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Chivalry…

Texts, Tweet, Private Messages, Instagram Likes, Tinder Swipes, Emoji’s and Snapchat… This is where chivalry lies today. I can argue in circles around myself about whether this is good or bad but I’m gonna leave that up to you. I will however attempt to lay it out for you to make the best most logical decision for yourself.

Back in the day man “courted” women by taking them to a show or or a bite to eat. Men would show up at her work place “uninvited” with gifts or flowers, he might stop by her stoop where her lady friends were hanging out after school or work. He might write her a poem or sing her a song, do a little dance or even make her a meal. Women would laugh and giggle, play coy and taunt, her friends were tease and whisper but everyone would be earnest and yes he was trying to date, sleep with and become romantic but he was allowed to be a man and she was pure enough to be a women. Those were the days… Or were they?

Today (in modern language) (See Key located at the bottom for words, phrases and acronyms unknown) Someone posts a W.O.D. selfie on IG and it is screen shotted by a THOT/Thirsty Dude, shared with a snapchat story then stalked on Facebook only to be followed on Twitter and swiped through on Tinder looking for a New Bae to pop up… Did you get all of that. I can do it again if you need me too. Keep Up! This applies to both men and women alike not just one side here. I place no blame on either side. I’m merely laying it all out here. Shall we go on?

Let’s….

We live in a “point the finger” society where its totally appropriate and necessary to blame and point the finger at everything and everyone accept ourselves (mirror effect). How we got there is irrelevant to this post and to be discussed in a later blog. We do not look in the mirror when she doesn’t respond or if he doesn’t call you back… We just blame that person for being “just like everyone else”. Now what about the part where you are acting like everyone else? Maybe? No? Just a little?

I’m not blaming her and I’m not blaming him so if there’s no blame then what? What’s the answer? Well here’s what I think it is? Technology while it obviously has its advantages also opens up the world making it largely smaller simultaneously. Men don’t have to go looking for a woman when he can find one Tinder and women don’t have to get to know just one man when she can get to know 7 off of her IG account. Men don’t have to ask what you’re about because your universe is online?! Women don’t need to keep you interested because she’s too busy taking selfies in her boy shorts.

Accessibility… everyone is so DAMN Accessible 24/7, smart phones and social media has lifted any privacy or culture of “time and place”. Now men expect women to respond immediately and women expect men to plan regularly because we have calendars in our phones and “read receipts” on our texts. We have geolocation apps and check-in options. We have snapchats stories, selfies, shared links, comments on status’, wifi, and hotspots galore and AHHHHHHHHH. Lol. It’s amazingly nightmarish. And inappropriately normal in 2014.

Women don’t cook, Men still don’t listen, Women do crossfit and Men cry and shape their eyebrows, Women make more money and Men take Dick-Pics and Selfies AND POST ONLINE! Come On?! Am I the only one who sees this terrible roller coaster of potential gender crisis? lol. Honestly it doesn’t even bother me that much but you know who it does bother? YOU. You’re single and can’t figure out why? Where are all the good men, how come all girls can do in public is post pics and like other people IG photos? How come the only conversation ever had is about IG, Facebook, Tinder, Twitter, Snapchat and the damn Kardashians. Who cares? Really Who cares!

Why are you home on a Friday night with no plans? Why didn’t he call you back? How come she hasn’t check my message and replied? How come she won’t drive here? Why can’t he make a plan? We are all too accessible. No “Me” time anymore woman who say they are working on themselves are just interested in someone else dude take the hint. Or how bout women stop hinting and just say your not interested. OMG? Did I just figure it out? Lol. #RocketScience

When a girl says “I can’t wait to go home and go to sleep” that should mean… She can’t wait to go home and go to sleep, but to some women it could mean “I have no plans and open to make one with you should you choose to ask me”… Yeah good luck with one ladies, let me know how that works out for ya? And fellas please please stop  taking nude selfies, girls are showing everyone just like you do when you receive one from a girl. #MindBlown #WhoWouldaThought

What do you think it is? What do you think makes Dating so Damn Difficult today? Where is chivalry? Dead? Hiding?

