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The thing that I feel the most lucky and thankful for is my family and friends. But, a close second is that I get to wake up and love every second of what I do for work every day!

It’s easy to follow society’s plan, It goes something like this..

  1. Schooling
  2. Secondary Schooling
  3. Job/Career
  4. Find a Mate/Partner
  5. Co-Habitate
  6. Pets
  7. Pro-Create
  8. Save money
  9. Raise Family
  10. Retire
  11. Eventually punch the ticket..

While all of that sounds great it also sound a little cookie cutter and boring to the opportunistic mind of me and others like me. There are so many things each person should attempt to experience but in order to experience different is to explore different, think different, believe different and want different.

I believe I am different and therefore I behave differently resulting in a different sort of life experience for me. I am both happy and nervous by this state of being but that’s the point. Being nervous isn’t something society says is ok. We are supposed to make comfortable, calculated decisions for everything, REALLY? Nah! I say NAY!

I say make safe decisions and risky decisions combined. Put yourself in a situation to live differently than everyone else. Does that mean go out and buy a Lamborghini? Well maybe but that’s not my point. My point is to try things outside your comfort zone and you just might make your comfort zone a bit bigger.

Make a list of things you would like to try but never have and how you could try them safely. Then implement that list and try one at a time, see if anything changes?

Let me know what your list looks like!

“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.”

~ C. JoyBell C.

 

Happy New Years

Happy New Year! I thought I’d try a twist on New Years resolutions this year. I saw this New Years questionnaire and thought it could be a fun tool to help you think about ways to #MakeMoves in 2014.

  1. A bad habit I’m going to break: At times I doubt the confidence in myself as a person and I just have to remember to reflect in my good decision making and trust in myself in those moments.
  2. A destination I’d like to visit: Chicago
  3. I’m going to work harder at: The back end of my company Klass Universal Ent. I want to place more emphasis on the inner workings of it to help us break into the next level as a business.
  4. A project I’d like to finish: my first BOOK, I am working with a publishing company and a wonderful young editor who’s currently helping me to make this a possibility
  5. A class I’d like to take: Crossfit Level 1 certification and a real vacation.
  6. I’d like to spend more time doing: Other projects that swirl around my head all day, and make an attempt at expanding some other small business ideas I have.
  7. A food I want to eat more of: This would be more protein and good carbs to reenergize myself throughout my work week. Also more home cooked meals in general to spend more time inside working on smaller tasks and ideas I have stored away…
  8. I want to___ more: Read more. And, learn more about business overall: How to be a better owner, dj, entertainer.

How would you answer the above?! How will you #MakeMoves in 2014?!

^^Hahahaha! Thought some of you could have fun with this too 😉

I’d also like to take this chance to thank all of my readers for checking in with me every week – your comments, texts, tweets make me smile! Thinking about another new year of blogging, what would you like to see on the blog this year?! Any ideas/questions/themes.. Let me know, subscribe and I’ll catch ya next week.

Happy Thanksgiving

Hey Friends, Followers, Subscribers and Family. Hope everyone is ready to eat some good food and maybe see some close ones you have been missing while Making Moves and staying busy as most of us are.

First I would like to say Thanks to My Editor and Chief (Sami P) for helping me to find my voice and share these thoughts and opinions with each of you. While we we don’t see a lot of commenting from our readers we do see a lot of traffic via texts emails and phone calls regarding the likes and thoughts of all of you and we thank you for that. It wouldn’t be possible if she didn’t take the time to perfect my thoughts, organize them and provide you all with a glimpse of what Kupah James thinks, feels and likes to share with you all. So a super big SHOUT OUT TO YOU S to the P!

Instead if I posted a blog about being thankful which is relatively cliche, we thought it would be better to share some very popular memes with you to then share with your loved ones on Thanksgiving! So without further (ado) below are some random memes that I like and I hope you get a kick out of them too. There is not a method to the order, rather laughs and tickles to keep you high spirited as the holidays begin.

