Ok here’s the scenario: a friend calls and tells you that his “Psycho Girlfriend” just did something psycho and he’s confused and doesn’t know what to do. He’s freaking out and all over the place trying to make a decision; Does he leave her, how to fix it, how could she be so crazy? All the while I’m sitting on the other end waiting for a pause… Once I hear it, I ask, “well what did you do?”
Now here’s where you have to pay attention. Am I A) Automatically blaming him for her actions, B) Not trusting him to tell me the truth, C) Secretly happy for his distress LOL ( #JuSayin people like that exist), or D) I want to hear more of this amazing story that just stopped me from MakingMoves to play counselor?
Well the answer is NONE OF THE ABOVE. I am asking because I believe in a few things, as you have come to realize through my blog, and one notion which I would like to share with you today is this: His, Hers & the Truth. Completely makes sense when you think about it.
So let’s break this down. People, when experiencing most things in life, view them through a skewed perspective (not surprising and not wrong either): their own. For example, a gentleman opening the door for an older lady can be viewed by one patron as a very nice young man who’s civil, kind, polite… While another patron, witnessing the very same thing, could think that he just opened the door to look good for the older lady’s younger attractive relative or friend who’s walking right behind them… See! Now even I don’t know what the TRUTH is, I’m merely establishing the fact that it is very easy to look at the same situation through completely different lenses.
When a person tells you a story I think you would be simple minded to just accept it at face value. If you think it’s rude to make such a judgmental statement please think of the closest people to you and identify the following: the negative Nancy, the drug addict, the drama queen, the over achiever, the leader, the follower, the successful one and so on. I promise you that each one of these individuals has their own set of beliefs and sees the world differently, so if your closest friends can have their own agendas, why wouldn’t a friend or, even better, a stranger?
What I am proposing here is taking a second to “Consider the Source” and remember that there is always His version of the truth, Her version of the truth and of THE TRUTH (which I have come to find is usually a combination of both over exaggerated stories.)
So the next time you get that 911 phone call, or hear a complete stranger tell you the facts of life, or hear about the newest non-sense. Consider the Source and always ask… is this His, Hers or the TRUTH.
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