Category Archives: Happiness

The Time is Now…

Whats up party people?! 

Kupah James here. Its been awhile since I’ve shared some of my thoughts w all you and I hope this message finds you well and in good health. As many of you know I have just returned from an amazing journey. A journey where I made new friends, connections and was also humbled by an experience for which I will take w me for the rest of my life. 

This message isn’t about what took place during my time over “There” lol. This message is a message I have been bringing for years and this is just another dose of #MakeMoves. I live laugh and love HARD. I make no apologies for that and NEVER WILL. I have lost friends and made family and relationship sacrifices to establish and maintain a life of happiness and healthiness that I chose. I have also given much of my time to the youth in hopes that they may one (soon) bypass me. I will continue to give and share and promote and talk and snapchat and blog and vlog and laugh and comment and #MakeMoves. lol. 

Whatever it is you are not happy with you must begin the process for which to change your stars. There isn’t any other way to do it. Man up, Buck up face yourself and get it done. There isn’t any time to waste on shoulda, coulda, wouldas. One of the most valuable lessons I have learned over the course of my life is the importance of “Time”. The discussion about “time” is for another day however the concept is one we can all relate too. Time and what we do w our time is truly wasted on the youth. So if we know this to be true, what are we waiting for? Large or small you have to make the effort to set goals and then reach them, PERIOD. Setting goals isn’t enough and if you don’t bang that bitch out then you will be left w your head hanging when it’s too late. Time is inevitable but it’s also flexible and can benefit those who put forth the blood sweat and tears to accomplish what other make excuses for. 

I leave you w a fist pump and a high five! Hope to see you at the end of your next journey cuz I’m about to embark on my next one. Stay tuned and stay positive always especially in the face of adversity! See you all soon! #MakeMoves 

Blog to Vlog…

Hi Everyone, It has been a few months since my last post and I wanted to first say Happy New Year (2015) to everyone. I also wanna express my extreme gratitude for each one of you for your support over the last few years following and reading my blog. I set out with the intention to give just a little insight into the life, dreams, motivations, fears, losses and achievements of my life. My hopes and aspirations are and were to help anyone out there looking for some optimism or a positive outlook on whatever their dreams and motives are/were.

I have received such good feedback and awesome suggestions over my time blogging and i hope to have reached you as much as possible and i thank you for this relationship we have built and maintained over the life span of my blog.

I am incredibly excited to announce that i am taking my blog to another level and migrating over to video! Video is overwhelmingly popular today and through years of great feedback many of you have sought after me making my blogs into videos. The sense is that my personality is one you enjoy and that i am able to connect a little better through video vs text. Obviously everyone isn’t saying this but I feel like its a great time to make the change and I hope you all enjoy my next stage along with me.

I have already begun making videos and you can find them all on Youtube Page. My goal is to first turn many of my blog entries into vlogs and of course mix in some other new, fresh material as well. I hope you continue to take this journey with me as I have enjoyed hearing from you. I look forward to more ideas and thoughts of all of you so please do not hesitate to reach out and let me know what you’re thinking.

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Just this once…

Just this once you should try harder
Think first
Ask the question
Wait a Minute
Get it done
Move over
Sacrifice
Set a goal
Re-evaluate
Take an interest
Brush it off
Only take “yes” for answer
Hold your head high
Say “thank you”
Call back
Open a door
Smile
Make a wish
Drink a cocktail
Hit the gym
Wear different socks
Watch that movie
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Be Nice
Sit Down
Mind your own business
Not assume
Play your role
Visit a friend
Remember a loved one
Accept the universe

I haven’t written in awhile and wanted to drop a little bug in your ear! Hope you Try some of these and please email me with ideas for blogs and/or other things that I can add to this list?

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Live Laugh Love – Looking to Summer 2013

Summer is almost upon us and the warm weather usually brings out the smiles in us Bostonians. For some of us it is time of vacations, tanning, shorter work days and longer weekends, more time with a partner or the family, car washes and cook-outs.

For others it’s not as positive; unemployment is still very high, some individuals did not do the amount of work required to attain necessary certifications to properly move forward, some relationships are ending, homes have been lost and friends have gone different directions. With all of these things going on for many of us I think it is necessary to reflect inward instead of outward. To stop for a minute and attempt to assess your current situation and see it for what it really is, not for what you hope it to be. Then and only then, once you have seen what you have created or what your reality is – do you MakeMOVES and transform your reality into something you can accept or bring to the next level.

