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What’s Next?

All I wanna do in this world while I’m here is feel like I’m leaving it “just” a little better than the way I found it. I have an onslaught of goals to reach before I leave this planet but this would undoubtedly be one of most dear to me.

I have seen many things in my short life and I’m looking forward to what’s next. I have been able to bear witness to some pretty horrible things which has allowed me to truly appreciate the beautiful things. This world is full of manic, sensitive, tough, enlightened, frightened, mean, loving and insightful people.

Seeing a sunset on a beach while on vacation is one thing but, looking out your apt/home window on a random Tues before the sun resigns for the day and overlooking all the things you have done in that day is breathtaking. Of course white sandy beaches are a must but long talks about life are cornerstones of my life and my inspiration to #DoBetter.

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I receive so many texts, emails, and messages from those of you who are out there reading my thoughts, fears, jokes, concerns and wants. I can’t express the feeling I get when I know that someone in Missouri reads my blog or that someone in Kansas took my advice on a first date (interview) lol.

Reaching out and sharing whatever gifts I may have with the rest of the world is what I seek. I don’t think I’m better than any man and I’m sure not better than any woman (Goddesses), but I do believe that I have certain talents that compel me to be around others.

I love being around people; makes me feel like I’m living. I know that people need “alone time” but I love groups, social gatherings, teams and really anything that brings a bunch of like minded people to the same place.

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However I can’t do concerts, and large capacity events like sporting games… Agreed we are all like minded in cheering on the team we like the most but seeing the underbelly of people sometimes really discourages me at my core. Not to mention my couch is way more comfortable than $10 hot dogs, lines of traffic and poor seats. lol.

 

I’m looking forward to the challenges coming in the future but I’m also craving the new experiences for which I’m about to face head on. No one likes the bad stuff but what would life be if we didn’t have something to compare the good stuff to?

Would we really even know what’s good or not? I’m always trying to raise questions in your mind as to how you view things.. well… what’s next for you? What has life taught you so far that you want to use for your tomorrow? What hasn’t happened yet that you wish does? What have you experienced so far that makes you want more of it?

Please email me and tell me what it is. I want to see each one you #MakeMoves and make the most out of this life. It isn’t for anyone else except yourself. When you reach the end of your trip do you want to look back and think of the things you never did or remember all the times you took a chance and said yes, welcomed the challenge and stood up to the doubters? Which version do you want?

Thanks so much for reading along with me and being a part of my journey as I hope I’m helping you in yours. #Friends #PenPals Until next time and please share and post and subscribe… :)

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Top 10 Ways to keep an eX and eX

It’s Valentine’s Day.. You either love it or hate it. You’re either single or not. If you’re single – embrace it. Make Moves with your life, Do You. Spend time with your friends. Party hard.

But, whether you’re single or with someone, this day can bring up some crazy emotions.. People are always talking about how much it sucks to be single, or how great it is, or professing their loves for their significant someone. No one ever talks about the eX-Factor.

On Valentine’s Day you might be tempted to reach out to an eX and rekindle some flame.. or you’ll hear from one. So here’s a different kinda post that might be useful to you:

Top 10 Ways to Keep an Ex an Ex

  1. Delete the Number
  2. Ignore them!!!! Ignore them so much it starts to piss you off when they reach out.
  3. Find someone better
  4. Think about the times you wished you were single
  5. Make Plans w Friends
  6. Watch Good Break Up Movies and/or listen to Break Up Music
  7. Ask your closest most trusted friends to remind you of the reason they are given the Ex Title
  8. Think about the annoying times
  9. Have too much pride to look “crazy” or “desperate”
  10. Start a new hobby, class, go on a trip so you start a new chapter without any association of them

Have you used any of these? Anything missing from this list? Anything SO TRUE on this list? Let me know!

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Make $, Spend $

“I want to live my youth not experience my age.”…

That came to me one day while debating with another about dollar bills and what to do with them, how to save it, make it, blah blah blah. I realize the importance of rainy days and/or emergencies. I know that saving money is one key to a financial security as well as ones future. We are told to manage dollars and live on a budget. Not to live beyond our means; the list continues and as we grow older we only hear more sophisticated versions of “Save Money”.

If I would like to retire young enough to enjoy some fruits of my labor then saving money is a necessity.