Enjoy and please comment, repost, share, and like everywhere and anywhere! Thanks 4
giving me your time each and every week.

#MakeMoves

 

 

 

Guest Post: Tis the Season… Of Busy Things

…Or as I more affectionately like to call it.. The Festival of Obligations. Now that sounds bad right?

September comes and I’m super excited for the Fall season – it’s my favorite, hands down. I’m enjoying the weather, the leaves and building anticipation for the holiday season.

Then the calls, texts and emails start coming in. I don’t know the actual statistics.. but, it seems to me that 90% of the population was born in the Fall. Every weekend from October – end of December has birthdays, football parties, holiday parties (Halloween weekend before and weekend after, night before Thanksgiving, Black Friday, weekend off, 3 day Columbus day weekend, Holiday parties every weekend of December..), baptisms, births.

I immediately feel overwhelmed, tired and BUSY! The first weekend of events came and I felt dread looking down the long road to January.. until I showed up and had a ton of fun!

Then the dawning realization came over me.. Yes, it’s a lot of activities. Yes, my weekends are full. But, with awesome, celebratory, fun events with all of my favorite people!

This is an amazing and fulfilling time of year. For all of those weekends I do nothing and feel like I should be “doing something” or looking for an activity to do or meaning to catch up with friends or visit family, I now have all of that handed to me on a platter with no planning required. And, more importantly, I get to share in some incredibly special moments with my closest friends.

So, while you’re running around and heavy sighing when your coworkers ask if you have plans for the weekend, try to focus on the memories you’re building, traditions you’re starting and fulfillment you’re gaining.

I’m going to continue calling it the Festival of Obligations because as bad as it sounds on the one hand, on the other, it sounds pretty darn funny.

And, in case you were wondering, I’m busy this weekend.

Thank you to Kupah for asking me to guest post this week!

—Sami

*Note: I did not coin the term Festival of Obligations – I owe all of the credit to my former boss 😉

11:11 & 11:11

With Thanksgiving just around the corner I started thinking about something that I do everyday and I feel pretty confident in assuming most of you out there do it too!

There is a fascination with 11:11 that many of us engage in and I’m pretty sure we don’t even know where it came from. According to Wiki there are a few different ideas as to what it is and what it means. Mostly revolving around superstitions, 11:11 to most of us has become a universal time to make a wish! You will see people locating the time and calling attention to it for those around to join in on making a wish together.

I don’t have any positive or negative opinions about this small phenomenon, rather I would like to add to it. What I began doing a few years ago was getting the most that I could out of the entertaining superstition and using the two 11:11’s that I see in my day for two different purposes.

If you know anything about me then you know I #MakeMoves and I’m constantly trying to raise the awareness of what joys and experiences we get to live daily! I feel that we can sometimes be a spoiled society, forget how well we might have things and get caught up on what we think we need or even sometimes what we think we deserve.

Myself included, I am regularly reminding myself of where I came from and what others have and more importantly, what others may not have. It’s a reality beyond my control and while I see the reasons for some misfortune I still use it to spawn a little humility for me.

So how does this apply to 11:11?

Well what I do is use 11:11 (am) as my time to make a wish. A more traditional new pair of shoes, maybe we are bidding for an event and I’m hopeful that we can beat out competition, etc.

But for 11:11 (pm) I started thinking of something I am GRATEFUL for… Maybe for a friend I have, a movie I recently saw, a new thing I learned, a place I went for the first time. There is a large list of things I can wish for and I take that opportunity every chance I get!

However that PM comes and I look to acknowledge something that I am lucky to have or anything I can be happy about. What’s cool about it is that it doesn’t have to be something taking place AT that time. Just anything I have encountered that day or in recent days that comes to mind.

I hope you try it out and see what comes up when you think of what you’re GRATEFUL for – I think it’s a great way to revisit what makes you work and things that help you on a daily basis.

