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Spring Preview: First Dates

The season for new flings and summer romances is almost upon us so I thought I would spare you your next EX by explaining how the next dating process should go starting with the first date, (I’m assuming the guy has already text, emailed, stalked your Facebook and called at least once!?)

Source: Google Image Search

The first date isn’t a first date at all and it’s important that both parties know this going into it. The first date is actually the first interview, which if it goes well, leads to an actual first date. If I’ve already lost you then move on with your day because this will be over your head completely. #NoFilter

So, on this first interview, which should lead to a first date, there are things that both parties need to do/understand if they want anything to go any further.

Guys: 

•Offer to pick her up

–           Even though in today’s world this is seen as creepy and females are too afraid of the stalking type to allow this anymore (go figure) think of a neutral place where you can both meet and take one car from there. After all fellas you do care about the environment so taking one car is safer for the planet right (Points?)

•Flowers

–          Still a nice touch but, no red anything because to a female who doesn’t know you, a red flower at the first interview is a RED FLAG.

Source: herdailyfix.com

•Look appropriate

–           Not too dressed up, not too dressed down. Lose the polo this isn’t golf. No ties, or dress shoes either; that’s for the third date (when you raise the bar)

•Give her options on venue

–           But know where you want to go!! I’m positive she will say “whatever you want” which is a trick question. For some women, this is also a test as to a man who can make his own decisions. An indecisive man is doomed to the friend zone.

Ladies:

•Be on time

–          If you’re supposed to be done getting ready at 7 and 730 comes around, we are back on our couch playing video games or have moved onto the “Default”

I know you’re wondering what the default is and it’s easy… The default is the person that’s always down to chill, so when you call, they are always available and willing to go out and do anything. I mean you can’t expect us to get all dressed up and go nowhere can you?

•Don’t interrogate

–          It makes everyone nervous and can stall conversation. You won’t figure out the true measure of someone through bullet points either. You can learn a lot from the flow of conversation and even how they talk about things that shows their views, likes and dislikes.

•Easy on the make-up

We don’t want to date a porcelain doll and wake up next to Raggedy Ann (Wretched) 

Source: Google Image Search

•Help decide the venue

–          Guys are simple creatures, they either won’t come up with something to live up to your expectations or they’ll fall back on their comfort place where they hang with the guys which more than likely won’t be your idea of a good time. Be prepared to make at least 2 suggestions, one an activity and one a restaurant; this will also help figure out what type of guy he is for the future (hates mini golf, allergic to seafood, etc)

Once you have gotten to the actual interview this is where you need to BE YOURSELF! You have nothing to lose and you’ll only waste everyone’s time. You could turn the other person off by behaving a certain way and it’s not even the real you. Also, and this is very important, don’t expect the person to change miraculously into a different person 6 months later if it gets that far. Show and tell the person who you are and if it pans out to a real date and into dating someone will end up disappointed, angry or resentful when your true colors come out!

Source: Clemagazine.com

Last year I wrote a post about day dating ideas at the start of spring, so if you make it past the interview, check it out for some ideas!

And, as always, share YOURS! What are your suggestions for guys/girls going into the first date interview? What are some good first date interview ideas that have worked for you?

Until next time,

Top Ten Worst Jobs In or On a Movie

I would consider myself a pretty big movie fan. I don’t really discriminate with movies, if something new comes out, I see it. Something comes out on Bluray that I wanted to see or liked, I buy it (then to download the digital copy because, let’s face it, that’s the future people.) I go to the movies every Friday morning/afternoon. My Cuzo would tell you that I have bad taste in movies (and I would say he has some interesting taste himself cough * Ninja Assassin * cough.) I just think I’ll see a movie because some movies that never received much praise have ended up being classics over time. It doesn’t mean I LIKE every movie that I see, but I’m open minded.

Rant over. Basically in watching a number of movies I started noticing the small jobs some characters have that have got to be the worst and then some behind the scenes, working on the movie jobs, that have also got to be the worst. Who knows maybe a movie is a movie and it’s all great?! But, I figured I’d do a top ten of the worst seeming jobs in or on movies.

