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The Time is Now…

Whats up party people?! 

Kupah James here. Its been awhile since I’ve shared some of my thoughts w all you and I hope this message finds you well and in good health. As many of you know I have just returned from an amazing journey. A journey where I made new friends, connections and was also humbled by an experience for which I will take w me for the rest of my life. 

This message isn’t about what took place during my time over “There” lol. This message is a message I have been bringing for years and this is just another dose of #MakeMoves. I live laugh and love HARD. I make no apologies for that and NEVER WILL. I have lost friends and made family and relationship sacrifices to establish and maintain a life of happiness and healthiness that I chose. I have also given much of my time to the youth in hopes that they may one (soon) bypass me. I will continue to give and share and promote and talk and snapchat and blog and vlog and laugh and comment and #MakeMoves. lol. 

Whatever it is you are not happy with you must begin the process for which to change your stars. There isn’t any other way to do it. Man up, Buck up face yourself and get it done. There isn’t any time to waste on shoulda, coulda, wouldas. One of the most valuable lessons I have learned over the course of my life is the importance of “Time”. The discussion about “time” is for another day however the concept is one we can all relate too. Time and what we do w our time is truly wasted on the youth. So if we know this to be true, what are we waiting for? Large or small you have to make the effort to set goals and then reach them, PERIOD. Setting goals isn’t enough and if you don’t bang that bitch out then you will be left w your head hanging when it’s too late. Time is inevitable but it’s also flexible and can benefit those who put forth the blood sweat and tears to accomplish what other make excuses for. 

I leave you w a fist pump and a high five! Hope to see you at the end of your next journey cuz I’m about to embark on my next one. Stay tuned and stay positive always especially in the face of adversity! See you all soon! #MakeMoves 

Blog to Vlog…

Hi Everyone, It has been a few months since my last post and I wanted to first say Happy New Year (2015) to everyone. I also wanna express my extreme gratitude for each one of you for your support over the last few years following and reading my blog. I set out with the intention to give just a little insight into the life, dreams, motivations, fears, losses and achievements of my life. My hopes and aspirations are and were to help anyone out there looking for some optimism or a positive outlook on whatever their dreams and motives are/were.

I have received such good feedback and awesome suggestions over my time blogging and i hope to have reached you as much as possible and i thank you for this relationship we have built and maintained over the life span of my blog.

I am incredibly excited to announce that i am taking my blog to another level and migrating over to video! Video is overwhelmingly popular today and through years of great feedback many of you have sought after me making my blogs into videos. The sense is that my personality is one you enjoy and that i am able to connect a little better through video vs text. Obviously everyone isn’t saying this but I feel like its a great time to make the change and I hope you all enjoy my next stage along with me.

I have already begun making videos and you can find them all on Youtube Page. My goal is to first turn many of my blog entries into vlogs and of course mix in some other new, fresh material as well. I hope you continue to take this journey with me as I have enjoyed hearing from you. I look forward to more ideas and thoughts of all of you so please do not hesitate to reach out and let me know what you’re thinking.

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Mindstream…SHE…

So this one is a bit different so I hope it reaches as many people as possible. I blog because if you know me you know I have a lot to say and i’m always buzzing around about something. You know that i don’t complain but I do hold life accountable for its short-comings. lol

Most of my blogs are whatever comes to mind. Meaning sometimes its a conversation i have had with someone or a piece of art I see somewhere, It could be from a quote I read that gets my mind racing.  Inspiration to write can come from anywhere and I truly encourage any of you out there who haven’t tried it to do so. It’s extremely rewarding and for yourself.

This Blog Post is a little different than the norm. I have an interesting mind and it can go pretty far sometimes and every once in awhile I will take just one word and start writing whatever comes to me and I call it “MindStream” there are no boundaries or rules just words coming out (hopefully it makes some sense) but its intended to express an emotion, desire, fear, or even provide clarity to this world we are all living in. I hope you enjoy it and please share it with anyone and everyone. Subscribe as well!