Keep a balance. It’s necessary to have wishes and wants no matter how silly they may seem to others. Dreams, wishing and wanting is behind a lot of the drive that got me here. But remembering what I’m GRATEFUL for helps me stay focused on the important things…

Trust me there is ALWAYS something to be thankful for, it shouldn’t be too hard to come up with a list. This practice keeps me humble and appreciative of the things that I DO have and doesn’t allow me to get lost in Wants and Desires.

#MakeMoves #1111

Halloween 2013

Happy Halloween Kids!

I’ve had two tracks of conversation with people this year: Costumes (what to wear/what not to wear/most popular/overdone) and Wanting to Look Good (hot, healthy, wish I had MadeFitnessFun the past month.)

Whether you went out last night or you’re partying this weekend hear are some of Kj’S Thoughts on Halloween:

Costumes: I know a lot of people who plan on doing the typical/boring/lame sexy cop/princess/racecar driver (really?!) thing

C’mon people let’s try for some creativity – you can be anyone you want to be! Insert last year’s blog post: HOLLAween

And, please, don’t dress as Miley. Be creative. Be classy. I’m sorry, I’m not sorry.

On Wanting to Look Good: Now this we can talk about.  50% of looking good is feeling good about yourself. So put your insecurities on hold and own it.

The other 50% is #MakingMoves on the health front.

  1. Drink lots of water. Duh. Flush out your system and de-bloat.
  2. Eat something before you go out and drink. Cut out processed sugar and salt and cut down on your carb intake for the day or day before.
  3. WORKOUT! Workout the day of and the night before you’re going out. You’ll get some quick muscle tone. It helps with the first 50% we were talking about before too.
  4. If you’re going to drink, the above will help you the next day too if you’re feeling a little hungover.
  5. Don’t bar hop. The fashionably late thing is a bad look and the city will be nightmarish (pun intended!) Go somewhere comfortable and make the best between one or two places. Enjoying yourself is healthy for the mind!

If you don’t read anything else, read this:

  1. Don’t drink & drive. Cab it. Uber it. Or, kick it old school and get a DD (Designated Driver)
  2. Don’t be lame. Have fun and do something festive. (Even if you’re just watching Halloween movies and giving out candy)
  3. READ THIS POST: Why You Shouldn’t Pick Up The Halloween Slut – I’m still crying, from laughing. It also will be featured in a book I’ll write one day, as I’m jealous I didn’t write these wise words.

Spoiler Alert from the article: “A rule of thumb: You get what you see. A generic costume gets worn by a generic girl. That’s true whether you’re looking for a girlfriend type on Halloween (bad idea) or just the Halloween hookup.”

Tips for Running Motivation

I’m often asked for workout advice. This can range from what type of workouts they should do, how to lift weights, explain Street Feet, and about running. I have a love/hate relationship with running; there are many amazing benefits to CARDIO and running is an easy and effective cardio routine. But, sometimes getting out the door to run can be… Ehhh… not appealing.

So, I thought I would include some tips for running motivation, to get you out the door and #MakingFitnessFun! Some of these are my recommendations and some are what I’ve found to be a general consensus of my closest peeps.