10. Evil henchman

9. Stunt double – All guts, no glory

8. Evil Henchman stunt double

7. Waiter/Waitress – They’re usually struggling, picked on, victims of a robbery or someone skipping out on a bill (think Pulp Fiction)

Source: IMDb

6. Convenience clerk/Cashier

5. The people who have to make all of an actors/actresses dressing room demands happen

4. The people that have to hold cue cards

3. The guy in charge of the clapboard on Stanley Kubrick films— (Anyone besides my roomie get this one LOL?!)

2. Whoever types all of the thank yous/location info/nonsense at the end of movie credits

1. Playing the president of the USA – I know you all must be thinking I’m crazy, but let’s face it.. Whenever there’s a movie with the president earth is being attacked by asteroids, aliens, end of time, someone is trying to assassinate them, or they’re made fun of – Not exactly a fun role in my opinion.

Source: Google Image Search

What are some of the worst seeming jobs in or on movies in YOUR opinions!? Thanks for reading, hope you all have a safe and fun weekend. #MakeMoves

What If Kupah James was never in Entertainment?!?!?

I recently was having a conversation with my friend Sami and we were talking about careers/life choices, etc and ended up thinking about where we’d be if we made very different choices. I asked her where she thought I’d be if I never got into entertainment and it was HILARIOUS what she came up with. I asked her if she’d mind writing it up as a guest post of sorts for me to share with all of you and I think she had a little too much fun coming up with it. This is what she wrote:

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Hi Everybody! This was a lot of fun for me, thank you all for reading. And, thank you Kup for letting me participate on your blog! When Kupah asked if I’d mind writing what I was trying to say, I started thinking about some specific questions… Where would he be? What would he be doing? Not focusing so much on how other people would be impacted, but how would he?

If Kupah James never found entertainment I think he’d still be living an all-around successful and fun life. You can change a career, but you can’t change who a person is and what makes them who they are. Kupah is outgoing, loud, positive, ambitious, creative and active with an entrepreneurial spirit. He would have to be doing multiple things and working with people as much as possible.

Corporate Kupah:

I picture him in a corporate/office setting wearing a suit (suspenders over the shoulders) because he’s in a leadership or management position. Having studied sociology and criminal justice and previously working at a D.A.s office, I imagine he’d be doing something law oriented to help people or project-manage for a cause/company that helped people. That could be in a government/ public service way, or more legally/advocate based.

I imagine he would still be doing fitness and Klass with Kupah. But, he’d be going to the gym more and teaching more fitness classes (sadly, not Street Feet) than he does now. Depending on his actual day job, he’d be trying to start a foundation or open a gym. He’d be using business connections to network and find capital for these ventures.

I think he’d be in a committed relationship, living with his girlfriend, but, unsettled and feeling slightly unfulfilled. I think he’d be pursuing so many projects, jobs and hobbies to fill those voids and not know what was missing. He’d travel for work or to meet a potential investor and then get the travel bug. At that point I think he’d be trying to see as much as possible throughout the year and look into the real estate game; which would lead him to go for his realtor’s license and open up that market in the city of Boston.

I think we’d still find Kupah always on the go, always talking to people, making connections, trying to catch the next wave and forward thinking about projects and jobs. It just would be in different circles, different industries and be different activities and hobbies. I think his personal life would be different and we would find him more in the financial district or Back Bay during Happy Hour than at the latest nightclubs during the Midnight Hour.

Kupah James: Tamed-

Kupah #2 is less of an outwardly force of nature. Obviously you can’t remove someone’s love of music and creativity, but, not being the lifeblood of his day, what would that look like on Kupah #2 where movement, music and that specific type of creative element isn’t at the fore front? Now, Kupah has a hard time focusing too much on administrative type tasks/routine tasks. But, what if you have that creativity and fast-paced mind without the “muscle memory” of channeling it outward?

I think we’d have an outwardly reserved Kupah (crazy I know!) who wrote constantly and was glued to a computer for work. He’d write books and weekly columns and have a blog he updated 2-3x a day. This Kupah would work from home, be self-made and entrepreneurial but, in a completely different way.

But, this Kupah would be a dad and married. He’d be the stay at home parent, with a business minded wife. He’d take his wife on exciting vacations and plan elaborate date nights. He’d treat her like the queen she would be and be attentive and romantic.  Think date nights and heartfelt cards, foot massages, etc LOL. He would still remain active, going to the gym regularly but now, instead of teaching fitness classes, he’d coach all of his kids’ sports teams and charm all the other moms and teachers at their schools. On a different personal note, he’d have his guys’ days with his friends at more local spots and spend his holidays at home instead of a gig!

