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Kupah James 101: Handling Critics

In this world you have many different types of people: People with different personalities, views, thoughts and motivators. These people do not always get along and the reasons for this are as complicated as the variety of personalities that are out there.

Most of you that read my blog have hopefully, at some point, been moved, inspired and maybe even learned something new and exciting about yourself? That is the sole purpose of my blog and I’m so thankful to read some of your responses and comments via, text, email etc. because you are all making moves you are engaging yourselves into a new way of thinking and gaining momentum in a positive direction. Taking my thoughts to another level and making them your own actions is such an amazing feeling and iI’m encouraged to keep the positivity flowing while we spread this movement forward.

As you continue to grow and enhance your own lifestyle or work ethic you may notice that others around you will not always share in your new excitement. Confusion might strike as to why you are different “all of the sudden.” For example, if you radically change jobs for which you are required to be up earlier than normal, some friends will protest your new curfew and pressure you to stay with what’s “normal.” Or if you find yourself in a new relationship and can’t play with the homies everyday, there may be some tension towards the new boyfriend or girlfriend because of your absences.

I’m going to over generalize these groups of individuals as “Critics.” Critics are a person or persons who are not willing to grow WITH you, alongside you. Instead they could become jealous of your new direction, confused by your new behavior and take it as a personal insult. You might hear things like “You’ve been different since” or “All of the sudden you’re” maybe even “what happened to the old you.”

These are hurtful things to say to a person you care about and what you must understand is that they (critics) could be saying and doing these things from their own emotional place. They are feeling left out of your new direction and possible growth and don’t fully know how to express themselves. It’s unfortunate for you to have to take on more responsibility but you are going to have to attempt to comfort them.

  1. Remind them how much they mean to you.
  2. Communicate what you have been doing and how you are only trying to better yourself as a person to be a better friend, employee, son, daughter, etc.
  3. Sometimes just a sit down and an explanation might be all that’s necessary to untangle the thoughts that have spawned due to all the new activity.

I also want to make sure you know that it is absolutely imperative that you continue on the road you are on and you don’t go back to where you were. People will sometimes say “You forgot where you came from” and that should hurt. I personally have heard it from some of my closest friends and it stays with me and hurts everyday. But it’s not that I forget where I came from rather it’s I know what I’m worth and where I’m headed and pursuing that is the point of life: To move, grow, evolve, enhance, change, develop, inquire, build, format, lose, gain, eat, run, play, sleep, love and #MakeMoves.

I remember where I’m from every single day of my life. It’s what inspires me to move forward and get up and not quit and not take long breaks and not ever be satisfied. We live in a world where we can change our own stars and I don’t know about you but, I have already changed mine and I will not be denied my future because of Critics in my present who never understood my past.

Be aware of how changes in your life impact those around you and then address it (see 1-3 above.) Then, stay the course and trust yourself.

Thanks for reading the blog and following my thoughts. How do you handle critics? Any other ways you can think of?

Inner Playlist of a Dj

The acronym Dj (Disc Jockey) is synonymous with fun, energetic, cool..the list goes on 😉 Most Djs are actually pretty socially awkward individuals who use the manipulation of tracks to speak/entertain the masses. In my case, Djing is a way for me to move the masses while engaging in my own level of enjoyment. Today my thoughts take me through an internal playlist of steps during an event or club night. Every Dj is different, this is just my take on this topic!

First it is important to know that I am crazy nervous each and every time I spin records or emcee an event. To think that as soon as I speak I will have everyone’s undivided attention is a little overwhelming and daunting. There are many ways to get through this but, if you know me at all, then you know that I just DO IT. No time to stress and waste time. It’s time to facilitate, organize and entertain so I do what I’m paid and trusted to do and get out there.