SHE… will be loud in presence and respected in silence, long winded but straight to the point, she will be courageous in her efforts to withstand the tides of mis-guided torpedoes coming from any direction, sent from uneducated minds saturated in the wrong times, she will move to an internal clock and rhythm, she will Stand when others sit and remain productive when others are stationary, she will make points using facts not fiction or undeveloped thoughts plucked from any impulsive emotional highway, she will make mistakes, she will laugh often and cry in happiness, she will sleep safely, live aggressively and love with grand affections, she will care unconditionally and support with the clearest understanding of what needs to be done and has to be done. She will pause a SuperBowl 3rd Down play in the fourth quarter with her beauty and stifle the most educated or pompous men with a unique hybrid thought stream combined of emotion and rationale that is her Yin Yang and not and opposites of the spectrum. She would’ve developed this over a coarse life of twists n turns, commercial breaks and epic events, she breaths the cleanest of intentions and gives utter devotion to the things she loves, she will be cared for, supported and loved by all that is he, She will be His and He will most certainly be Hers and till death they will never part, they will prove that loves extends beyond the half-lived. SHE… is and forever will be my “Woman”. 

 

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What’s Next?

All I wanna do in this world while I’m here is feel like I’m leaving it “just” a little better than the way I found it. I have an onslaught of goals to reach before I leave this planet but this would undoubtedly be one of most dear to me.

I have seen many things in my short life and I’m looking forward to what’s next. I have been able to bear witness to some pretty horrible things which has allowed me to truly appreciate the beautiful things. This world is full of manic, sensitive, tough, enlightened, frightened, mean, loving and insightful people.

Seeing a sunset on a beach while on vacation is one thing but, looking out your apt/home window on a random Tues before the sun resigns for the day and overlooking all the things you have done in that day is breathtaking. Of course white sandy beaches are a must but long talks about life are cornerstones of my life and my inspiration to #DoBetter.

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I receive so many texts, emails, and messages from those of you who are out there reading my thoughts, fears, jokes, concerns and wants. I can’t express the feeling I get when I know that someone in Missouri reads my blog or that someone in Kansas took my advice on a first date (interview) lol.

Reaching out and sharing whatever gifts I may have with the rest of the world is what I seek. I don’t think I’m better than any man and I’m sure not better than any woman (Goddesses), but I do believe that I have certain talents that compel me to be around others.

I love being around people; makes me feel like I’m living. I know that people need “alone time” but I love groups, social gatherings, teams and really anything that brings a bunch of like minded people to the same place.

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However I can’t do concerts, and large capacity events like sporting games… Agreed we are all like minded in cheering on the team we like the most but seeing the underbelly of people sometimes really discourages me at my core. Not to mention my couch is way more comfortable than $10 hot dogs, lines of traffic and poor seats. lol.

 

I’m looking forward to the challenges coming in the future but I’m also craving the new experiences for which I’m about to face head on. No one likes the bad stuff but what would life be if we didn’t have something to compare the good stuff to?

Would we really even know what’s good or not? I’m always trying to raise questions in your mind as to how you view things.. well… what’s next for you? What has life taught you so far that you want to use for your tomorrow? What hasn’t happened yet that you wish does? What have you experienced so far that makes you want more of it?

Please email me and tell me what it is. I want to see each one you #MakeMoves and make the most out of this life. It isn’t for anyone else except yourself. When you reach the end of your trip do you want to look back and think of the things you never did or remember all the times you took a chance and said yes, welcomed the challenge and stood up to the doubters? Which version do you want?

Thanks so much for reading along with me and being a part of my journey as I hope I’m helping you in yours. #Friends #PenPals Until next time and please share and post and subscribe… :)

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What’s it gonna be?

I look around and I continue to engage in conversations with others about the dangers of risks or financial security. These things have been personified as if they were actual living creatures underneath our beds at night whispering in our ears “Don’t Do It”, “It’s too hard”, “You’re not good enough”. Ugh NO!

All I have to say is.. let’s get to the point on this one.