I just think it needs to be re-defined and re-introduced. Let’s work on that together and see if we can’t get two people to meet, get to know one another, fall involve and live happily ever after… What Say YOU?

If you need to find me please google me and send me an email off of my website it will notify my iPhone and I can respond through text while updating my twitter and posting selfies on IG after I took random pics and videos for my snapchat story hoping that one girl will send me a direct message and like my Klass Universal Page on Facebook. #LMFAO

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As Promised Key:

IG – Instagram

W.O.D. – Work of the Day most commonly used in Crossfit

THOT – That Hoe Over There (I didn’t make these up) #SMH

New Bae – A shortened version of the already short word “Babe” (yea ok) #SMDH

SMH/SMDH – Shaking My Head/ Shaking My Damn Head

 

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Titles…

Look kids, This is not the 1800’s or the 1900’s for that matter and with the advancement and influence of social media this topic needs to be talked about. Two people meet, they talk, they date and then they name their relationship for them to both know the do’s and don’ts, can and can-nots and the overall expectations moving forward and I’m thinking (Bleep That Noise)! Listen up cuz i’m only gonna “write” this once lol.

Titles can range from Dating to Flings to an elaborate list of other names people use to define their current relationship status.

What’s important to remember is that a title often is the beginning of the end for most men. And now a days women too.  When a man meets a woman and begins to court her he wants to call and text and pick her up and pay and listen and interact with her. He wants to be in her thoughts and he wants to impress her with whatever he has to offer. When a woman meets a man she is sizing him up to see if she can see what their kids will look like and what her name sounds like with with his last name attached, watching the way he eats and how he might be dressed and  so on.

Men and Women experience what is commonly known as the “honeymoon phase” where men are typically saying all the right things and performing all the right behaviors. Women are continuing to size up the man sharing every sweet detail with her closest friends. This is a great phase and we should hope to stay in this phase but unfortunately it doesn’t. Either an over emotional man (Huuuu) or the woman will begin asking about what tomorrow will bring. It starts with words like “So, I was wondering; or Where do you think this is going: or Do you want take it to next level? Or even do you think we should see other people?” At this point the Type A personality female or the common male is now beginning to sweat. Everything has been going so well, why would either of them want to mess that up? And it never happens at the right time is always during a romantic dinner or the fourth quarter of the NBA Finals or the Season Finale of Say Yes to The Dress…

Here’s the thing? I personally feel that titles tend to set expectations where sincerity used to live. Meaning instead of being sweet for remembering special days or sending flowers the other person is now required too and I have to say that is a game changer. I’m not speaking for all men and certainly for all women and i’m not even saying that this is true for anyone of you reading this post. But if the shoe fits…

However, I am saying that maybe, just maybe we don’t all need a title to be loyal or honest or faithful, sincere authentic or romantic. I for one feel that if a woman makes me feel a certain way and I make her feel a certain way then nothing would ever matter. I wouldn’t need a title to tell me who she was to me or how much I mean to her. All I would need is “SHE” and all she would need is He. Titles are for outsiders who need to understand what two people have, a social norm to help define what two people mean to each other. If you know anything about me to you know that i’m not one for conformity. NO, the woman I meet will be able to look into my eyes and read all the titles and safe places she will ever have to see or feel right there whether she’s in my presence or not. The only title ill need is her being exactly who she is when I met her and vice versa.

I’m not trying to imply that people shouldn’t have Titles at all. Like always i’m taking a topic and attempting to raise some questions to otherwise known as traditional behaviors or social norms and I would like to open up your minds to see other opportunities and ways of thinking.

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Mindstream…SHE…

So this one is a bit different so I hope it reaches as many people as possible. I blog because if you know me you know I have a lot to say and i’m always buzzing around about something. You know that i don’t complain but I do hold life accountable for its short-comings. lol

Most of my blogs are whatever comes to mind. Meaning sometimes its a conversation i have had with someone or a piece of art I see somewhere, It could be from a quote I read that gets my mind racing.  Inspiration to write can come from anywhere and I truly encourage any of you out there who haven’t tried it to do so. It’s extremely rewarding and for yourself.

