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My Crash Course in Politics for Dummies

Every election I read the same Facebook statuses and hear the same debates and I always have the same questions about what it all really means. There are some things I’ve always known about but other things where I definitely wanted to learn more. For any of you who were like me, I wanted to share some of what I found out and ask some interesting questions.

What is a Republican and Democrat? What are the differences between the parties, really?

The Republican party was founded in the 1850’s in support of anti-slavery movements. Abraham Lincoln was the first Republican president. They’ve always been a supporter of business, high wages, high profits for economic growth. Transition this to modern Republican politics that center on social conservatism, global democracy and economics that favor lower taxes and deregulating.

The Democratic party is one of the oldest political parties in the United States and the world, beginning in America, with Thomas Jefferson, an original supporter of States’ rights. Since the era of FDR they focus on social liberalism and progressive rights and now have the main influence of African-Americans. This includes affirmative action, balanced budget, “Third Way” economy (free enterprise system mixed with govt intervention to help poverty and social injustice with progressive taxation.)

A lot of big words and terms. Most of what I hear and read is that most people say they are fiscally conservative but socially democrat. Being a fiscal conservative according to Wikipedia means, “Fiscal conservatives often consider reduction of overall government spending and national debt as well as ensuring balanced budget of paramount importance. Free trade, deregulation of the economy, lower taxes, and other conservative policies are also often but not necessarily affiliated with fiscal conservatism.” Being socially democratic, for most people, tends to mean you support Gay rights, rights of minorities and ethnic groups and women’s rights. (This is all just a summary of some overall points.. for crash course purposes.)

For some reason it seems that it’s too difficult for everyone to work towards common goals or compromise. This is why I mainly avoid politics!

I’ve also found that there are a lot of groups from both sides that support certain issues and then everyone assumes ALL  democrats stand for this or ALL republicans stand for that. Or because some democrats said this, then by voting for Obama you’re against this or that, etc. We should all know better than that. We run into that in daily life between friends on ANY issue. People have opinions and there’s no ALL or ALWAYS or NEVER. Somehow we can’t bridge those communication gaps between each other or in politics. End result…… Nothing gets achieved.

In my opinion, these types of mixed messages are what has dominated politics in my lifetime. Now for some interesting questions!

  • I had seriously wondered about the black vote along the Republican and Democratic divide. People assume if you’re black you’re Democrat (and maybe you are) but I wondered if there were many black people that were Republican. I don’t know the exact answer to those statistics but it did really get me thinking. People assumed I was voting for Obama, and I did, of course I did! I’m black AND Puerto-rican, I came from a welfare home and struggled to get an education that was harder for me to achieve because of my ethnicities and socio-economic background. But, I also own my own business and am becoming more financially successful so was it just because I’m black/spanish? I don’t know. It was interesting to learn though that the black vote started out on the Republican side before FDR’s New Deal and the civil rights movement swung the group to the other side.

I think the answer is that, for more people it may not have to do with history or with how it affects the larger group of people in your demographic, whether that’s your ethnic group, women, business people, etc. I think people vote for themselves and what matters for them and their family individually.

  • Now for the one question I can’t seem to find a clear answer on from ANYONE is why people are SO private about who they vote for. Why is it such a secret? Seriously, it’s not even that it matters to me, I’m more curious about WHY you’d rather share the intimate details of your relationship than your presidential vote!

I’ve been told it’s to avoid getting dragged into an argument over it. For example, one friend told me that it’s just annoying to be supported or attacked over it by people that may not even fully know what they’re talking about or what they’re supporting or attacking. People start to use the blanket statements “well you must not support women’s rights!” or “you realize this is going to sink our economy and we’ll be the next Greece!” ….. Maybe it’s not worth the headache? (I did read on FB that someone was blocked because of something they posted in their status last night – really?!)

At the end of the day I see voting not as a stand for one thing or the other, but as the opportunity to have a choice and to have a voice. I think we take it for granted sometimes that it’s automatic that we can vote and have heated debates and fight on Facebook over these things. We all are allowed to choose, whatever we want, whoever we want and do so publicly. That’s an amazing thing and regardless of who you voted for, I think it’s awesome that you took advantage of that chance. #ThoughtsOfAThinker

I’d love to hear what you all think and if you have any answers to these questions?!