  1. It’s a Lonely Road Untraveled. This means there’s no hand book, so stop looking around for one. Your friends and close ones aren’t gonna have all of the answers so do not blame them nor should you lean on them for what you need to figure out.
  2. It’s Uncharted Territory. This is the best thing about taking a new approach to life. It means you get to write your own story and be your own director. Isn’t that was life was meant to be?
  3. Freedom. I see no freedom or job security behind corporate contracts or 10 year tenure. It all sounds like boundaries and threats. Can and cannots, Red and Yellow tapes, procedures and policies… Are you yawning yet? Moving right along.
  4. This freedom will scare you at times. Hire an accountant, keep counsel with people you trust and keep doing your thing..
  5.  You can have it all but you cannot have ALL of IT – meaning you can reach for the stars and you just might collect one or two but you will not get there with everyone you started your journey with. I have unfortunately felt the sting of this and it HURTS. You will find new support and have to build a new team.
  6. You’ll start meeting more people who #MakeMoves like you! There will be other dreamers, believers and creators to keep you company.
  7. Nothing is immediate. There are no short sprints in this marathon only bumps and small victories which you will have to learn how to collect along the way and make them mean as much as they can in the moment while trucking along to the next one. Patience…..
  8. There will be Critics. Critics are a necessity and if you utilize critics in the right situation ((handling critics)) you will know just what to do with outside interference.
  9. Sacrifices will be made. Some will be rewarding and some will cause immense pain. What’s worse is that you may not know the outcome of a decision/sacrifice until further down this rabbit hole so “buck up,” stand tall and withstand whatever comes your way until the dust settles. Sometimes though you’ll just feel relief :)
  10. “It can’t rain all the time” (For you Sami). And it won’t. When it rains, it pours and when it stops rainbows follow, so weather the storm and take what it gives you. Strength, Resilience, Perseverance and a thicker skin.
  11. If they are not riding with you then they are simply not RIDING. Pull over and let them out nicely. If they are reluctant to get off then take the necessary measures. It’s hard enough traveling a road upwards with an RV on empty carrying too much of everyone’s baggage, egos, insecurities and doubts….. (Deep Breath) You don’t need anything extra making the trip more difficult than it already is. Besides you gotta have room for the ones you WILL meet along the way.
  12. Turn your fears into your strengths. Accurately assess yourself in a mirror and turn whatever you don’t like about yourself into the thing you love about yourself. I am a shy person and afraid of meeting women or speaking in front of large groups of people. This is FACT. So what do I do for a living? I now am a Motivational Speaker, Group Exercise Instructor and a Well Known Dj/Emcee. I haven’t addressed the meeting women thing however it hasn’t really negatively affected my social life thus far. But I’m working on it!

Some things to consider:

There will be some days that will trip you up.

When that happens, get inspired:

–          Coming of Age

–          Micro-SOFT takes new approach.. Should you?

And let go of every excuse.

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Do You Remember?

Remember you are
Remember its so far
Remember you have today
Remember you had yesterday
Remember you have him
Remember you have her
Remember you have them
Remember its here now
Remember it can be gone tomorrow
Remember the laugh you borrowed
Remember the fight you fought
Remember the time you needed to be caught
Remember the time you won
Remember the time you lost
Remember the time you cried
Remember how far you have come
Remember the time you learned
Remember the time you burned
Remember the time you promised
Remember the time you paid homage
Remember the gift you gave
Remember how to MisBehave
Remember how to dream
Remember that funny meme (lol)
Remember how to Challenge
Remember to stay balanced

If you can remind yourself of just a few of these things today tomorrow and the next you should never have to worry about forgetting how to live laugh and love.

#MakeMoves

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Branding – Some basics

Branding is so very important and, not just in business, but in life in general with social media being such a force in how we communicate with each other. Each one of these sites is showcasing your “brand” all over the World Wide Web.

Confession: every time I make a new friend on FB or a new Twitter follower, I immediately creep all over their pages, walls, photos and anything else I can. And most times I don’t have to ask any questions because their entire life, interests, hobbies, thoughts, beliefs and profession are online.

This should be extremely alarming to you if you are not thinking about your online profile…

Things to consider when posting online:
•It doesn’t come down on its own, whatever you post is online for about as long as the site is alive, and long after you have forgotten you posted it.
• World Wide Web: Not a secret club house, if you put it online it’s for the world. Please do not convince yourself that anyone can’t find it.
• Private Social Media Life: This is simple, it doesn’t exist. A private social media platform is an Oxymoron. Unless you have read all the terms and agreements before checking that box then how can you argue?
• Storefront: Is what your posting as interesting to the world as it is to you? Didn’t think so. An extra thought before posting historically never hurt anyone, EVER!

These are just a few of things to ponder regarding social media. There are many ways to create a brand and maintain it. Do you have to be on the cover of a magazine or play professional sports, win an academy award? Well yes, but that’s not the point.

Branding isn’t what you have done necessarily and it doesn’t have to be a specific goal either. You wanna have a direction, a goal, an image. There should be something to where you wanna get to and then you need to create the Brand to help get you there. More importantly, once you have acquired this you must continue to evolve your brand as your continue to grow.

Never forget that it’s much easier to fall off the Pedestal then it is to climb it.