This Blog Post is a little different than the norm. I have an interesting mind and it can go pretty far sometimes and every once in awhile I will take just one word and start writing whatever comes to me and I call it “MindStream” there are no boundaries or rules just words coming out (hopefully it makes some sense) but its intended to express an emotion, desire, fear, or even provide clarity to this world we are all living in. I hope you enjoy it and please share it with anyone and everyone. Subscribe as well!

SHE… will be loud in presence and respected in silence, long winded but straight to the point, she will be courageous in her efforts to withstand the tides of mis-guided torpedoes coming from any direction, sent from uneducated minds saturated in the wrong times, she will move to an internal clock and rhythm, she will Stand when others sit and remain productive when others are stationary, she will make points using facts not fiction or undeveloped thoughts plucked from any impulsive emotional highway, she will make mistakes, she will laugh often and cry in happiness, she will sleep safely, live aggressively and love with grand affections, she will care unconditionally and support with the clearest understanding of what needs to be done and has to be done. She will pause a SuperBowl 3rd Down play in the fourth quarter with her beauty and stifle the most educated or pompous men with a unique hybrid thought stream combined of emotion and rationale that is her Yin Yang and not and opposites of the spectrum. She would’ve developed this over a coarse life of twists n turns, commercial breaks and epic events, she breaths the cleanest of intentions and gives utter devotion to the things she loves, she will be cared for, supported and loved by all that is he, She will be His and He will most certainly be Hers and till death they will never part, they will prove that loves extends beyond the half-lived. SHE… is and forever will be my “Woman”. 

 

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1st Date: Don’t Dos

1. Don’t go to the Movies:
Way too cliche plus you will limit your ability to even speak to the person. This is supposed to be a chance to get to know them so try something a little more social. Side note: Dinner shouldn’t be your next thought. Parks, Walks, light bites, Duck Tours, Fitness classes, sight seeing, or just meeting for Coffee somewhere to chat. OMG anything by face to face communication.

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2. Don’t talk about yourself too much:
The person is already out w you so easy on the “When I was 9 speeches” keep it casual, feel it out, if the conversation gets deep let it but, be careful not to start going into detail about how you think 9/11 was a conspiracy or why Elvis was an alien. Baby steps my friend, baby steps.

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3. Don’t look at other sexes (at least while your date is looking at you):
Pay attention to what’s in front of you. The other person knows when there’s a threat in the room so don’t confirm it by glancing off into the sunrise while you both know it’s to check out someone else. Plus, it only makes for an amusing story they share w their friends later about how you tried to be slick about it.

4. Dont talk about X’s:
We get it you have dated and if you live in Boston there’s an even better chance that you know at least one or all of their X’s. So stay clear of talking about it too much. You may be giving off signs that you are not over it, especially when saying “I’m so over it” ugh. Please be more revealing!

5. Don’t get shit-faced:
Weeknight or Weekend doesn’t matter. Two cocktails at most, you should both have questions to ask and things to share, alcohol may serve as an icebreaker but it could tell the other person your weak around the edges and can’t offer stimulation w/o alcohol consumption. This will be an argument and they will bring it up in your first official fight!

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6. Don’t overdress
Think casual, nice jeans collared shirt or at least a V-Neck. No need to go all out. Save the the best for the third or fourth date when you want to remind the other of how good you can look. The first step to keeping it fresh is KEEPING IT FRESH. #NotRocketScience.

7. Don’t be on your best behavior
Enjoy yourself and don’t hide all of your little goofy things. Speak up, voice your opinions about movies or neighborhoods and music, some pop culture (avoid the heavy stuff) see above. But trying to do everything perfect will only set you up to fail. We are not super human so don’t act like you are. If sports is on ask about it, if you know nothing, learn! Do not try to act like you know the shot clock is at the bottom of the screen and wonder why everyone is saying time ran out but you clearly see 9:20 left on the (game clock). Lol. Fellas if you can’t find a place because your smart phone is on a date w Murphy’s Law, ask for directions! Get over it. The important thing is making it there on time, not showing your outdated boy scout skills. Ps never say you were a Boy Scout as well. Lmfao. Kidding Kinda.