  1. A DOPE Playlist – DUH! This one is super easy to overcome because you can just download the latest Street Feet mix 😉 #ShamelessPlug, #It’sFree. Here’s a link to my SoundCloud mixes
  2. Running with someone. Running with a friend is a great way of getting out the door to run. You’re more likely to show up if you have plans with someone, you can catch up with a friend, focus on conversation rather than making that next mile! And, if you don’t have a friend to run with, your dog can be a great running partner! Try to find someone who either keeps up or slows down. There’s nothing worse then running with someone on another level can completely defeat the purpose. Agree to a pace and distance ahead of time incase you get ahead or fall behind you know where a meeting place is.
  3. Use a training plan. There are so many training plans out there, a handful of my friends say they’ve had great success with Hal Higdon running plans. They’re structured for beginners, intermediate runners and more advanced. This helps you set goals and make appointments with yourself to stay accountable and make sure you fit it in to a busy schedule!
  4. Download some apps!There are now so many fitness related apps, some great ones for running include:
    1.  Map My Run, which will provide running routes for you nearby to eliminate that pressure, and you can share some great ones that you enjoy as well.
    2. RunKeeper. This app is awesome if you don’t have a running watch and want details about your run or are on a specific training plan. It tracks your distance, pace, time and heart rate. It measures your performance over time and gives you updates. Provides training plans for you! And, even syncs to your music.
    3. Nike + GPS. GPS, running watch all in one, another great app that syncs to your iPod and tracks your workouts.
    4. Couch to 5k. This app is modeled after the pretty well known Couch to 5k training plan that really outlines everything for you through your phone.
  5. Enter a race – That’s motivation for ya – spending money on a race gives you that financial incentive and a deadline!
  6. Setting your workout clothes out beforehand. This is a big one in my opinion, and is great for WORKOUT motivation, not specific to running. Especially if you exercise in the morning. When you don’t want to get out of bed, make it as easy on yourself as possible. Set everything you’ll need out the night before so you just roll out of bed and can go. You’ll also make sure you don’t forget anything. Put your socks in your shoes, set out your outfit, put your iPod and running watch (if you use these items) and any fuel (for long runs) with it! If you don’t want to carry a fanny pack while you run FINE. just bring ID and some cash and if possible pass by a convenient store during your run and hydrate there. Less to carry and squeeze a little break into your run.
  7. Think about how great it will feel when it’s over. Runner’s High is a real thing – no matter how short of a run, your endorphins get moving and you feel amazing. You’ll always feel accomplished once you’ve hit the pavement!

What did I miss? Obviously there are a bunch of different types of motivators– what are some of your favorites?

#MakeMoves

How to Start Making Moves with a TED Talk

As I’m always calling out to the masses to #MakeMoves, I wanted to add a sort of Part 2 to my recent post, How Do You Challenge Yourself to Make Moves? Today’s post is a way to get you brainstorming on where to begin. I find that I can have pretty high expectations – which, for the record, I don’t think is a bad thing (How else are you going to fulfill your potential, continue to reach for the starts, and stay motivated?!) And, I think others in my life want to live their life to higher levels as well but don’t always know how to get the ball rolling. For some people and I’m sure there are a handful of you reading this, that are self-starters/self-motivators who can have a fire lit under you and just start MakingMoves.

For others, probably most, you know you want to get from Point A to Point B but you don’t know how, or you have a confidence issue that gets in your way. To help me help you, I’d like to introduce you to the TED Talks.

From their website, TED.com, the TED talks are described as: TED is a nonprofit devoted to Ideas Worth Spreading. It started out (in 1984) as a conference bringing together people from three worlds: Technology, Entertainment, Design. Since then its scope has become ever broader. Along with two annual conferences — the TED Conference on the West Coast each spring, and the TEDGlobal conference in Edinburgh UK each summer — TED includes the award-winning TED Talks video site, the Open Translation Project and TED Conversations, the inspiring TED Fellows and TEDx programs, and the annual TED Prize.

There are a series of “talks” which are videos of speakers on the widest range of topics and each talk ranges from 3 min to 20 min. You can search by topic for whatever you might in the mood for; inspiring, funny, informative, etc. I can’t even make recommendations because there are already over 20 that I want to tell you about. Maybe that can be another blog post 😉

For right now, I want to focus on one in particular. It’s one of the shorter ones at 3:27 min. This TED talk is by Matt Cutts called, “Try Something New for 30 Days.” Basically he gave himself mini 30 day challenges to have fun, learn, try new things and create good habits.

Someone I know watched this and responded that, “I felt (and feel) so ready to just start doing the things I am capable of doing, working in the career I am meant to work in and living the life I want to be living. I am ready to start fulfilling my potential and want to just dive in, but I have to go through some motions of “stepping stones” and financial barriers on my way – in other words, reality. But it doesn’t mean you can’t do some things or accelerate yourself. When I watched that TED talk I felt like, ‘this was it, this is what I can do to start’ and I made a list of things that might make some good 30 day challenges and I started with things I’ve always meant to do or thought about doing.”