This Kupah is still outgoing, still has his natural charm and people skills, and still has his focus and ambition. He’d be creative in his work and in his relationships but his social circle would be smaller in person, but larger to the masses through media. This Kupah would reach more people internationally/nationally through his writing.

Source: IMdB

Secret Agent Kupah:

This Kupah is the dream. This is the Kupah that our Kupah intended on being when he entered college and began his pursuits of sociology and criminal justice. This Kupah’s life is full of unending excitement (not always positive.) This is a Kupah who may have another undetermined name altogether. This would be James Cooper, FBI Agent.

This Kupah channels his talents and knowledge both physically and at a computer. He hates the reports he has to type up, the memos, the meetings that he’s not leading and reading all of the suspect profiles. He answers to somebody, multiple somebodies, but leads a team and makes more life-changing decisions in the field than he ever could in another profession.  He’d use his charm and personality to have the best solve rate, hands down. Who better to gather information, back suspects into a corner conversationally and get a confession or at least real information from someone’s mom or girlfriend?

Physically he would work out constantly and be active in his daily work activities. He would be amassing all kinds of connections and networking to use as sources, aides, and to have the hook ups as he travels around for a case.  Personally, he’d have few meaningful relationships outside of his partner, family and childhood friends.

This Kupah would maximize all of his strengths and passions, but would toe the line with censoring his comments and actions as he’d hate having to answer to someone and have that accountability to a superior. Think Mike Lowery FBI agent. He wouldn’t have as many projects and hobbies, but his career would, arguably, be one giant one. He’d travel and mingle and dance and be loud and make as big a  difference. But, his difference wouldn’t be as well-known (keeping government secrets and all.)

Source: Google Images

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I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts on this one LOL!! Which Kupah do you like the best? PLEASE share, tweet, like, subscribe….

Top 10 Evaluations of Importance

Sup readers,

I realize that it’s an exciting time of the year again and there are tons of emotions, thoughts & feelings surrounding the holidays. I felt that rather than write my thoughts about the holidays or it’s season, I would write about something that relates.

There are so many things going on today that it is very easy to forget what is really important. I am not the one to tell you what is and what isn’t, however I am the guy that will proceed to share with you how I evaluate importance.

1) Don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff.

2) Say what you mean and mean what you say because those that matter, won’t mind and those that mind, don’t matter.

3) Believe in your own ability to have an opinion but, be open to listening to others’ thoughts without jumping ship from your own beliefs. We are all different and have different experiences.

4) Ask for help; that’s why we have friends and contacts! Thinking you can do everything yourself is naive in this day and age so pull over and ask someone for directions, save time.

5) When upset know when to table things and know when to bring them up. There are plenty of people complaining every single day. Are you one of them or the other kind that just tables it for later, if necessary, and keeps on making moves?

6) Sleep it off, whatever it is… Sick, upset, tired, achy, depressed, irritated… Doesn’t matter! Sleep it off. Take a nap, wake up and if you’re not feeling better then address it.

7) Say “Hi!” There are 80 different ways to communicate yet we never seem to get it right. How’s this possible?

8. This is very important! If you have something nice to say to a person, SAY IT. Stop assuming they “already know.” The problem is that everyone may think the very same thing and guess what, no one says it. Take responsibility for your thoughts and speak! I promise you your kind words will not go unnoticed.

9) Gossip, Twitter Terrorists, Rumors, Hearsay, Facebook are the end of the world and its Privacy! Yes there are filters and safety features but here is an idea…. DON’T PUT IT UP. Seriously! And for those who live and swear by getting your facts from FaceBook and Twitter, get a life… #NuffSaid.

10) To me the most important thing to round out this list, and please keep in mind that these are just what popped in my head while blogging, it is YOU! All You. You You You. Never forget there is a You and You cannot take care of anyone or anything if You haven’t first taken care of You.

All in all enjoy the following photo. This guy is kind of a big deal and I read this once a day to remind myself of the things that matter and especially of the things that don’t.

Talk to you soon! Always #MakeMoves not noise…

 

Top 10 things NOT to do with an iPhone

Not in any particular order…

1) Never Complain! It’s an iPhone not a hockey puck! This thing can do things that belonged in E.T.’s Space craft. In fact even he would’ve been all like “E.T.  iPhone home” #JuSayin the phone is easily one if the greatest technological breakthroughs of our time and will make history books for your grandchildren, so remember this before u start shaking it for better cell coverage, (clowns) and yes I’ve done it LOL.