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8. Don’t be  too affectionate:
It’s a first date take it easy cowboy. Doesn’t matter how “Right” it feels. Tuck it in! Subtle touches, hand holding to cross the street, something is so funny you have to brush his chest but keep it PG.

9. Don’t talk immediate future:
Talk today, talk a little about yesterday and maybe even tomorrow, but stay away from the long term future. Of course we should all have goals however we change all the time and you shouldn’t want to  have someone either love or hate your future self. Defeats the purpose. Keep it in the present, let the future happen.

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10. Don’t sleep with person on the first date:
This should be obvious by now! But it isn’t. Please keep it out of the bedroom, try to get to know the person before sharing bodily fluids. It’s not worth it. Of course in the moment it is but it historically doesn’t always work out the way you thought in that lustful moment. Keep it public, keep it PG and keep it out of the sheets. Thank me later!

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Kupah James 101: Handling Critics

In this world you have many different types of people: People with different personalities, views, thoughts and motivators. These people do not always get along and the reasons for this are as complicated as the variety of personalities that are out there.

Most of you that read my blog have hopefully, at some point, been moved, inspired and maybe even learned something new and exciting about yourself? That is the sole purpose of my blog and I’m so thankful to read some of your responses and comments via, text, email etc. because you are all making moves you are engaging yourselves into a new way of thinking and gaining momentum in a positive direction. Taking my thoughts to another level and making them your own actions is such an amazing feeling and iI’m encouraged to keep the positivity flowing while we spread this movement forward.

As you continue to grow and enhance your own lifestyle or work ethic you may notice that others around you will not always share in your new excitement. Confusion might strike as to why you are different “all of the sudden.” For example, if you radically change jobs for which you are required to be up earlier than normal, some friends will protest your new curfew and pressure you to stay with what’s “normal.” Or if you find yourself in a new relationship and can’t play with the homies everyday, there may be some tension towards the new boyfriend or girlfriend because of your absences.

I’m going to over generalize these groups of individuals as “Critics.” Critics are a person or persons who are not willing to grow WITH you, alongside you. Instead they could become jealous of your new direction, confused by your new behavior and take it as a personal insult. You might hear things like “You’ve been different since” or “All of the sudden you’re” maybe even “what happened to the old you.”

These are hurtful things to say to a person you care about and what you must understand is that they (critics) could be saying and doing these things from their own emotional place. They are feeling left out of your new direction and possible growth and don’t fully know how to express themselves. It’s unfortunate for you to have to take on more responsibility but you are going to have to attempt to comfort them.

  1. Remind them how much they mean to you.
  2. Communicate what you have been doing and how you are only trying to better yourself as a person to be a better friend, employee, son, daughter, etc.
  3. Sometimes just a sit down and an explanation might be all that’s necessary to untangle the thoughts that have spawned due to all the new activity.

I also want to make sure you know that it is absolutely imperative that you continue on the road you are on and you don’t go back to where you were. People will sometimes say “You forgot where you came from” and that should hurt. I personally have heard it from some of my closest friends and it stays with me and hurts everyday. But it’s not that I forget where I came from rather it’s I know what I’m worth and where I’m headed and pursuing that is the point of life: To move, grow, evolve, enhance, change, develop, inquire, build, format, lose, gain, eat, run, play, sleep, love and #MakeMoves.

I remember where I’m from every single day of my life. It’s what inspires me to move forward and get up and not quit and not take long breaks and not ever be satisfied. We live in a world where we can change our own stars and I don’t know about you but, I have already changed mine and I will not be denied my future because of Critics in my present who never understood my past.

Be aware of how changes in your life impact those around you and then address it (see 1-3 above.) Then, stay the course and trust yourself.

Thanks for reading the blog and following my thoughts. How do you handle critics? Any other ways you can think of?