Happy Halloween

Happy Halloween!

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As I’ve mentioned, I’m not huge into the scary movie thing, but I do find myself watching some during the month of October when I happen to be home and can’t figure out what to watch. The Roomies (or the Happy Couple) are always watching them in the living room during October, so sometimes I find myself grabbing one too. Some of those have included:

28 days/weeks later movies

–          I like the second one better than the first (I know I know.. sequel, really?!) BUT, if I’m going to watch a zombie movie, I want it to be a zombie movie. The first one was fine until they get to the base (won’t give any spoilers) and, as a film, I understand the element of the” living trying to survive” aspect and drama etc. But, I just enjoyed the second one being more zombie-centric.

Halloween (remake) movies (I know I know.. remake?! I don’t own the originals)

(maybe all of the judgement from the movies I want to watch is why I don’t watch these.. hmm)

Dusk Til Dawn (Salma Hayek.. nuff said)

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The Crazies

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Dawn of the Dead (Legit zombie movie for you fans out there!)

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Paranormal Activity

What Halloween movies do you enjoy?

What Halloween movies do you ALWAYS watch?

What Halloween movies do you NOT enjoy?

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I hope you all had fun! And, as always, were safe (and send me pics of your costumes below, to my FB or Twitter/Instagram @KlassUniversal or @KupahJames!)

Final Note: My thoughts go out to all families that were affected by Sandy this week. It’s important to appreciate what you have; tomorrow is never promised. 2 live is 2 love.

HOLLAween

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It’s that time of year! Where people either put on their masks or take them off; Lol. Per usual I wanted to think of something crafty and cool with swag, but, it’s Oct 24th and I have NOTHING. #GRRR. So, last minute trying to think of what to do with what I have!? Any ideas!? I know a group of guys playing mobsters and a few ladies doing the whole naughty cop, nurse, maid thing. Way to keep it original Ladies… LOL

Halloween or as I call it HOLLAween has always been just another day for me, nothing too exciting. I have thrown a bunch of parties where I live or gone to a few in the past, but as far as trouping it up to Salem and all that… No Thanks. HOWEVER, I have found great interest in the interests of others.

Source: Google Image Search for Halloween (orig from: brandthunder.com)

What I have found, and find quite interesting, is how many people walk around all year wearing a costume and actually use Halloween as their day to let the real person show. I think that’s pretty cool. Think about it; many of us wear uniforms or have a dress code for work, play, kids’ soccer games and cocktail dinners. There’s even a strict dress code to go clubbing in the city. BUT on Halloween there is NO DRESS CODE. In fact, you’re supposed to do whatever, be whatever and imitate anything you want. That’s pretty dope when you think about it.

Then there is the scary part: Witches, Ghosts, Goblins etc. Ummmm Ok. The last time I was scared was watching Thriller while being babysat by an older cousin. I couldn’t have been older than 6. At the end of the video when he turns and has the crazy cat eyes and starts laughing… What?! OH HELLL NO. I cried until my face hurt! LOL. Since then the scary thing was never my fancy, just doesn’t interest me much but I can appreciate the movie genre.

So let’s try to open this up? What scares you, or what movies are you still afraid of, fears you may have, memories that still give you goose bumps? Ill go first!

To this day whenever I drink Vodka I have nightmares. I don’t mean about demons and exorcisms. I mean like I crash my car and miss an event or my loved one and I have a huge falling out which causes a divide of some sort.

Your turn!

How to start being Happy

I talk a lot about happiness and positivity in my life and on this blog; How to identify it, how to keep it, the importance in spreading it, etc. I talk about those things in generalities and sometimes through stories. People have said they agree, they believe that too, they want to strive for happiness and positivity but they don’t always know how or where to begin. It can be hard to start somewhere positive and avoid the patterns of negativity or unhappiness that have been created out of habits. Habits of indifference, dirty looks, judgment, insecurity, laziness; all of the common things people do everyday and aren’t always aware that they’re doing.