My second thought is who is in the room? Who are my ringers? Ringers are the ones at the party who get the party going for you as soon as you play a top 40 track! Lol. Ringers are good and you need/want them around as they are unpaid interns of entertainment! Ha. Ringers are usually a bridesmaid or relative of the guest of honor or the “class clown” of an organization/company. You don’t have to find the ringer they will find you during cocktail hour and usually ask for the most popular song to be played in the first 10 mins of the event. #Really? Ringers don’t and won’t have to be intoxicated to work either; they are self-sufficient and completely autonomous. Never overlook the Ringers as they can be your guide to many more events and will act as PR experts telling everyone how great you are. Work smarter – not harder.

Now the opposite of the ringers are the Djs sans portfolio! Now these individuals are and can be a nightmare so please, if you have a friend who does this, or better yet, if you are this person: STOP THEM OR STOP YOURSELF! These amazing life forms will usually be sneaking behind the Dj booth, looking over your shoulder, trying to see what your playing and what’s coming up next. If you’re not escorting them out from behind the Dj booth they are in your face asking you to play today’s “hottest music” (as if you didn’t know any better) or worse, they want you to play the bonus track to Elvis’ hidden album on repeat and swear that it will get EVERYONE dancing. Meanwhile, if they did a 180 they would see that the dance-floor is about 90% in full effect at the exact time they want to hear the never ending story theme song! C’Mon people! As if this wasn’t bad enough they are notorious for NOT DANCING and MEAN MUGGING you ALL NIGHT while you PURPOSELY DON’T/WON’T play their song. Sorry I laughed out loud on that one.

These two particular groups are the ones you want to look out for and be mindful of. Aside from them you want to play the best music for your crowd while providing the best amount of interaction. Our job is to inspire and remind our audiences of the fun they can be immersed into by the selection of songs played in particular order.

The goal is to forget what’s going on outside and focus on what’s going on inside. Music is easily the remedy to most mental frustrations and I’m proud and honored to be able to bring together strangers in a night club or share in the celebrations of families at a wedding or honor the Bar or Bat Mitzvah man/woman on their journey to adulthood. Proms are no different; playing hits of the last 10 years while students reminisce on the last four years of their lives and look towards new horizons. Playing that song you forgot about or dancing with that one person who hasn’t danced in years or watching a young one know the words to both a Rihanna song and a Michael Jackson song, seeing ties come off and heels removed (wait wait wait I got a little ahead of myself, heels should always stay on… #KLASSY) but you get the point.

This is what I do and this is the internal playlist of steps Boston’s Kupah James of Klass Universal Entertainment. Should I have the pleasure of entertaining your next party of if I have already had the honor of performing for you in the past, I love what I do and I do what I love. I’m extremely lucky to know and believe this. I plan on providing the Klassiest entertainment this country has ever seen and raising the bar for the next decade of Klassmates. Keep an eye out for Shadi, Bobby, Lindsay, Rachel, Kazz, Hectik, Case, Matty, Evan, J Diaz and more. We are changing the way private parties are played through Klassifying each one of our events and bringing them to the next level!

 

#MakeMoves! So, let’s hear it: Which are you?! Ringer or “Dj”?

The Day that Einstein Feared

I don’t want to get on a soapbox about the following, I think it speaks for itself. But, it’s something I do feel strongly about and think it so crazy. It was only a few short years ago (or so it seems LOL) that people were only just starting to get cell phones.

The day that Albert Einstein most feared may have finally arrived..

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A day at the beach.

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Having dinner out with your friends.

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Out on an intimate date.

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Having a conversation with your BFF  

BFF is “Best Friends Forever”

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A visit to the museum

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Enjoying the sights

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It’s hereClick Me!

Communication people! Interface – for real! Share a laugh so someone SEES you laugh out loud, take in the sights while you still have that luxury, spend time with your best friends, put the phone AWAY or OFF on a date.

 

I’m NOT suggesting  a war with technology, merely highlighting the experiences being missed that are happening right in front of you. I know that even I am guilty of sitting down at a table with friends at times and checking my phone for what is supposed to be a routine check to see if i have missed any notifications and I find myself clicking on a link then tweeting, making sure it posted to Facebook then seeing who retweeted it only to miss the whole introduction provided by the server and now I don’t know what the specials are? Not Making Moves…

 

I realize that we cannot stop the movement. Cell Phones and social media have already staked their claim on how we interact today and in the future to come. However allow me to offer a few suggestions on integrating them in a better way.