New Strategies for Every Excuse

I’m constantly reflecting on ways to make the most out of my day, my life, my company and I think the biggest thing I run into when I discuss #MakingMoves with others is that they don’t know how to start or where to start. I’ve written a few blogs about that, but that doesn’t cover all of the other excuses. I say excuse, not to be harsh, but because that’s all it is and I think that can be more motivating for people. No one wants to be accused of making excuses!

So, today, let’s talk about strategies for every excuse; non-specific excuses, specific excuses including a few I hear most often.

What’s a non-specific excuse? I can’t, why should I, I don’t really need a change, I don’t even know what I want, why does it matter, it’s just how it is, I’m happy outside of work, so what does it matter if work is good? I’m happy at work, so what does it matter outside of that?

Well I’m here to tell you that you can, to be happier/make a difference to yourself or others/fulfillment/success, if you’re reading this, you probably do, you can still start somewhere, it matters because what you put out is received by others – negativity breeds negativity, happiness breeds happiness, it doesn’t have to be, you’re crazy.

The first strategy is just adopting a different general way of thinking; believing you can and wanting to. From there you can work into more specific strategies for more specific excuses 😉 Start by making a list of 5 positive things that will come from whatever change you’re looking for, then 5 things you could do to work towards that (ex: make this list, update your resume, get 30 minutes of extra sleep, drink more water, schedule one hour a week of you time to do something nice for yourself.)

Let that list create new habits and new things to look forward to and turn into 10 things, etc.

Specific excuses! We all know what these can be: I don’t have enough money, Its too late, people will be mad at me, people will think I’m crazy, what if I get rejected.

Rewind to previous paragraph: The first strategy is just adopting a different general way of thinking; believing you can and wanting to. This is the toughest thing to do with specific excuses, so if you can make it over that hump. Just trust that somehow you can do it and WANT to do it – you really can start seeing changes.

Another difficult strategy you NEED here is to……. Just start! It sounds so easy so it can’t be, right?! WRONG! Just start. Just show up at that fitness class, just step outside in your sneakers and you’re bound to start running. Maybe you aren’t the best, maybe you don’t run a mile, but you’ve started. Everything else will just come with time.

You want to go back to school? Just make an appointment with an advisor, chances are they’ll do the rest of the strategizing for you. You want to switch jobs? Just start looking at job postings. It’ll start being motivation enough to take the next step.

In this space it’s helpful to write down or think about or talk about some questions. What do I need to get the job I really want? (degree in something specific, a good reference, to finish my short story, etc) How do I increase my salary? (request a performance eval, submit for a promotion, think about a new job/career path) Be healthier! (Do I want to start with my diet or with exercise? What are some things about my grocery list I could start changing? How could I drink more water throughout the day? What types of exercise would I enjoy?)

From there you should have a pretty good list of starting points and how- tos!

Some takeaways from this post:

  • Believe/trust that you can make changes/achieve goals
  • Make a conscious decision to WANT to make      changes/achieve goals
  • Make a list!
  • Just START/Just SHOW UP
  • Flesh it out with questions

The best way of getting through that first one is to soul search and be honest with yourself. If you can’t be honest with yourself, who can you be honest with? Think about what excuses you’re telling yourself. Put them on paper or in the Notes app on your phone and look at them. Are they so big? Don’t you want to start erasing them? As scary or just lazy as you feel when looking at them.. think about how great it would feel if you could look back and say you got past them and started being happier.

Beauty, Brains and a Side of Fitness

The other day someone asked me what I look for in a companion and without hesitation I answered, “Beauty, Brains & a side of Fitness.” It came out so fast I had to say it more than once to make sure I was ok with my statement. If you know how my brain works then you would know that I was playing it over in my head looking for holes in my own thought process. LOL.

First, lets establish that while I have the definition of a wandering eye.. I do not try to wander… therefore that behavior isn’t my forte. Moving right along… I have many layers and if one were to pull back some of those seemingly complicated ones they would find that I can be one of the most easy going people you have ever met: Simple, direct and to the point with no secrets or nonsense in the background.