How crazy is it that it can be HARD to be HAPPY or to be POSITIVE?! I don’t believe it should be, or that it really is.. I think people need to change their mindset and be proactive. To help get as many people started that truly want to be, I think you can begin with the fundamentals. The fundamentals that we’ve all learned or heard since we were kids: Manners and politeness (which lead to greater kindness.)

Not too long ago simple manners and politeness were standard teachings in households. Of course, this wasn’t/isn’t always the case, but for most, or at the very least it was expected in school. Somewhere down the road between suing each other, racial and cultural differences, rumors, social media bullying we have become so afraid to say anything to anyone. Sometimes when I say, “thank you” people are astonished that the words still exist. Seriously?!

People never seem afraid to point out when someone fails or makes a mistake, but rarely make the effort to say something nice or supportive. I’m confused, and slighted, that while we can tear people down daily, not too many people have the courage to pick people up. Should you quit your job to rush to the aid of a loved one having a bad day? No! Should you try to be a superhero and put your realistic needs and priorities aside? No! But, looking someone in the eye and genuinely saying, “Hey, I like that outfit,” “Nice job today,” “Congratulations on that man, that’s awesome,” “I appreciate you always being such a good friend,” can’t be so difficult!

I spend most of my day smiling and constantly thinking about forward progress. I’ve been on the other side of the tracks, I’ve made choices I don’t want to make again and I have no intentions of going backwards. So, when I meet people, my confidence and energy are obvious, in fact, there are many who feel that my ego and persona are overdeveloped. And that’s ok, but to most who just enjoy me as I am, the way I enjoy them, feel that I must know I’m doing ok, that I’m happy, that I’m confident in who I am and where I am in my life, so why tell me? “He already knows.”

The problem with this is that if everyone goes around thinking this exact same thing, this results in me, or anyone, walking around never hearing nice things from the ones that matter the most. Strangers or acquaintances will say positive comments all of the time, but the feeling in friendships becomes “there’s no need.” That’s unfortunate, not just individually, but collectively. Because we all need motivation, inspiration, support and we also need to hear it and feel it. Telling everyone you love, that you love them everyday could be a lot of work, but personally, I would rather spend significant time of my life making someone else’s better because POSITIVITY is just as potent and CONTAGIOUS as MISERY. The mind is a beautiful thing and we all have more power and abilities than we think.

So, back to the beginning: How to start?

Spend some time each day telling someone something encouraging or positive. Smile more. Say thank you! And, this is a challenge I have for all of you who really want to SEE the effects of this:

Next time you are out to eat and the server brings over your food, he/she will ask, “Can I get you anything else?” If there is something you need, then ask for it, but before they leave, complete your request with, “Can I have a smile?” I guarantee the person will not be able to refrain from smiling, even if it’s a little one, you’ll see it! It costs nothing, but could mean EVERYTHING.

Thank you all for the support and the smiles :)

The Stuff Legends are Made Of..

Last week I came across this article posted on the New York Times website (cited below) about an interview with one of my all-time heroes and my favorite athlete of all time: Michael Jordan.  It revolved around a question in response to claims from Kobe Bryant that the 2012 USA Squad could beat the 1992 Dream Team. The question, “Was the 1992 Dream Team better than the 2012 USA Squad?” We all know what I would answer to that LOL!! But, reading how Jordan handled that conversation was unreal. He displayed a lot of the qualities I love most about him; his humor, his intelligence, his passion for the game and his (earned) confidence.