Again, I’m sure there are many of you that can relate to that. Well here is a tool: I challenge you to create a list of 30 day challenges and just start. Even if it’s something that isn’t directly related to a career you want or some big life change, it could be the small step forward that builds your confidence so that you can make changes and be happier and/or healthier. I’d love to hear what you come up with and to hear how you’re progressing!

Even if you decide to not take part in this challenge, spend some time on the TED website and I guarantee you will find at least one Talk that strikes a chord with you and inspires you to try something new or make a step forward (in other words MakeMoves.)

PLEASE comment, Tweet, FB me, subscribe – I can’t wait to hear what 30 day challenges you all are working on!

Live Laugh Love – Looking to Summer 2013

Summer is almost upon us and the warm weather usually brings out the smiles in us Bostonians. For some of us it is time of vacations, tanning, shorter work days and longer weekends, more time with a partner or the family, car washes and cook-outs.

For others it’s not as positive; unemployment is still very high, some individuals did not do the amount of work required to attain necessary certifications to properly move forward, some relationships are ending, homes have been lost and friends have gone different directions. With all of these things going on for many of us I think it is necessary to reflect inward instead of outward. To stop for a minute and attempt to assess your current situation and see it for what it really is, not for what you hope it to be. Then and only then, once you have seen what you have created or what your reality is – do you MakeMOVES and transform your reality into something you can accept or bring to the next level.

When thinking about reflecting on this, I think for me, the best thing about my life is that it is mine to live and do with it how I see fit. And yours is too! However you want to digest that depends on how you want your story to play out in the end. To help you think this through, I want to talk about the phrase, Live, Laugh and Love. Haven’t we all seen that on a card, tattoo, signage in a person’s home or keychain?

I challenge you to do three things:

LIVE a better, happier, substantial life. One in which you do the things you want to do, including sometimes things you don’t want to do. Do things NOW, patience is subjective and situational…Everything worth doing doesn’t have a calendar date but may have an expiration date so do it now and wait later. I really kinda like that last statement… “Do IT now and WAIT later.”

Laugh at yourself all day and every day. You should be the funniest person you have ever met in your life, when someone else laughs at you, laugh with them, watch comedies, remain light hearted and do not allow the weight of the world to eclipse the beauty of Laughter. If you know someone who is funnier than you, then dammit follow that person on twitter or instagram read their blog but whatever you do, LAUGH.

Love EVERYTHING, your enemy, your ex, your boss, gardens and rival sports teams. Love your family, pets, neighbors; even angry people on the road. Love long lines and traffic, dirty one dollar bills, allergies and mythical creatures that visit you in the night to talk about politics….(too much?) ok, let’s bring it back. LOVE everything because in everything is love or the potential for and/or to love. I don’t mean love like in the notebook (you must watch this movie) but love as an appreciation for the wonder that brought us here as a people and what makes this world go round. This earth, and all of us, will not be here forever. Play till the last second and love each success and defeat. Because when the game is over kids, it doesn’t matter what your win and loss percentage is…I promise you that. What matters is that you showed up prepared to play and had to courage to play (in case I lost you Playing means to LOVE).

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To simplify the above I received this passage below from a person close to me and it spawned this blog post so I thought I would add it at the bottom for you to enjoy. Take in the message from the above and below and let me know if you think differently? Which side of you do you feed and Why? Are you the best version of yourself? If not then let’s get you there through Living, Laughing and PLAYING (I mean LOVING)

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An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life.

“A fight is going on inside me,” he told the young boy, “a terrible fight between two wolves. One is evil, full of anger, sorrow, regret, greed, self-pity and false pride. The other is good, full of joy, peace, love, humility, kindness and faith.”

“This same fight is going on inside of you, grandson…and inside of every other person on this earth.”

The grandson ponders this for a moment and then asks, “Grandfather, which wolf will win?”

The old man smiled and simply said,

“The one you feed.”