What if I’m to be a family man? Then my family is a wonderful reason to save. Save Save Save! A lesson they teach early in school and continue to encourage this value as life continues.

What if I wanted to just be a spend thrift and die broke?

What “They” don’t teach is how to do both, enjoy the money we’re earning now and be prepared for the future.

Let’s remember how we came into this world and how we are leaving it. Most likely it will be in a similar fashion: Broke, little to no clothing and hungry. What I mean by this is that you can’t take all that money you save with you after this life and since we haven’t figured out the exact science to say when most of us are going to die, why am I supposed to save ALL THIS MONEY?

I personally don’t want to visit Aruba and/or Hawaii in my 60’s or 70’s when I have an inhaler and a bum knee, you might but, not me. I wanna run on an Aruban beach NOW and possibly with my walker when I’m 90. Lol. I want to wear nice suits that fall on my shoulders perfectly, I would love to see something magical early in life but then be able to revisit it later on in case I realize I wasn’t mature enough to appreciate it the first time. I want to work hard and thus play harder and when my time comes I won’t feel like I was too busy saving my money to enjoy some of the freedoms and luxuries it can provide.

Don’t be fooled.. I do get it!

The average adult, with the aid of medical and technological advancements, can now live longer and may need more money saved to sustain. A soon to be grandmother is expecting her first granchild or an additional family member then I see the need to be watchful of saving. If one parent is serving the country in a military capacity then I understand that. I could go on about why living longer could/would be completely justified in needing to save more.

For me… I want to live long enough to say that I have “lived”. Simple. We have all heard phrases like “live life to the fullest” or “live like there’s no tomorrow” however I do not believe we take that to its full potential. I want to be mindful of doing that.

I live life every single day, take chances, meet new people, welcome good change while learning from poor change. I appreciate the awards and apologize for my shortcomings (well some of them) lol. I live! I push myself and refuse to be stationary by society’s expectations or demands. I set my own. So how does this relate to the title of this blog?

As a child in a single household we survived by the strongest most intuitive bold woman I will ever know: my mother. Welfare, section 8, food stamps all were part of my adolescent stages. While one half of my creation did exactly what was asked/required of her she could not protect me from the horrible humiliation I felt due to our financial situation. No one could have, it was a necessary experience I was to live and learn from. And believe me I learned…

I have successfully completed high school w 4 years perfect attendance, double majored during my undergraduate career, shared 7 years of my life working for the Norfolk County D.A.’s office while building a high end sophisticated entertainment company. Let me assure you I’m just getting started and I plan on going until I can’t go anymore.

Work hard, play hard, live bold, challenge conformity, dare to be different, question authority and believe in your own ability to #MakeMoves

See you all next time!

Roll ‘Em

The thing that I feel the most lucky and thankful for is my family and friends. But, a close second is that I get to wake up and love every second of what I do for work every day!

It’s easy to follow society’s plan, It goes something like this..

  1. Schooling
  2. Secondary Schooling
  3. Job/Career
  4. Find a Mate/Partner
  5. Co-Habitate
  6. Pets
  7. Pro-Create
  8. Save money
  9. Raise Family
  10. Retire
  11. Eventually punch the ticket..

While all of that sounds great it also sound a little cookie cutter and boring to the opportunistic mind of me and others like me. There are so many things each person should attempt to experience but in order to experience different is to explore different, think different, believe different and want different.

I believe I am different and therefore I behave differently resulting in a different sort of life experience for me. I am both happy and nervous by this state of being but that’s the point. Being nervous isn’t something society says is ok. We are supposed to make comfortable, calculated decisions for everything, REALLY? Nah! I say NAY!

I say make safe decisions and risky decisions combined. Put yourself in a situation to live differently than everyone else. Does that mean go out and buy a Lamborghini? Well maybe but that’s not my point. My point is to try things outside your comfort zone and you just might make your comfort zone a bit bigger.

Make a list of things you would like to try but never have and how you could try them safely. Then implement that list and try one at a time, see if anything changes?

Let me know what your list looks like!

“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.”

~ C. JoyBell C.

 

Happy Thanksgiving

Hey Friends, Followers, Subscribers and Family. Hope everyone is ready to eat some good food and maybe see some close ones you have been missing while Making Moves and staying busy as most of us are.