2) You don’t need to take it off of a charger. They keep saying it has more battery life, and maybe so?! Power cycling!? I’ve heard all about it. But, the average consumer is not going to notice the difference from Monday the 1st to Tuesday the 1st of the next month. Trust me! The tests they use to figure that stuff out is far beyond what we do or my pay grade. So charge away!!

3) Never ever put it over a toilet, trash or sink! Let’s be honest people, the iPhone goes where you go, especially after Taco and Fajita night (Yum). I know you’re thinking, “But, how else can you keep up on social media Facebook stalking and talking smack (that you would never say to someone’s face) on Twitter, or reading the last few pages of 50 Shades of Grey, while you’re creating artwork in your respective lavatory receptacle?!” Get a life people, and put your phone somewhere safe for a few minutes! Flickers, FB Stalkers and Twitter Terrorists = LAME!

4) Never keep inappropriate photos on your phone. Cut it out. You don’t need them! They can only cause grief and embarrassment. LOL! Girls, stop showing yourself to the world through photos! How ‘bout this: if a guy wants to see you maybe he should just spend time with you! OMG I’m a genius, and side note, the kissy face is GROSS and not sexy at all so remove that from your repertoire entirely please. I’m pretty sure 10% of the female population can even pull it off, so, take a good look in a mirror and ask a real friend if you’re in that % or not. I’m doing you a favor here.

5) Please do not allow others to hold your phone! It is not their prized possession and they will not treat it as such. They will easily become distracted and your phone will be the victim. Even better, case or no case they will put your phone anywhere on any surface as they cannot appreciate the angel-like delicacy of the iPhones casing. I’m talking to every other phone carrier out there! Notice how Apple doesn’t make commercials digging other companies? Exactly! Because when you’re on the top there’s no one to throw digs at.

6) Pay careful attn to this one! DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT take part in any GROUP MESSAGING. It’s your nightmare! There’s always someone on the group that you don’t know and apparently their life will be over because you responded “to all”. Sometimes people don’t even know who’s in the group and start chomping off insults while the other person is reading the whole thing. Men, women love catching you doing bad things so next time you get hit with 20 Q’s it could be a set up. Two girls group messaging one guy asking all sorts of questions, Dude really? It’s over for you. Learn how to use your phone.

7) Open pockets, lose purses and butter fingers are not suited to iPhone users! So stop and put it inside something secure and safe. If you are able to walk around with a safe DO IT. Or purchase an Otterbox! It’s huge and completely messes up the look of the phone but it will be safe!

8.) Don’t save numbers like this “Dad Cell” or “Becky Work” it’s ridiculous. Remember… Most amazing device ever? When you save a name you can apply a “work, home, or iPhone” to the number. It really isn’t a big deal, but, I will point it out and laugh at you if I see it otherwise. A part two to this is: Don’t buy an iPhone and not know how to use it… Multitasking, Multi-Gesturing, Cut-Copy-Pasting, Emoticons, Landscape Mode, Hard Reset, Instant Camera, Photo Sharing, Siri, iTunes, Screen Shots, Sharing multiple photos at once? Please know these things or bring the phone back. It’s like have a Ferrari and riding in the trunk with the music off in the slow lane. LMAO.

9) This is more for the Playa’s and Play-Ettes of the world who think they are so smart turning the phone to silent but allowing it to vibrate. I don’t know the exact statistic but I’m pretty sure everyone on the planet now has an ear for a vibrating phone. So, leaving it on vibrate only tells the person you are either trying to be polite and not have your phone ringing ORRR you’re trying to hide all of those awesome text messages and phone calls coming through that are just “FRIENDS” lol. P.S. ever notice when a female has a call, and it’s not a secret, the name is always announced BUT when it is someone else all we hear is “Friend???” #SideNote #JuSayin.