For example, when I say I like something…wait, are you ready for this? It may come as a surprise, but, it actually means I like something… OMG NO WAY. I would not waste the energy on the acting job I would have to commit to in trying to convince my audience of anything other than the truth. The same goes for things I do not like… Ladies I’m not other men therefore I cannot speak for them but, when I say I do not like something, it is NOT an invitation to seduce me into liking it. SAVE everyone’s time or either sneak it into my life and then I’ll pull the “I told you so” or, leave it be. I’m not one to rock boats or fix stuff that doesn’t appear to be broken. I eat chicken broccoli & ziti and many variations of this particular dish. So, in 24 months when I order it please do not assume I’m boring, rather be happy that we are out in public and still enjoying social events together instead of Bertolli Dinners which can be just as good in a time crunch.

I digress…

Shallow: probably the single most debated word/topic I discuss in addition to Cockiness and the true existence of Santa Claus (who I’m pretty sure still visits me once a year – now that guy MakesMOVES! Ha.) Anyway I state loud and clear that attractiveness (to me) is important when thinking about relationships. I do realize that all the glitz and glamour fades and that’s why I also have Brains on my list and as added security (a side of fitness) to me means that whatever is LOOKING good will look good just a little longer than the one who exercises the right to drive by the gym and wave. Made myself laugh on that one: true story.

Brains are absolutely necessary to keep my attention during conversations and social interactions with other people. Gossip Queens, FaceBook Addicts, Non-Voters, and Land of ‘living with your parents,’ doesn’t suit me very well. Please have an opinion about politics, religion, history, future, technology… Something other than what happened on Kardashians last week or who Justin Timberlake was caught with on a secluded island. Spare me! Not interested. Stimulate my mind and I promise you won’t be disappointed.

 

Side of Fitness is exactly that. I’m not looking to date a female version of myself. I respect all that and those women should be proud to work as hard as they do to reach the goals they have set for themselves. I just don’t want to put my hands on larger muscles than mine (know what I mean.) A side of fitness is just that “a side if fitness.” To me that means a woman who respects the body and likes to take care of it. I don’t just mean just physically either, I’m talking mental, emotional, and spiritual Fitness. Exercise the mind anyway you can. Utilizing a fitness center is really more about mental health anyway as it promotes dedication, drive, consistency and goal setting. Find the nearest gym, sign up and then find my match.com profile! Lol kidding. My account ran out so you will have to resort to just bumping into me on the street.

What does it for you? What do you seek in a companion, partner? What traits are important to you? What do you bring to the table and what advice can you give to others? Sharing is caring so leave a comment!

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Inner Playlist of a Dj

The acronym Dj (Disc Jockey) is synonymous with fun, energetic, cool..the list goes on 😉 Most Djs are actually pretty socially awkward individuals who use the manipulation of tracks to speak/entertain the masses. In my case, Djing is a way for me to move the masses while engaging in my own level of enjoyment. Today my thoughts take me through an internal playlist of steps during an event or club night. Every Dj is different, this is just my take on this topic!

First it is important to know that I am crazy nervous each and every time I spin records or emcee an event. To think that as soon as I speak I will have everyone’s undivided attention is a little overwhelming and daunting. There are many ways to get through this but, if you know me at all, then you know that I just DO IT. No time to stress and waste time. It’s time to facilitate, organize and entertain so I do what I’m paid and trusted to do and get out there.

My second thought is who is in the room? Who are my ringers? Ringers are the ones at the party who get the party going for you as soon as you play a top 40 track! Lol. Ringers are good and you need/want them around as they are unpaid interns of entertainment! Ha. Ringers are usually a bridesmaid or relative of the guest of honor or the “class clown” of an organization/company. You don’t have to find the ringer they will find you during cocktail hour and usually ask for the most popular song to be played in the first 10 mins of the event. #Really? Ringers don’t and won’t have to be intoxicated to work either; they are self-sufficient and completely autonomous. Never overlook the Ringers as they can be your guide to many more events and will act as PR experts telling everyone how great you are. Work smarter – not harder.