First I would like to say Thanks to My Editor and Chief (Sami P) for helping me to find my voice and share these thoughts and opinions with each of you. While we we don’t see a lot of commenting from our readers we do see a lot of traffic via texts emails and phone calls regarding the likes and thoughts of all of you and we thank you for that. It wouldn’t be possible if she didn’t take the time to perfect my thoughts, organize them and provide you all with a glimpse of what Kupah James thinks, feels and likes to share with you all. So a super big SHOUT OUT TO YOU S to the P!

Instead if I posted a blog about being thankful which is relatively cliche, we thought it would be better to share some very popular memes with you to then share with your loved ones on Thanksgiving! So without further (ado) below are some random memes that I like and I hope you get a kick out of them too. There is not a method to the order, rather laughs and tickles to keep you high spirited as the holidays begin.

Enjoy and please comment, repost, share, and like everywhere and anywhere! Thanks 4
giving me your time each and every week.

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Guest Post: Tis the Season… Of Busy Things

…Or as I more affectionately like to call it.. The Festival of Obligations. Now that sounds bad right?

September comes and I’m super excited for the Fall season – it’s my favorite, hands down. I’m enjoying the weather, the leaves and building anticipation for the holiday season.

Then the calls, texts and emails start coming in. I don’t know the actual statistics.. but, it seems to me that 90% of the population was born in the Fall. Every weekend from October – end of December has birthdays, football parties, holiday parties (Halloween weekend before and weekend after, night before Thanksgiving, Black Friday, weekend off, 3 day Columbus day weekend, Holiday parties every weekend of December..), baptisms, births.

I immediately feel overwhelmed, tired and BUSY! The first weekend of events came and I felt dread looking down the long road to January.. until I showed up and had a ton of fun!

Then the dawning realization came over me.. Yes, it’s a lot of activities. Yes, my weekends are full. But, with awesome, celebratory, fun events with all of my favorite people!

This is an amazing and fulfilling time of year. For all of those weekends I do nothing and feel like I should be “doing something” or looking for an activity to do or meaning to catch up with friends or visit family, I now have all of that handed to me on a platter with no planning required. And, more importantly, I get to share in some incredibly special moments with my closest friends.

So, while you’re running around and heavy sighing when your coworkers ask if you have plans for the weekend, try to focus on the memories you’re building, traditions you’re starting and fulfillment you’re gaining.

I’m going to continue calling it the Festival of Obligations because as bad as it sounds on the one hand, on the other, it sounds pretty darn funny.

And, in case you were wondering, I’m busy this weekend.

Thank you to Kupah for asking me to guest post this week!

—Sami

*Note: I did not coin the term Festival of Obligations – I owe all of the credit to my former boss 😉

6 Rules to Live Life

This isn’t really a movie review, but you can probably see I got something out of it and I think you should definitely check it out. It was one of those things.. I’m watching it and then I heard a line, cleaned my ear out and was like, “say what?!”

That sh*t was real!

The movie is People Like Us starring Chris Pine, Michelle Pfeiffer, Olivia Wilde, Elizabeth Banks and Jon Favreau. The cast should be enough for you all to watch it 😉 Real quick, the movie is about Chris Pine’s return home after his father dies and he finds out about a sister he never knew he had. Craziness ensues.

Seriously though: great talent, deep film, legit life lessons.

The following are 6 quotes from the movie that made an impact on me and I hope they will for all of you. I don’t want to add my own comments because I think they speak loudly on their own. Instead, I hope it sparks a discussion between us and between you and whoever friend/coworker/spouse, etc.

1) If you like something because you think other people will, it’s a sure bet that nobody will.

2) Most doors in the world are closed so if you find one that you want to get into, you sure as hell better have an interesting knock.

3) Everything that you think is important isn’t, and everything that you think isn’t important, is.

4) Don’t shit where you eat.

5) Lean into it, outcome doesn’t matter, be there for it.

6) Never sleep with someone who has more problems than you.

#NuffSaid Share this post on FB, Twitter, Pinterest. COMMENT. Let me know what YOU think!

Previous Posts related to Movies:

Movie Review: World War Z

Top Ten Worst Jobs In or On a Movie

Black Swan

Fall Mornings

Rolling over noticing the sun is up and already beaten you to the start of a new day. You’re not late for anything but you certainly didnt make the early whistles of dawn whispering “it’s time to wake up”. A morning yawn and cat-like stretch causes you to realize the slight drop in temperature from weeks past.