10) Let me repeat again this list is in NO particular order of importance it’s just how they came to me. : )

Recently Apple developed this amazing technology called iMessage which is the equivalent to Wack-Berries internal communication line (BBM I believe it is called.) If you are unfamiliar with this amazing-ness it gives a receipt of a read message and tells you if it was delivered to the other person with iMessage. Amazing except that the world thinks it’s the CIA and removes this option leaving the sender curious. Look people, if you text me and I don’t text back, it’s for 1 of 3 reasons. 1) I’m actually busy at the moment and can’t respond efficiently enough to your question or statement, 2) Whatever you wrote requires an actual thought and I’m processing it to respond the best way possible rather than answering your “I miss you so much” text with an “ok” response (we all know how that feels) or  3) Yeah it was delivered and yeah I read it and I didn’t respond… Read between the lines people I just don’t want to talk to you. Nothing personal but nothing your saying at the time is worth responding to at that time. Or you’re a crazy psycho, text too much, repeat yourself, you have a knack for arguing via text, which all pretty much explains itself.

Now go get yourself an APPLE PRODUCT and join the rest of society. Hope you got a chuckle because I certainly did writing this one. Have a good day and #MakeMoves

His, Hers and the Truth

Ok here’s the scenario: a friend calls and tells you that his “Psycho Girlfriend” just did something psycho and he’s confused and doesn’t know what to do. He’s freaking out and all over the place trying to make a decision; Does he leave her, how to fix it, how could she be so crazy? All the while I’m sitting on the other end waiting for a pause… Once I hear it, I ask, “well what did you do?”

Now here’s where you have to pay attention. Am I A) Automatically blaming him for her actions, B) Not trusting him to tell me the truth, C) Secretly happy for his distress LOL ( #JuSayin people like that exist), or D) I want to hear more of this amazing story that just stopped me from MakingMoves to play counselor?

Well the answer is NONE OF THE ABOVE. I am asking because I believe in a few things, as you have come to realize through my blog, and one notion which I would like to share with you today is this: His, Hers & the Truth. Completely makes sense when you think about it.

So let’s break this down. People, when experiencing most things in life, view them through a skewed perspective (not surprising and not wrong either): their own. For example, a gentleman opening the door for an older lady can be viewed by one patron as a very nice young man who’s civil, kind, polite… While another patron, witnessing the very same thing, could think that he just opened the door to look good for the older lady’s younger attractive relative or friend who’s walking right behind them… See! Now even I don’t know what the TRUTH is, I’m merely establishing the fact that it is very easy to look at the same situation through completely different lenses.

When a person tells you a story I think you would be simple minded to just accept it at face value. If you think it’s rude to make such a judgmental statement please think of the closest people to you and identify the following: the negative Nancy, the drug addict, the drama queen, the over achiever, the leader, the follower, the successful one and so on. I promise you that each one of these individuals has their own set of beliefs and sees the world differently, so if your closest friends can have their own agendas, why wouldn’t a friend or, even better, a stranger?

What I am proposing here is taking a second to “Consider the Source” and remember that there is always His version of the truth, Her version of the truth and of THE TRUTH (which I have come to find is usually a combination of both over exaggerated stories.)

So the next time you get that 911 phone call, or hear a complete stranger tell you the facts of life, or hear about the newest non-sense. Consider the Source and always ask… is this His, Hers or the TRUTH.

Please help me get more subscribers! I get new ones every time I blog and I’m trying to increase. Also, if there is a topic you would like to hear my thoughts on, please reply or email me at MakeMoves@KupahJames.Com. See you next Week!

HOLLAween

Hey Everyone, I just realized how complicated it was to leave a comment on my blog! Fixed that, so hopefully you will find it much easier to leave your thoughts, about my thoughts, each week? Also you will notice at the bottom, you can Like the blog through FaceBook, Pinterest and other social media outlets like Twitter. I tried to make it really easy to share with your friends, co-workers etc. So please don’t hesitate to share with anyone and everyone. I appreciate all of your emails, texts, and calls about the quality and messages my blogs have provided. I’m trying to hit 500 subscribers, so again, please share with others!

It’s that time of year! Where people either put on their masks or take them off; Lol. Per usual I wanted to think of something crafty and cool with swag, but, it’s Oct 24th and I have NOTHING. #GRRR. So, last minute trying to think of what to do with what I have!? Any ideas!? I know a group of guys playing mobsters and a few ladies doing the whole naughty cop, nurse, maid thing. Way to keep it original Ladies… LOL

Halloween or as I call it HOLLAween has always been just another day for me, nothing too exciting. I have thrown a bunch of parties where I live or gone to a few in the past, but as far as trouping it up to Salem and all that… No Thanks. HOWEVER, I have found great interest in the interests of others.