Now the opposite of the ringers are the Djs sans portfolio! Now these individuals are and can be a nightmare so please, if you have a friend who does this, or better yet, if you are this person: STOP THEM OR STOP YOURSELF! These amazing life forms will usually be sneaking behind the Dj booth, looking over your shoulder, trying to see what your playing and what’s coming up next. If you’re not escorting them out from behind the Dj booth they are in your face asking you to play today’s “hottest music” (as if you didn’t know any better) or worse, they want you to play the bonus track to Elvis’ hidden album on repeat and swear that it will get EVERYONE dancing. Meanwhile, if they did a 180 they would see that the dance-floor is about 90% in full effect at the exact time they want to hear the never ending story theme song! C’Mon people! As if this wasn’t bad enough they are notorious for NOT DANCING and MEAN MUGGING you ALL NIGHT while you PURPOSELY DON’T/WON’T play their song. Sorry I laughed out loud on that one.

These two particular groups are the ones you want to look out for and be mindful of. Aside from them you want to play the best music for your crowd while providing the best amount of interaction. Our job is to inspire and remind our audiences of the fun they can be immersed into by the selection of songs played in particular order.

The goal is to forget what’s going on outside and focus on what’s going on inside. Music is easily the remedy to most mental frustrations and I’m proud and honored to be able to bring together strangers in a night club or share in the celebrations of families at a wedding or honor the Bar or Bat Mitzvah man/woman on their journey to adulthood. Proms are no different; playing hits of the last 10 years while students reminisce on the last four years of their lives and look towards new horizons. Playing that song you forgot about or dancing with that one person who hasn’t danced in years or watching a young one know the words to both a Rihanna song and a Michael Jackson song, seeing ties come off and heels removed (wait wait wait I got a little ahead of myself, heels should always stay on… #KLASSY) but you get the point.

This is what I do and this is the internal playlist of steps Boston’s Kupah James of Klass Universal Entertainment. Should I have the pleasure of entertaining your next party of if I have already had the honor of performing for you in the past, I love what I do and I do what I love. I’m extremely lucky to know and believe this. I plan on providing the Klassiest entertainment this country has ever seen and raising the bar for the next decade of Klassmates. Keep an eye out for Shadi, Bobby, Lindsay, Rachel, Kazz, Hectik, Case, Matty, Evan, J Diaz and more. We are changing the way private parties are played through Klassifying each one of our events and bringing them to the next level!

 

#MakeMoves! So, let’s hear it: Which are you?! Ringer or “Dj”?

The Day that Einstein Feared

I don’t want to get on a soapbox about the following, I think it speaks for itself. But, it’s something I do feel strongly about and think it so crazy. It was only a few short years ago (or so it seems LOL) that people were only just starting to get cell phones.

The day that Albert Einstein most feared may have finally arrived..

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A day at the beach.

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Having dinner out with your friends.

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Out on an intimate date.

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Having a conversation with your BFF  

BFF is “Best Friends Forever”

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A visit to the museum

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Enjoying the sights

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It’s hereClick Me!

Communication people! Interface – for real! Share a laugh so someone SEES you laugh out loud, take in the sights while you still have that luxury, spend time with your best friends, put the phone AWAY or OFF on a date.

 

I’m NOT suggesting  a war with technology, merely highlighting the experiences being missed that are happening right in front of you. I know that even I am guilty of sitting down at a table with friends at times and checking my phone for what is supposed to be a routine check to see if i have missed any notifications and I find myself clicking on a link then tweeting, making sure it posted to Facebook then seeing who retweeted it only to miss the whole introduction provided by the server and now I don’t know what the specials are? Not Making Moves…

 

I realize that we cannot stop the movement. Cell Phones and social media have already staked their claim on how we interact today and in the future to come. However allow me to offer a few suggestions on integrating them in a better way.

 

Instead of attempting to 86 cell phones lets make them part of the conversation. Let’s include the content at our fingertips as a way to spark convos or laughs. By bringing the cell phone into the convo rather ignoring your audience to stalk someone’s instagram, we are already off to a better start.