Only when you step outside the thought of a light jacket crosses your mind. There’s a distant fog slowly backing away from your vision. It didnt rain but your vehicle has the slightest touch of dew, the air exhales and the sun approaches it’s position in the sky.

Sun Glasses and Scarf season is here! Fall is an awesome time of year for Klass and myself!

3 Reasons why I’m looking forward to Fall:

  1. Chocolate Bar starts back up! No excuses, come to Chocolate Bar any Saturday for brunch and enjoy amazing food, the best of downtown Boston and sounds by a Klassmate or yours truly 😉 See this post for more details.
  2. Klass Universal Busy Season* It’s the season of Mitzvahs, holiday parties, seasonal weddings.. Time to #MakeMoves! As an aside, stay posted for regular event updates on the blog. I’ll be highlighting an event each week showing you some of the best Klass has to offer and some unique and fun aspects of the event/group itself.
  3. FOOTBALL! – Nuff said. Cannot contain my excitement. You now know where and what I’ll be doing every Sunday.

3 Ways you can make your Fall awesome:

  1. Start a new fitness routine! Get focused NOW before you’re dreading the holiday weight gain. There a ton of Fall races, many of them for charity, sign up for one and build a training plan.
  2. Pumpkin. Now, I’m not really a coffee drinker. But everyone else in my life is going bananas over Pumpkin coffee, pumpkin chai tea.. even my roommate is going on about pumpkin hummus and pumpkin muffins. So, I don’t know – embrace the Fall spirit 😛
  3. Embrace the Back to School season* It’s still back to school season for some of you and even if it’s not, take advantage of it and Shop for a new outfit – go buy a new Fall item; infinity scarves, jackets, running tights. Or, Start a Book – there are so many reasons why you should read more, pick up a book or download one to your iPad or other electronic device and then send me some recommendations.

Welcome Fall!

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New Strategies for Every Excuse

I’m constantly reflecting on ways to make the most out of my day, my life, my company and I think the biggest thing I run into when I discuss #MakingMoves with others is that they don’t know how to start or where to start. I’ve written a few blogs about that, but that doesn’t cover all of the other excuses. I say excuse, not to be harsh, but because that’s all it is and I think that can be more motivating for people. No one wants to be accused of making excuses!

So, today, let’s talk about strategies for every excuse; non-specific excuses, specific excuses including a few I hear most often.

What’s a non-specific excuse? I can’t, why should I, I don’t really need a change, I don’t even know what I want, why does it matter, it’s just how it is, I’m happy outside of work, so what does it matter if work is good? I’m happy at work, so what does it matter outside of that?

Well I’m here to tell you that you can, to be happier/make a difference to yourself or others/fulfillment/success, if you’re reading this, you probably do, you can still start somewhere, it matters because what you put out is received by others – negativity breeds negativity, happiness breeds happiness, it doesn’t have to be, you’re crazy.

The first strategy is just adopting a different general way of thinking; believing you can and wanting to. From there you can work into more specific strategies for more specific excuses 😉 Start by making a list of 5 positive things that will come from whatever change you’re looking for, then 5 things you could do to work towards that (ex: make this list, update your resume, get 30 minutes of extra sleep, drink more water, schedule one hour a week of you time to do something nice for yourself.)

Let that list create new habits and new things to look forward to and turn into 10 things, etc.

Specific excuses! We all know what these can be: I don’t have enough money, Its too late, people will be mad at me, people will think I’m crazy, what if I get rejected.

Rewind to previous paragraph: The first strategy is just adopting a different general way of thinking; believing you can and wanting to. This is the toughest thing to do with specific excuses, so if you can make it over that hump. Just trust that somehow you can do it and WANT to do it – you really can start seeing changes.

Another difficult strategy you NEED here is to……. Just start! It sounds so easy so it can’t be, right?! WRONG! Just start. Just show up at that fitness class, just step outside in your sneakers and you’re bound to start running. Maybe you aren’t the best, maybe you don’t run a mile, but you’ve started. Everything else will just come with time.

You want to go back to school? Just make an appointment with an advisor, chances are they’ll do the rest of the strategizing for you. You want to switch jobs? Just start looking at job postings. It’ll start being motivation enough to take the next step.

