This week is for Young Adults (kids) and my Big Kids (Adults) so share with anyone whom fits into either of these two categories. Still with me? Good.
Parents and their children are notoriously getting into arguments which, at the end of each encounter, leave both parties feeling a little defeated. I have had my fair share of ups and downs with my own parents (mother) and even if I feel right in my argument, I still feel like a sack of potatoes shortly thereafter. There’s just something about the connection with parents that does that to you.
Per usual I was talking to one of my closest friends about parents and parenting and, while I don’t have any children of my own, please allow me to shed light on what I think happens between Adults and their respective Youths.
As a youth we are taught to mind adults simply because they are adults; no questions asked. We are taught to be honest, share, pay attention, be polite, wear our seat belts, obey rules and laws, believe in the Easter Bunny, leave fallen teeth out for an imaginary woman with wings who will somehow get into my locked fortress of slumber only to sneak into the space between my drooling face, pillow and mattress to take out the fallen tooth and replace it with a dollar bill of which is most likely bigger and heavier than she is which makes me wonder where she keeps all of these $1 bills in the first place? Sighhhhhhhh.
My point is that we look up to our parents while we are young and I think there may be some gaps in between. Now we’re left with how to bridge this transition from childhood to adulthood and what happens when children are no longer children.
I want to note that I still look up to my mother and lots of parents for the sacrifices and commitments they have made to their children. But, parents no longer are in a position to hold you accountable for table etiquette and convince you of imaginary characters. So because the teaching (for the most part) is done parents can feel left in the dust by their children.
Youth will be always be ahead of Adults in regards to technology, language, slang, fashion and modern day trends because that’s new and evolving daily and the youth, who have NO responsibilities can keep up with the changes daily unlike the adults who are still sitting in traffic trying to reach DD or Starbucks before the morning meeting at 9am sharp.
Conversations now sound like this “(Insert your name here) you have all the time in the world for your friends but never anytime for you family”, “You should be careful with the guy/girl because I heard a story in Texas of a guy who did blah or a girl who tried to blahhhhhh” Or my personal favorite “Kupah you should slow down, you try to do too much and maybe if you showed some patience….Blahhhhh” catch my drift?
What I think parents need to understand is that while the child should never take the role of parent, parenting needs to evolve even if nothing else around them doesn’t. Parents need to trust the investment of time they put into their children to make good, smart decisions, and hang with the right crowd and get enough sleep.
I am 30 years old graduated top of my undergraduate class with two bachelors degrees, worked for the state for 7yrs, created and operate a 6 figure company, teach fitness, I’ve been in magazines and billboards and my mother will still say to me “watch out” and “be careful” or “I do too much” Did I miss something?
I understand that parents never stop feeling like parents and from the bottom of my heart I hope mine never stops. But I am suggesting that all parents evolve in their relationship with their youth. Evolve into a role of counsel and support; children will reach out for advice and support when it’s wanted and really needed.
In a lighter sense, you can evolve with the times through your Youth and learn some things from them in turn. One suggestion: Youth get their information from smartphones, social media and conversations with friends. Adults get it from the tainted, spun, biased news…. Stop watching the news and get outside with your youth. Facebook and Twitter are not the enemy, Fox 25 news is! Lol. Learn to text and snap chat, tweet and email, Skype or FaceTime back and forth, use an app, you might learn something and have something new to relate to and discuss with your Youth!
There’s plenty of love out there and we all have it inside of each and everyone of us. We just need to open up and MakeMoves…. Until next time!