 

Between ECard, Meme’s, Rotten ECards and N*** Be Like and B**** Be Like there is a wealth of things to get the laughs going at a table and sharing them in person is even better than using group texting and other forms of mass sharing. Or if you are the serious types who yearn for CNN or Sportcenter, use those apps to converse over why we lost Welker and why people should be afraid that North Korea has 6 missile pointed in our direction for “TESTING” Um… We tend to not react very well to threats or imminent violence. Check the history books.

Another suggestion is to use the phones in a timely manner. Such as everyone checking their phones at the same time making appropriate responses, retweeting, stalking, liking and following, then the phones go back in a purse or anywhere that doesn’t disengage the user from the party. I have already begun doing this with myself and my friends. It comes off as rude at first but if you explain to people what you’re trying to accomplish, I feel that most would adopt the thought process behind what I’m saying here.

 

I am a communicator, if you know me you know that I talk and talk and talk and talk. To some that is not cool but to most it’s perfectly fine because I need to be interactive with people that I am around. It is not to hear myself speak! In fact it because I actually value your presence and self enough to engage in a conversation with you about whatever there is to be talked about. However, ladies and homegirls…. I am not your sister, gay best friend or mom so please spare me the conversations about how the clouds reminded you of the Olympic rings and then you thought about rings and what kind of ring you would want for your wedding which lead you to the rings under your eyes and how you need more concealer to cover it up…(large inhale)… I’m gonna pass on that fun piece of information. Thanks. You know who I’m talking to : )

 

Anyway in closing I just want to emphasize how important it is to interact and communicate with those around you AND those not around you (FB, TWITTER, INSTAGRAM etc). Never forget that people did many a great things before these services and I think that it would be a very sad thing when kids don’t know how to introduce themselves or ask a question… Think about it. Where do you fit in this time of Cell Phones, Kindles and Computers?

 

Live this life, enjoy this life and appreciate it. #MakeMoves.

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Subject for Debate

A friend of mine is reading a book and sent me this passage over the weekend. She thought it would be an interesting conversation topic for me LOL!

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“Our entire society’s based on discontent: people wanting more and more and more, being constantly dissatisfied with their homes, their bodies, their decor, their clothes, everything. Taking it for granted that that’s the whole point of life, never to be satisfied. If you’re perfectly happy with what you’ve got—specially if what you’ve got isn’t even all that spectacular—then you’re dangerous. You’re breaking all the rules, you’re undermining the sacred economy, you’re challenging every assumption that society’s built on………..

Throughout history—even a hundred years ago, even fifty—it was discontent that was considered the threat to society, the defiance of natural law, the danger that had to be exterminated at all costs. Now it’s contentment. What a strange reversal.”

French, Tana (2008-07-17). The Likeness: A Novel (p. 165). Penguin Group. Kindle Edition.

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I think there are many things to be said on this subject. It’s a great subject for debate and I think it’s a matter of what you do with the choices you make. If you’re happy with what you have and you’re content, but what you have are the things you truly wanted, not just settling for not making an attempt at your dreams, then I think that can be more than enough for someone.

It’s true that society is based on discontent in the more shallow dissatisfactions described above, but also on deeper levels. I believe it comes down to wanting to live and feel your life. Reaching, changing, trying on new ideas, careers and experiences in search for that meaning and feeling of fulfillment. Maybe it’s something that’s never attainable and that’s the journey that your life is, or maybe it is and either some people find it and it just doesn’t look the same as mine would.

I definitely want more. More businesses, more fun, more money, more success, more clients, more travel, more homes, more people to share this with: more. And I make no apologies for that. It gives me fire, it makes me who I am.

The second part, about how this principle has changed throughout history I just find interesting! That’s so true! I don’t even know what to say – it speaks so much for itself. That is history in its finest form, that’s the anthropology and the evolution of humankind. Done and done.

I personally don’t fear contentment; I guess I kind of feel sorry for it #NoFilter. Again, I do think it works, if you find what you really wanted along. If all you really wanted was a happy relationship with a secure home and 2 vacations a year to places you’ve always wanted to see. And, that happens, then I support that. If you look around and tell yourself you can’t do this or that’s not realistic and just accept that defeat, I don’t.

Please share your thoughts and opinions!