 

Instead of attempting to 86 cell phones lets make them part of the conversation. Let’s include the content at our fingertips as a way to spark convos or laughs. By bringing the cell phone into the convo rather ignoring your audience to stalk someone’s instagram, we are already off to a better start.

 

Between ECard, Meme’s, Rotten ECards and N*** Be Like and B**** Be Like there is a wealth of things to get the laughs going at a table and sharing them in person is even better than using group texting and other forms of mass sharing. Or if you are the serious types who yearn for CNN or Sportcenter, use those apps to converse over why we lost Welker and why people should be afraid that North Korea has 6 missile pointed in our direction for “TESTING” Um… We tend to not react very well to threats or imminent violence. Check the history books.

Another suggestion is to use the phones in a timely manner. Such as everyone checking their phones at the same time making appropriate responses, retweeting, stalking, liking and following, then the phones go back in a purse or anywhere that doesn’t disengage the user from the party. I have already begun doing this with myself and my friends. It comes off as rude at first but if you explain to people what you’re trying to accomplish, I feel that most would adopt the thought process behind what I’m saying here.

 

I am a communicator, if you know me you know that I talk and talk and talk and talk. To some that is not cool but to most it’s perfectly fine because I need to be interactive with people that I am around. It is not to hear myself speak! In fact it because I actually value your presence and self enough to engage in a conversation with you about whatever there is to be talked about. However, ladies and homegirls…. I am not your sister, gay best friend or mom so please spare me the conversations about how the clouds reminded you of the Olympic rings and then you thought about rings and what kind of ring you would want for your wedding which lead you to the rings under your eyes and how you need more concealer to cover it up…(large inhale)… I’m gonna pass on that fun piece of information. Thanks. You know who I’m talking to : )

 

Anyway in closing I just want to emphasize how important it is to interact and communicate with those around you AND those not around you (FB, TWITTER, INSTAGRAM etc). Never forget that people did many a great things before these services and I think that it would be a very sad thing when kids don’t know how to introduce themselves or ask a question… Think about it. Where do you fit in this time of Cell Phones, Kindles and Computers?

 

Live this life, enjoy this life and appreciate it. #MakeMoves.

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Keep It Real..

Why do we do what we do? Does anyone really know? I know I have no idea but I’ll tell you what I do know: When I see something I want, I go for it and I have a natural drive to want more than what is necessary. Some view that as wrong while others salute me for it. I won’t make excuses for who I am, but, allow me to shed some light on the topic.

I do what I do for both selfish reasons and for comfort. I believe that knowledge allows for the ability to create things, have ideas, keep up with trends, etc; while talent usually dictates how well you might do at a particular job/career/hobby. Drive is the other motivating factor which will usually play a very important role in your success. You see we all are going to hit speed bumps in life. That’s LIFE. But sheer will and determination coupled with knowledge and talent (a natural or practiced skill) almost always will equal success. I know that success comes in different shapes and sizes. I respect that, I just want to be able to provide to others as well as myself, and I never bought into the “this or that” mentality (meaning you can have this Kupah or that Kupah.) My thought is, and always will be, “Why can’t I have them Both?” That mentality has worked for me so far, so why change it now? 

I want to share my knowledge and experiences with young adults and help them reach their goals as I am reaching mine. I want to see people feel better about themselves and I want each person to demand excellence for themselves and to never settle. I have lost friends because of my attitude and I will lose more in the future I’m sure, but a wise man once told me, “Say what you mean and mean what you say because those that Matter Dont Mind and those who Mind, Dont Matter”…..