He used facts to drop some serious knowledge on the situation in the following excerpt from the article, “I heard Kobe say we were not athletic,” said a smiling Jordan as he sat in a golf cart puffing on his cigar while waiting to tee off. “But we were smart. He said we were too old, but I was 29 and in the prime of my career. Pip (Scottie Pippen) was 26 or 27, (Charles) Barkley was 29, Patrick (Ewing) was 29 and Chris Mullin was 29. Almost everybody was still in their twenties.” “  

The end is where the best quote from the article is, solidifying Michael Jordan’s status as #LEGEND No questions asked. “..I’d like to think that we had 11 Hall of Famers on that team and whenever they get 11 Hall of Famers you call and ask me who had the better Dream Team. Remember now, they learned from us. We didn’t learn from them.” (I just got chills)

There’s where the lesson to take away from the entire article, and what I wanted to point out here, truly lies. There should be a humble respect and acknowledgment for the lessons learned and the examples shown. Dedication and discipline to and in the game led Jordan and the Dream Team to the successes they had. Talent was without a doubt part of that, but as we can see from the arguments Jordan makes, it’s not the only thing.

Take the gifts and passions you have, apply hard work, stay motivated and you will find respectable, genuine and honorable success. #MakeMoves!

The entire article was a fun read, I strongly suggest you check it out and let me know your thoughts!

The Associated Press. “Jordan- 1992 Dream Team Better Than 2012 USA Squad.” www.NYTimes.com. 2012. July 12, 2012. http://www.nytimes.com/aponline/2012/07/12/sports/ap-oly-bko-jordan-dream-team.html?_r=3&ref=sports

 

Keep It Real..

Why do we do what we do? Does anyone really know? I know I have no idea but I’ll tell you what I do know: When I see something I want, I go for it and I have a natural drive to want more than what is necessary. Some view that as wrong while others salute me for it. I won’t make excuses for who I am, but, allow me to shed some light on the topic.

I do what I do for both selfish reasons and for comfort. I believe that knowledge allows for the ability to create things, have ideas, keep up with trends, etc; while talent usually dictates how well you might do at a particular job/career/hobby. Drive is the other motivating factor which will usually play a very important role in your success. You see we all are going to hit speed bumps in life. That’s LIFE. But sheer will and determination coupled with knowledge and talent (a natural or practiced skill) almost always will equal success. I know that success comes in different shapes and sizes. I respect that, I just want to be able to provide to others as well as myself, and I never bought into the “this or that” mentality (meaning you can have this Kupah or that Kupah.) My thought is, and always will be, “Why can’t I have them Both?” That mentality has worked for me so far, so why change it now? 

I want to share my knowledge and experiences with young adults and help them reach their goals as I am reaching mine. I want to see people feel better about themselves and I want each person to demand excellence for themselves and to never settle. I have lost friends because of my attitude and I will lose more in the future I’m sure, but a wise man once told me, “Say what you mean and mean what you say because those that Matter Dont Mind and those who Mind, Dont Matter”…..

I challenge all of you to wake up each day with intolerance to being lazy and sad. To smile with the purpose of infecting those around you with it and in turn make you smile even bigger. Tomorrow is a new day but it doesn’t have to be the same new day. It can always be a different one. I always try to teach and preach the importance of your choices. I choose to be happy, smile and be positive in my behavior. That’s why others around me smile etc. I’m incredibly thankful for my mentality and hope to continue learning and growing as a person so that I may keep helping others while finding my own way.

I changed what could have been written for me, and I believe anyone has that power. You must commit to a new way of thinking; That is the first step to what I have found to be happiness. 

How do you make yourself happy? I would love to hear how some of you do it! Let’s share ideas and spread the wealth of knowledge!

#MakeMoves and #KeepItKlassy

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Words of Wisdom

“People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.”
I have always had high goals and worked hard for success. Every step of the way I have wanted my friends and family to be there with me. I believe you should always want to share in celebration and success with the people important to you. It’s also important to have people to support you on the way to reaching those goals. I’ve been really lucky in those respects. But, like all things in life, it’s not always as easy as that and it doesn’t alway work out that way.
 
Don’t let that stop you or change you! Maintain positivity! Keep a positive focus on your goals and choices. Because most of all, I believe that positivity will bring positive outcomes. Your positive energy will infect others and set examples for those around you. It will only bring you more joy and more success. That’s the secret to my success and the most important piece of advice I can offer. So #MakeMoves and stay #Motivated! #Positivity is the Road to #Peace & #Prosperity
 

Spring into New Beginnings

Now that Easter has passed and it’s officially Spring, I wanted to talk about something you should all make a point to try out…. Day Dating!