In this space it’s helpful to write down or think about or talk about some questions. What do I need to get the job I really want? (degree in something specific, a good reference, to finish my short story, etc) How do I increase my salary? (request a performance eval, submit for a promotion, think about a new job/career path) Be healthier! (Do I want to start with my diet or with exercise? What are some things about my grocery list I could start changing? How could I drink more water throughout the day? What types of exercise would I enjoy?)

From there you should have a pretty good list of starting points and how- tos!

Some takeaways from this post:

  • Believe/trust that you can make changes/achieve goals
  • Make a conscious decision to WANT to make      changes/achieve goals
  • Make a list!
  • Just START/Just SHOW UP
  • Flesh it out with questions

The best way of getting through that first one is to soul search and be honest with yourself. If you can’t be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with? Think about what excuses you’re telling yourself. Put them on paper or in the Notes app on your phone and look at them. Are they so big? Don’t you want to start erasing them? As scary or just lazy as you feel when looking at them.. think about how great it would feel if you could look back and say you got past them and started being happier.

Live Laugh Love – Looking to Summer 2013

Summer is almost upon us and the warm weather usually brings out the smiles in us Bostonians. For some of us it is time of vacations, tanning, shorter work days and longer weekends, more time with a partner or the family, car washes and cook-outs.

For others it’s not as positive; unemployment is still very high, some individuals did not do the amount of work required to attain necessary certifications to properly move forward, some relationships are ending, homes have been lost and friends have gone different directions. With all of these things going on for many of us I think it is necessary to reflect inward instead of outward. To stop for a minute and attempt to assess your current situation and see it for what it really is, not for what you hope it to be. Then and only then, once you have seen what you have created or what your reality is – do you MakeMOVES and transform your reality into something you can accept or bring to the next level.

When thinking about reflecting on this, I think for me, the best thing about my life is that it is mine to live and do with it how I see fit. And yours is too! However you want to digest that depends on how you want your story to play out in the end. To help you think this through, I want to talk about the phrase, Live, Laugh and Love. Haven’t we all seen that on a card, tattoo, signage in a person’s home or keychain?

I challenge you to do three things:

LIVE a better, happier, substantial life. One in which you do the things you want to do, including sometimes things you don’t want to do. Do things NOW, patience is subjective and situational…Everything worth doing doesn’t have a calendar date but may have an expiration date so do it now and wait later. I really kinda like that last statement… “Do IT now and WAIT later.”

Laugh at yourself all day and every day. You should be the funniest person you have ever met in your life, when someone else laughs at you, laugh with them, watch comedies, remain light hearted and do not allow the weight of the world to eclipse the beauty of Laughter. If you know someone who is funnier than you, then dammit follow that person on twitter or instagram read their blog but whatever you do, LAUGH.

Love EVERYTHING, your enemy, your ex, your boss, gardens and rival sports teams. Love your family, pets, neighbors; even angry people on the road. Love long lines and traffic, dirty one dollar bills, allergies and mythical creatures that visit you in the night to talk about politics….(too much?) ok, let’s bring it back. LOVE everything because in everything is love or the potential for and/or to love. I don’t mean love like in the notebook (you must watch this movie) but love as an appreciation for the wonder that brought us here as a people and what makes this world go round. This earth, and all of us, will not be here forever. Play till the last second and love each success and defeat. Because when the game is over kids, it doesn’t matter what your win and loss percentage is…I promise you that. What matters is that you showed up prepared to play and had to courage to play (in case I lost you Playing means to LOVE).

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To simplify the above I received this passage below from a person close to me and it spawned this blog post so I thought I would add it at the bottom for you to enjoy. Take in the message from the above and below and let me know if you think differently? Which side of you do you feed and Why? Are you the best version of yourself? If not then let’s get you there through Living, Laughing and PLAYING (I mean LOVING)

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An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life.

“A fight is going on inside me,” he told the young boy, “a terrible fight between two wolves. One is evil, full of anger, sorrow, regret, greed, self-pity and false pride. The other is good, full of joy, peace, love, humility, kindness and faith.”

“This same fight is going on inside of you, grandson…and inside of every other person on this earth.”

The grandson ponders this for a moment and then asks, “Grandfather, which wolf will win?”

The old man smiled and simply said,

“The one you feed.”

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