I challenge all of you to wake up each day with intolerance to being lazy and sad. To smile with the purpose of infecting those around you with it and in turn make you smile even bigger. Tomorrow is a new day but it doesn’t have to be the same new day. It can always be a different one. I always try to teach and preach the importance of your choices. I choose to be happy, smile and be positive in my behavior. That’s why others around me smile etc. I’m incredibly thankful for my mentality and hope to continue learning and growing as a person so that I may keep helping others while finding my own way.

I changed what could have been written for me, and I believe anyone has that power. You must commit to a new way of thinking; That is the first step to what I have found to be happiness. 

How do you make yourself happy? I would love to hear how some of you do it! Let’s share ideas and spread the wealth of knowledge!

#MakeMoves and #KeepItKlassy

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AOL’s Boston Authentic

Some four Months ago through a dear friend of mine whom I respect tremendously for her ability to MakeMoves as a Mother, Business Woman, Sexy, Driven, Smart and a Friend. She came across an amazing opportunity for me to be apart of an new cool original campaign for AOL.

AOL was searching for Boston Authentic’s or individuals they felt were original and unique in their everyday living. Out of 60 folks all doing wonderful things I was lucky enough to gain the attention enough to own a spot of 6! A Video/Photo shoot quickly ensued and then December 3rd 2011 wild postings began popping up all over Boston, Brighton, Cambridge and surrounding towns. Pandora, Taxis, Bus Shelters, Underground T Stations and ultimately a 20’x 60′ Billboard located at 1330 Boylston St Boston Ma.

The experience has been amazing and I have received tons of positive feedback and compliments for the campaign as well as numerous leads on other opportunities. I’m completely amped about what is next but I felt that so many people have been asking “How, Who” etc. I decided to explain to those who may still be interested in my role and how it came to be. The campaign is now in its 10th week when it was only supposed to be one month! R U Kidding Me!?

Thanks for all of your support throughout this chapter in my life. Hopefully the next one will be just as exciting and I hope you stick around for the ride!

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Steve Jobbs Commences…

Hey All,

Here’s a quick one which was shared with me from one of my Best Friends. It’s a great way to start off any day and believe me, it just became part of my presentation “Koreography of Life” Whether you are into technology or not, believe rumo-ville or not, stand outside of Apple Store on iPhone release day or watch 2-hr Keynotes from your desktop, iPad, iPod Touch, or iPhone; This guy has changed the way we do things. From Music to Interviews, Movies to Ringtones, Texting to Emails and Talking to Sharing; Steve Jobbs will go down in History for being one of the most monumental beings of “My Time” anyway. I’ve watched his Keynotes for the past 5 years and never heard him say anything as touching as what he says below. I hope you can take 2 minutes from your day to read this and let it digest just for a second. Swish it around and see what it does to your mindset.

I blog, tweet & Facebook because I love what I do for a living; whether I am watching a beautiful bride walk down the isle to “Canon in D”, Watch a Family up in chairs at a Mitzvah while everyone else is performing the “Hora”, or observing High School Seniors close a chapter in their lives only to begin a new one at a Prom. I work with the most talented people I can think and HELL yes I’m Biased but we all WALK THE WALK (thankfully because I do TALK) RollKall: Kupah James, Ms. Ana, Michelle D, Tarryn P, Kaz C, Anthony V, Shadi K, Kevin M and our new cast of Damien C, Lindsay S, Nikki R, Juan D, and there are more! We are dedicated and I believe I speak for all when I say we love what we do so thank all of you for giving us the platform to perform and provide amazing entertainment for parties of all shapes and sizes. If it wasn’t for many of you (especially ones reading this blog) we would not exist and I thank all of you for that.

Please enjoy the passage and take it with you today on Sept 8 2011. Its cold, rainy and dark outside. Operative word being “Outside”, Don’t ever let it be the case on the INSIDE. It Doesn’t have to be your mindset. Choose!

 

“Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” Steve Jobbs – Stanford University Commencement.

 

 

Can I have a smile?

So I was thinkin… (Uh-Oh)

People often say to me things like “You have too much energy and slow down, take a break or even a day off”. I hear this so much it almost becomes annoying. Key word being ALMOST…

Second, immediately following that comment is “Why are you always so happy or Don’t you ever have Bad Days?”.