Source: Google Image Search for Halloween (orig from: brandthunder.com)

What I have found, and find quite interesting, is how many people walk around all year wearing a costume and actually use Halloween as their day to let the real person show. I think that’s pretty cool. Think about it; many of us wear uniforms or have a dress code for work, play, kids’ soccer games and cocktail dinners. There’s even a strict dress code to go clubbing in the city. BUT on Halloween there is NO DRESS CODE. In fact, you’re supposed to do whatever, be whatever and imitate anything you want. That’s pretty dope when you think about it.

Then there is the scary part: Witches, Ghosts, Goblins etc. Ummmm Ok. The last time I was scared was watching Thriller while being babysat by an older cousin. I couldn’t have been older than 6. At the end of the video when he turns and has the crazy cat eyes and starts laughing… What?! OH HELLL NO. I cried until my face hurt! LOL. Since then the scary thing was never my fancy, just doesn’t interest me much but I can appreciate the movie genre.

So let’s try to open this up? What scares you, or what movies are you still afraid of, fears you may have, memories that still give you goose bumps? Ill go first!

To this day whenever I drink Vodka I have nightmares. I don’t mean about demons and exorcisms. I mean like I crash my car and miss an event or my loved one and I have a huge falling out which causes a divide of some sort.

Your turn!

Things to be Grateful for during Summer 2012

Sup Peoples, Summer is here and I wanted to help spread some smiles and get everyone excited for it by listing the top things I’m grateful for and/looking forward to in the next few months.

1. The Sun – Hands down the most exciting part of the summer because it leads the way and opens the door for the rest of my “thankfuls”

2. Summer Schedules – Friends and friends of friends always seem to have a more flexible schedule leaving more room for fun outdoors or, simply more time with just the homies.

3. The inevitable tan that will come on the day they said it would be “overcast.” I love that when the sun ends up beaming down on your face leaving you with the “I didn’t know it was gonna be this nice out” face. Good luck with that one!

4. Food – Since I’m no stranger to food I always find that I’m interested in different foods during the summer months such as: salads, fruits, juices and other lighter foods. And of course, let’s not forget the cookouts! #YeaBuddy
5. Pools – That’s right I didn’t say water I said pools… I don’t like the ocean. I know I know. The salt kills me and I like to actually swim in water not just float and endlessly avoid waves. If you think that’s bad you won’t even get me to a beach w/o proper beach games such as Frisbee, soccer or my favorite: volleyball! Easily the most fun ever! But, if you think Kupah James is gonna sit still and read a book for three hours in the sun you would be mistaken. I may as well be watching baseball (equally as boring) s/o to Bang #NewHomie.

6. BIKINI’S, BIKINI’S, BIKINI’S, BIKINI’S, BIKINI’S, BIKINI’S! #NuffSaid

7. Frozen Drinks – Not much explanation needed other than, what is better than a Strawberry Daiquiri, Mudslide or a Piña Colada on the steamiest of days or by a pool somewhere!? And speaking of drinking how ‘bout

7a. DAY-DRINKING s/o to my Cuzo #Xavier (King of Day Drinking). You wake up, it’s your day off, you call a friend, it’s their day off too, you’re both hungry and the words “Can I start you off with something to drink”, all of the sudden sounds like having a gun to your head where it would just be wrong not to go with it, and order a freshly made alcoholic beverage. Next thing you know, you’re out of your mind hammered and it’s like 1:30pm….. #Hilarious #LTD… #LOL

8. Patios – There are so many great places with patios that I cannot list them but here are a few of my favorites: The seaport has a bunch of places, Marina Bay as well, and then there’s all of Newbury Street, North End, Back Bay (Liberty Hotel) and my favorite Monday night spot at #MiniBar.  Although if you want to check out the best new spot it would definitely be #Emerald just opened up last week and is Bomb (says Me!)

9. Family/Gatherings – Whether it’s spending time with the family during gatherings or visiting family in other locations, both can be a lot of fun! You can be catching up on activities and joking about past gatherings or sharing inside jokes only your family has (and we all have them.)Want proof? Think of the last time where you had to explain to a guest why everyone laughs hysterically whenever someone says “El Culo Cagao” after anyone blurts out “I got it”….? Exactly. If you just got lost ask a Spanish person.