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Inner Playlist of a Dj

The acronym Dj (Disc Jockey) is synonymous with fun, energetic, cool..the list goes on 😉 Most Djs are actually pretty socially awkward individuals who use the manipulation of tracks to speak/entertain the masses. In my case, Djing is a way for me to move the masses while engaging in my own level of enjoyment. Today my thoughts take me through an internal playlist of steps during an event or club night. Every Dj is different, this is just my take on this topic!

First it is important to know that I am crazy nervous each and every time I spin records or emcee an event. To think that as soon as I speak I will have everyone’s undivided attention is a little overwhelming and daunting. There are many ways to get through this but, if you know me at all, then you know that I just DO IT. No time to stress and waste time. It’s time to facilitate, organize and entertain so I do what I’m paid and trusted to do and get out there.

My second thought is who is in the room? Who are my ringers? Ringers are the ones at the party who get the party going for you as soon as you play a top 40 track! Lol. Ringers are good and you need/want them around as they are unpaid interns of entertainment! Ha. Ringers are usually a bridesmaid or relative of the guest of honor or the “class clown” of an organization/company. You don’t have to find the ringer they will find you during cocktail hour and usually ask for the most popular song to be played in the first 10 mins of the event. #Really? Ringers don’t and won’t have to be intoxicated to work either; they are self-sufficient and completely autonomous. Never overlook the Ringers as they can be your guide to many more events and will act as PR experts telling everyone how great you are. Work smarter – not harder.

Now the opposite of the ringers are the Djs sans portfolio! Now these individuals are and can be a nightmare so please, if you have a friend who does this, or better yet, if you are this person: STOP THEM OR STOP YOURSELF! These amazing life forms will usually be sneaking behind the Dj booth, looking over your shoulder, trying to see what your playing and what’s coming up next. If you’re not escorting them out from behind the Dj booth they are in your face asking you to play today’s “hottest music” (as if you didn’t know any better) or worse, they want you to play the bonus track to Elvis’ hidden album on repeat and swear that it will get EVERYONE dancing. Meanwhile, if they did a 180 they would see that the dance-floor is about 90% in full effect at the exact time they want to hear the never ending story theme song! C’Mon people! As if this wasn’t bad enough they are notorious for NOT DANCING and MEAN MUGGING you ALL NIGHT while you PURPOSELY DON’T/WON’T play their song. Sorry I laughed out loud on that one.

These two particular groups are the ones you want to look out for and be mindful of. Aside from them you want to play the best music for your crowd while providing the best amount of interaction. Our job is to inspire and remind our audiences of the fun they can be immersed into by the selection of songs played in particular order.

The goal is to forget what’s going on outside and focus on what’s going on inside. Music is easily the remedy to most mental frustrations and I’m proud and honored to be able to bring together strangers in a night club or share in the celebrations of families at a wedding or honor the Bar or Bat Mitzvah man/woman on their journey to adulthood. Proms are no different; playing hits of the last 10 years while students reminisce on the last four years of their lives and look towards new horizons. Playing that song you forgot about or dancing with that one person who hasn’t danced in years or watching a young one know the words to both a Rihanna song and a Michael Jackson song, seeing ties come off and heels removed (wait wait wait I got a little ahead of myself, heels should always stay on… #KLASSY) but you get the point.

This is what I do and this is the internal playlist of steps Boston’s Kupah James of Klass Universal Entertainment. Should I have the pleasure of entertaining your next party of if I have already had the honor of performing for you in the past, I love what I do and I do what I love. I’m extremely lucky to know and believe this. I plan on providing the Klassiest entertainment this country has ever seen and raising the bar for the next decade of Klassmates. Keep an eye out for Shadi, Bobby, Lindsay, Rachel, Kazz, Hectik, Case, Matty, Evan, J Diaz and more. We are changing the way private parties are played through Klassifying each one of our events and bringing them to the next level!

 

#MakeMoves! So, let’s hear it: Which are you?! Ringer or “Dj”?