Day dating is usually cheaper than night dating, but can be more rewarding. Today it can be very difficult meeting someone of a similar nature with common interests and personalities. So if and when you do, a Day date may be the best route. It allows you to see the person and interact, talk, share, listen, laugh and of course ASSESS and Analyze. Trust me, as a Male I analyze with the best of them.

Day dating gives you an opportunity to COMMUNICATE! Get to KNOW the other person, get to ENJOY the other person, and get to RECONNECT with the other person. These are all really important things to achieve and maintain. Relationships aren’t always easy so you should enter them with an honest impression and understanding of each other and then, it’s equally important to keep things fresh and exciting! In other words, keep it #Authentic!

Do an activity that allows the opportunity to talk, discuss, share, eat and LAUGH. Try to ask questions that really allow you to get to know the person and see if there’s a real connection. Be honest with them and with yourself. Then, definitely go for it 😉

………Hold their hand! (What’d you think I meant?) Ha! KJ #CoSigned

If you’re already a couple, go on day dates to keeps things interesting! Don’t maintain a routine. Make a real EFFORT to try something new. To try something you DON’T want to do (you may surprise yourself.) Ask your person about a topic you don’t know about and LEARN FROM them. Tell them something THEY don’t know. Encourage each other. Give yourselves opportunities to grow!

I’d first recommend that you DON’T go to the movies. But, if going to the movies is completely your thing, switch it up. Go to a movie that you’d never see, or let them pick one, and then you pick one. You may find you’ve enjoyed something different, or you can make fun of the experience later and laugh over the idea that you actually watched them. Just talk about it afterwards and stick it between an activity and a meal before or after that allows you to COMMUNICATE! 

As always, I would LOVE to hear what you all think and any fun day date ideas you may have?!

ABC’s of K-Walities…

This blog is just something to read when bored or to spark up conversation… I’m interested to know what other adjectives you can come up with that are different from the ones you see here. We thought it would be funny to come up with an Alphabetized List of Qualities one would be searching for in a Significant other. Here are the ABC’s of….. Ummmmm…. Well who knows… It was fun!

A List of Qualities an Old Friend and I came up with one night for fun! Enjoy and reply with others please.

Shout Outs to MK for your thoughts and input!

Ass & Abs
   Brass & Brains
   Common Sense & Consideration
   Driven & Dangerous
   Etiquette & Eventful
   Fierce & Faulty
   Generous & Geeky
   Hilarious & Humble
   Intelligent & Insightful
   Justified & Juicy
   Kool-Aid & Killer
   Loving & Lov3r
   More Loving… & Motivator
   Neat & Notorious 
   Open & “Oops”
   Protective & Professional
   Quaint & Qualified (lol)
   Robust & Romantic
   Sexy, Soulful & Spontaneous
   Tough & Tasteful
   UnConditional & Unforgettable 
   Villain & Vibrant
   Wonderful & Willing
   Xtrodinary  & X-Tra Ordinary
   Youthful & “Yes” Aka “Hell Yea”
   “Zzzz” & Never Over Zealous……….
          

Virgo Man

Virgo Man

The, Virgo man is demanding, He doesn’t settle for second place. You must make him feel he comes first. He is mercurial, earthy; he usually says what he means – and, most often, He does mean what he says. If you are looking for a slick Romeo, look elsewhere. He is practical enough to be a good provider and sensitive enough to know when you’re pretending. He is practical, honest, and fair: he is also basically sky. He has difficulty expressing sentiment. His feelings run deep. But there is an emotional shell. You must be patient and, above all, loyal. If you’re considerate, he will rise above adversity and will strive to bring you the gift of happiness. He is the opposite of pretentious. You should aid in building his confidence. He needs a woman, who has faith in him, can appreciate his willingness to work toward and achieve major goals. Once he feels he can trust you, he is transformed; he changes from failure to success and devotes his energies toward your welfare.

Just thought I would introduce myself. Be back later with more.

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