10. Summer – It’s the Summer list that could go on forever but it shouldn’t be because you would be reading too much and not enjoying your Summer! We only get 3…3.5 months out of the year, so get out there and enjoy any one of these things on the list, make the most of the beautiful weather and enjoy each second because we only get one Summer a year! I hope to see each and every one of you who reads this, and please feel free to add to this list in “Comments”.

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Spring into New Beginnings

Now that Easter has passed and it’s officially Spring, I wanted to talk about something you should all make a point to try out…. Day Dating!

Day dating is usually cheaper than night dating, but can be more rewarding. Today it can be very difficult meeting someone of a similar nature with common interests and personalities. So if and when you do, a Day date may be the best route. It allows you to see the person and interact, talk, share, listen, laugh and of course ASSESS and Analyze. Trust me, as a Male I analyze with the best of them.

Day dating gives you an opportunity to COMMUNICATE! Get to KNOW the other person, get to ENJOY the other person, and get to RECONNECT with the other person. These are all really important things to achieve and maintain. Relationships aren’t always easy so you should enter them with an honest impression and understanding of each other and then, it’s equally important to keep things fresh and exciting! In other words, keep it #Authentic!

Do an activity that allows the opportunity to talk, discuss, share, eat and LAUGH. Try to ask questions that really allow you to get to know the person and see if there’s a real connection. Be honest with them and with yourself. Then, definitely go for it 😉

………Hold their hand! (What’d you think I meant?) Ha! KJ #CoSigned

If you’re already a couple, go on day dates to keeps things interesting! Don’t maintain a routine. Make a real EFFORT to try something new. To try something you DON’T want to do (you may surprise yourself.) Ask your person about a topic you don’t know about and LEARN FROM them. Tell them something THEY don’t know. Encourage each other. Give yourselves opportunities to grow!

I’d first recommend that you DON’T go to the movies. But, if going to the movies is completely your thing, switch it up. Go to a movie that you’d never see, or let them pick one, and then you pick one. You may find you’ve enjoyed something different, or you can make fun of the experience later and laugh over the idea that you actually watched them. Just talk about it afterwards and stick it between an activity and a meal before or after that allows you to COMMUNICATE! 

As always, I would LOVE to hear what you all think and any fun day date ideas you may have?!

#KupahJames Recap from the Past Month

On looking back at the past month I realize how much FUN I’ve had! It can be crazy running a business and it can be exciting and creative and challenging and #motivating and (yes this could be about 10 blogs! So, I digress HA!) But, I’ve really been having a BLAST and trying out a lot of new or different things and looking at life in different and fun ways! SO I thought I’d share some of that and give you all a look into this past month at things you may not normally hear about from me!
 
In the past month:
 
My Favorite:
-Movie: The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo
-Song: Somebody that I used to know by Gotye f/Kimbra
-Creative Talent: “Walking Off the Earth”
-Venue: The New Revere Hotel
-New Grown & Sexy Spot: Minibar on Monday’s “Unplugged”
-New Equipment: Beats by Dre Pro headphones and IPAD 3! Phenomenal
-New EXPERIENCE: HONEY WHISKEY!!! What?! TRUE FAN FOR LIFE
 
Funniest Moment: A new friend wore my Jordan Concords at Bond on Sat night (They were more comfortable than her heels.)
 
New Thing I Learned: That my fire is not everyone elses and I’m trying to learn how to deal with that concept. #NotEZ
 
New Thing I Got Into or, I am Interested in: I’m in interested in a new book I put down months ago but recently picked back up. Emotional Intelligence #YES
 
New Challenge (We all face ’em!): My Challenge is my gift; that is to assist in spreading the contagion of smiling and laughter to everyone that I come in contact with.
 
Best Moment: Easy! Having a conversation with a complete stranger recently. Which was also the best part of that night. Expect the UnExpected… 😉
 
Sidenote from the Past Month: Had the most mature argument with a Close Friend and nobody stormed off or got offended! Can you believe it? Both of us were objective and stayed on task to come to an understanding about our differences of opinion. Both of us listened to the other, both were open minded to other possibilities, and both are even closer now because of it! I think it’s because both of us entered into it with NO EGO. 
 
-TIP for the next time you get in an argument: try to lose the ego and understand that someone you care about is not attacking you, nor are they attempting to insult you by expressing a thought, or a concern. Perhaps w/o the ego one might be able to see the real issue and begin to efficiently solve the problem. #JuSayn
 
As always, I’d love to hear what new or fun things YOU all have been up to or experienced lately!! #Share