interact, talk, share, listen, laugh and of course ASSESS and Analyze. Trust me, as a Male I analyze with the best of them.

Day dating gives you an opportunity to COMMUNICATE! Get to KNOW the other person, get to ENJOY the other person, and get to RECONNECT with the other person. These are all really important things to achieve and maintain. Relationships aren’t always easy so you should enter them with an honest impression and understanding of each other and then, it’s equally important to keep things fresh and exciting! In other words, keep it #Authentic!

Do an activity that allows the opportunity to talk, discuss, share, eat and LAUGH. Try to ask questions that really allow you to get to know the person and see if there’s a real connection. Be honest with them and with yourself. Then, definitely go for it 😉

………Hold their hand! (What’d you think I meant?) Ha! KJ #CoSigned

If you’re already a couple, go on day dates to keeps things interesting! Don’t maintain a routine. Make a real EFFORT to try something new. To try something you DON’T want to do (you may surprise yourself.) Ask your person about a topic you don’t know about and LEARN FROM them. Tell them something THEY don’t know. Encourage each other. Give yourselves opportunities to grow!

I’d first recommend that you DON’T go to the movies. But, if going to the movies is completely your thing, switch it up. Go to a movie that you’d never see, or let them pick one, and then you pick one. You may find you’ve enjoyed something different, or you can make fun of the experience later and laugh over the idea that you actually watched them. Just talk about it afterwards and stick it between an activity and a meal before or after that allows you to COMMUNICATE! 

As always, I would LOVE to hear what you all think and any fun day date ideas you may have?!

#KupahJames Recap from the Past Month

On looking back at the past month I realize how much FUN I’ve had! It can be crazy running a business and it can be exciting and creative and challenging and #motivating and (yes this could be about 10 blogs! So, I digress HA!) But, I’ve really been having a BLAST and trying out a lot of new or different things and looking at life in different and fun ways! SO I thought I’d share some of that and give you all a look into this past month at things you may not normally hear about from me!
 
In the past month:
 
My Favorite:
-Movie: The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo
-Song: Somebody that I used to know by Gotye f/Kimbra
-Creative Talent: “Walking Off the Earth”
-Venue: The New Revere Hotel
-New Grown & Sexy Spot: Minibar on Monday’s “Unplugged”
-New Equipment: Beats by Dre Pro headphones and IPAD 3! Phenomenal
-New EXPERIENCE: HONEY WHISKEY!!! What?! TRUE FAN FOR LIFE
 
Funniest Moment: A new friend wore my Jordan Concords at Bond on Sat night (They were more comfortable than her heels.)
 
New Thing I Learned: That my fire is not everyone elses and I’m trying to learn how to deal with that concept. #NotEZ
 
New Thing I Got Into or, I am Interested in: I’m in interested in a new book I put down months ago but recently picked back up. Emotional Intelligence #YES
 
New Challenge (We all face ’em!): My Challenge is my gift; that is to assist in spreading the contagion of smiling and laughter to everyone that I come in contact with.
 
Best Moment: Easy! Having a conversation with a complete stranger recently. Which was also the best part of that night. Expect the UnExpected… 😉
 
Sidenote from the Past Month: Had the most mature argument with a Close Friend and nobody stormed off or got offended! Can you believe it? Both of us were objective and stayed on task to come to an understanding about our differences of opinion. Both of us listened to the other, both were open minded to other possibilities, and both are even closer now because of it! I think it’s because both of us entered into it with NO EGO. 
 
-TIP for the next time you get in an argument: try to lose the ego and understand that someone you care about is not attacking you, nor are they attempting to insult you by expressing a thought, or a concern. Perhaps w/o the ego one might be able to see the real issue and begin to efficiently solve the problem. #JuSayn
 
As always, I’d love to hear what new or fun things YOU all have been up to or experienced lately!! #Share
 
 
 

Something worth HEARING

Happy Hump {giggity}  Day Everybody (I guess that’s what they call it?) Here’s a little something different I wanted to share that is 100% KJ #CoSigned:

“FROG”
Once upon a time there was a bunch of tiny frogs who arranged a running competition.

The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower.

A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants.

The race began….

Honestly, no one in the crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower.

You could hear statements such as:

“Oh, WAY too difficult!!”
“They will NEVER make it to the top.”
or:
“Not a chance that they will succeed. The tower is too high!”

One by one, the tiny frogs began collapsing.

Except for those, who in a fresh tempo, were climbing higher and higher.

The crowd continued to yell, “It is too difficult! No one will make it!”

More tiny frogs got tired and gave up.

But ONE continued higher and higher and higher….

This one wouldn’t give up!

At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog that, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top!

All of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?

A contestant asked the tiny frog how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal.

It turned out….

That the winner was DEAF!

The wisdom of this story is:
Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be negative or pessimistic because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you.

Always think of the power words have.

Because everything you hear and read will affect your actions!

Therefore:
ALWAYS be….POSITIVE!

And above all:

Be DEAF when people tell YOU that you cannot fulfill your dreams!
-Anonymous

This topic has been coming up a lot lately in my life. It’s classic #KupahJames101! The only thing I want to add is that there isn’t only power in what you hear or what you read; but also in what you say. Believe in yourselves and don’t let negativity affect you, and be sure to #MakeMoves and share that positivity with and towards others too! #StayKlassy and #LiveYOURDreams

Pro & Cons…

This will fa sure be part of a longer blog sometime later one but I needed to get this thought out. I have so many flaws it’s not even funny. But what makes me who I am are those flaws and I have to look at myself in the mirror everyday and remember who i answer to, and this is myself FIRST! What that means is that I am not influenced by each person opinion of my work ethic, suspenders, energy or overbearing attitude. I am who I am and while I plan to be the best Kupah James I can be each day. Please note some of my flaws will enhance and some will not. I implore anyone reading this to take the same stand. Stop letting the universe tell you what to do, what is cool, what’s trending, who to date and when to do stuff. Do what you want, when you want, how you want. Just mindful of others around you and how your behaviors will affect others. Other than that LIFE IS TOO SHORT. Live it and stop worrying about everyone else’s opinion. Live YOUR Life and be happy with who you are. That’s what I think anyway… More to come… Until Next Time…