I just wanted to express my thoughts about those comments. The energy that is inside of me is inexplainable, I have not yet been studied by those who contain the knowledge to tell me why I am an Off the Wall LUNATIC. So please allow this to be my warning, and disclaimer that I cannot help my energy level and no; I will not slow down or stop any time soon. Perhaps the real question you should be asking is why dont you do more with Yooooour life? Maybe that will give you a better answer and end-result.

As far my happiness? Happiness is not a pre-determined feeling that is planned out and has to be controlled by outside influences. Crazy I know huh? Happiness or the state of content is a CHOICE that one makes at the beginning of each day, remaining close to that decision allows that person to ignore drama infested gossip and life ending experiences. I choose this state of mind each and every day when I wake up and carry it with me through out. This allows me to focus on the important things that matter to me as well as those I care about. I absolutely have bad days like when my spiderman pj’s aren’t clean and I have a special somebody coming over. But I don’t let it change my universe or state of mind I just go with it and always tell myself someone has it worse than I do. Or… I just put on My Hulk or Iron Man ones (Depending on my mood)…

Back to the Happy thoughts why don’t you try it, see what happens. The worst that can happen is you smile for one extra second longer than usual… OH THE HORROR…. : P

This Note is not to anyone on my network of friends on Facebook, Twitter or who subscribe to my blog. This was just an outlet for my thoughts. Call it a public Journal… No secrets here. feel free to ignore, respond, or reject my thoughts

This is what I say to people who attempt to anger, upset or hurt me or my energy…

Anger ruins joy, steals the goodness of my mind. Forces my mouth to say terrible things. Overcoming anger brings peace of mind, leads to a mind w/o regret. If I overcome anger I will delightfully loved by everyone…

 

 


ABC’s of K-Walities…

This blog is just something to read when bored or to spark up conversation… I’m interested to know what other adjectives you can come up with that are different from the ones you see here. We thought it would be funny to come up with an Alphabetized List of Qualities one would be searching for in a Significant other. Here are the ABC’s of….. Ummmmm…. Well who knows… It was fun!

A List of Qualities an Old Friend and I came up with one night for fun! Enjoy and reply with others please.

Shout Outs to MK for your thoughts and input!

Ass & Abs
   Brass & Brains
   Common Sense & Consideration
   Driven & Dangerous
   Etiquette & Eventful
   Fierce & Faulty
   Generous & Geeky
   Hilarious & Humble
   Intelligent & Insightful
   Justified & Juicy
   Kool-Aid & Killer
   Loving & Lov3r
   More Loving… & Motivator
   Neat & Notorious 
   Open & “Oops”
   Protective & Professional
   Quaint & Qualified (lol)
   Robust & Romantic
   Sexy, Soulful & Spontaneous
   Tough & Tasteful
   UnConditional & Unforgettable 
   Villain & Vibrant
   Wonderful & Willing
   Xtrodinary  & X-Tra Ordinary
   Youthful & “Yes” Aka “Hell Yea”
   “Zzzz” & Never Over Zealous……….
          

Priceless…

sometimes people ask me “How I do what I do?”… Well…

“I am an almost young man and i found your website and info thru a stuff magazine i was reading and certain things intriqued me. I find myself in a position in my life were i realize i might not have learned or been abel to suceesfully acheive adult hood.I am now a single parent who not only has a son with me in a homeless shelter but i also have 4 more to take care of. I have returned back to school and realized at my age i still have a lot to.Some of the things you are teaching these young men,are also things some of my peers might be able to appreciate. I thank you for takin the time to read this and would like to hear from you about anything that might be relevant,Thank you once again.”

I will continue to be Kupah James for as long as I can. Helping people help themselves is my goal. I truly believe in the power of drive, ambition, and VISION. If any of you know a school, group of people, organization, park bench where people might actually benefit from what I say, think, feel and the way(s) I live my life. Please connect us so that we can all leave the place a little better than the way we found it.