I’ll leave you with this Quote, that I didn’t create…

~Remember and be nice to all the people you meet on your way up, because those will be the same people you see on the way down.~

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Roll ‘Em

The thing that I feel the most lucky and thankful for is my family and friends. But, a close second is that I get to wake up and love every second of what I do for work every day!

It’s easy to follow society’s plan, It goes something like this..

  1. Schooling
  2. Secondary Schooling
  3. Job/Career
  4. Find a Mate/Partner
  5. Co-Habitate
  6. Pets
  7. Pro-Create
  8. Save money
  9. Raise Family
  10. Retire
  11. Eventually punch the ticket..

While all of that sounds great it also sound a little cookie cutter and boring to the opportunistic mind of me and others like me. There are so many things each person should attempt to experience but in order to experience different is to explore different, think different, believe different and want different.

I believe I am different and therefore I behave differently resulting in a different sort of life experience for me. I am both happy and nervous by this state of being but that’s the point. Being nervous isn’t something society says is ok. We are supposed to make comfortable, calculated decisions for everything, REALLY? Nah! I say NAY!

I say make safe decisions and risky decisions combined. Put yourself in a situation to live differently than everyone else. Does that mean go out and buy a Lamborghini? Well maybe but that’s not my point. My point is to try things outside your comfort zone and you just might make your comfort zone a bit bigger.

Make a list of things you would like to try but never have and how you could try them safely. Then implement that list and try one at a time, see if anything changes?

Let me know what your list looks like!

“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.”

~ C. JoyBell C.

 

6 Rules to Live Life

This isn’t really a movie review, but you can probably see I got something out of it and I think you should definitely check it out. It was one of those things.. I’m watching it and then I heard a line, cleaned my ear out and was like, “say what?!”

That sh*t was real!

The movie is People Like Us starring Chris Pine, Michelle Pfeiffer, Olivia Wilde, Elizabeth Banks and Jon Favreau. The cast should be enough for you all to watch it 😉 Real quick, the movie is about Chris Pine’s return home after his father dies and he finds out about a sister he never knew he had. Craziness ensues.

Seriously though: great talent, deep film, legit life lessons.

The following are 6 quotes from the movie that made an impact on me and I hope they will for all of you. I don’t want to add my own comments because I think they speak loudly on their own. Instead, I hope it sparks a discussion between us and between you and whoever friend/coworker/spouse, etc.

1) If you like something because you think other people will, it’s a sure bet that nobody will.

2) Most doors in the world are closed so if you find one that you want to get into, you sure as hell better have an interesting knock.

3) Everything that you think is important isn’t, and everything that you think isn’t important, is.

4) Don’t shit where you eat.

5) Lean into it, outcome doesn’t matter, be there for it.

6) Never sleep with someone who has more problems than you.

#NuffSaid Share this post on FB, Twitter, Pinterest. COMMENT. Let me know what YOU think!

Previous Posts related to Movies:

Movie Review: World War Z

Top Ten Worst Jobs In or On a Movie

Black Swan

MakeMoves: Post Roundup

I thought it might be cool to do a “roundup” post to make it easier to find certain types of posts. Today, I’m linking all of my Make Moves posts to really take all the work out of it for you 😉

MakeMoves – Straight to the point. Droppin knowledge. #MakeMoves.

How Do You Challenge Yourself to #MakeMoves? How do you challenge yourself? I write a lot about #MakeMoves and how I strive everyday to accomplish as much as i can and live as much as possible. But, how do I do that everyDAY? How do you?

Live, Laugh, Love – Looking to Summer 2013  A post to get the Summer started on the right track. But, useful for any time of year.

How to Start Making Moves with a TED Talk TED is a nonprofit devoted to Ideas Worth Spreading. There are a series of “talks” which are videos of speakers on the widest range of topics and each talk ranges from 3 min to 20 min. Let this one motivate you!

New Strategies for Every Excuse – I’m constantly reflecting on ways to make the most out of my day, my life, my company and I think the biggest thing I run into when I discuss #MakingMoves with others is that they don’t know how to start or where to start.

For some other reading/watching check out:

Steve Jobs: How to live before you die TED Talk 

Malcolm Gladwell: The unheard story of David and Goliath TED Talk (also new book of the same name out in stores)

The 25 Commandments of Self-Improvement from ThoughtCatalog

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As always let me know what YOU think!?!?!