When thinking about reflecting on this, I think for me, the best thing about my life is that it is mine to live and do with it how I see fit. And yours is too! However you want to digest that depends on how you want your story to play out in the end. To help you think this through, I want to talk about the phrase, Live, Laugh and Love. Haven’t we all seen that on a card, tattoo, signage in a person’s home or keychain?

I challenge you to do three things:

LIVE a better, happier, substantial life. One in which you do the things you want to do, including sometimes things you don’t want to do. Do things NOW, patience is subjective and situational…Everything worth doing doesn’t have a calendar date but may have an expiration date so do it now and wait later. I really kinda like that last statement… “Do IT now and WAIT later.”

Laugh at yourself all day and every day. You should be the funniest person you have ever met in your life, when someone else laughs at you, laugh with them, watch comedies, remain light hearted and do not allow the weight of the world to eclipse the beauty of Laughter. If you know someone who is funnier than you, then dammit follow that person on twitter or instagram read their blog but whatever you do, LAUGH.

Love EVERYTHING, your enemy, your ex, your boss, gardens and rival sports teams. Love your family, pets, neighbors; even angry people on the road. Love long lines and traffic, dirty one dollar bills, allergies and mythical creatures that visit you in the night to talk about politics….(too much?) ok, let’s bring it back. LOVE everything because in everything is love or the potential for and/or to love. I don’t mean love like in the notebook (you must watch this movie) but love as an appreciation for the wonder that brought us here as a people and what makes this world go round. This earth, and all of us, will not be here forever. Play till the last second and love each success and defeat. Because when the game is over kids, it doesn’t matter what your win and loss percentage is…I promise you that. What matters is that you showed up prepared to play and had to courage to play (in case I lost you Playing means to LOVE).

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To simplify the above I received this passage below from a person close to me and it spawned this blog post so I thought I would add it at the bottom for you to enjoy. Take in the message from the above and below and let me know if you think differently? Which side of you do you feed and Why? Are you the best version of yourself? If not then let’s get you there through Living, Laughing and PLAYING (I mean LOVING)

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An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life.

“A fight is going on inside me,” he told the young boy, “a terrible fight between two wolves. One is evil, full of anger, sorrow, regret, greed, self-pity and false pride. The other is good, full of joy, peace, love, humility, kindness and faith.”

“This same fight is going on inside of you, grandson…and inside of every other person on this earth.”

The grandson ponders this for a moment and then asks, “Grandfather, which wolf will win?”

The old man smiled and simply said,

“The one you feed.”

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Inner Playlist of a Dj

The acronym Dj (Disc Jockey) is synonymous with fun, energetic, cool..the list goes on 😉 Most Djs are actually pretty socially awkward individuals who use the manipulation of tracks to speak/entertain the masses. In my case, Djing is a way for me to move the masses while engaging in my own level of enjoyment. Today my thoughts take me through an internal playlist of steps during an event or club night. Every Dj is different, this is just my take on this topic!

First it is important to know that I am crazy nervous each and every time I spin records or emcee an event. To think that as soon as I speak I will have everyone’s undivided attention is a little overwhelming and daunting. There are many ways to get through this but, if you know me at all, then you know that I just DO IT. No time to stress and waste time. It’s time to facilitate, organize and entertain so I do what I’m paid and trusted to do and get out there.

My second thought is who is in the room? Who are my ringers? Ringers are the ones at the party who get the party going for you as soon as you play a top 40 track! Lol. Ringers are good and you need/want them around as they are unpaid interns of entertainment! Ha. Ringers are usually a bridesmaid or relative of the guest of honor or the “class clown” of an organization/company. You don’t have to find the ringer they will find you during cocktail hour and usually ask for the most popular song to be played in the first 10 mins of the event. #Really? Ringers don’t and won’t have to be intoxicated to work either; they are self-sufficient and completely autonomous. Never overlook the Ringers as they can be your guide to many more events and will act as PR experts telling everyone how great you are. Work smarter – not harder.

Now the opposite of the ringers are the Djs sans portfolio! Now these individuals are and can be a nightmare so please, if you have a friend who does this, or better yet, if you are this person: STOP THEM OR STOP YOURSELF! These amazing life forms will usually be sneaking behind the Dj booth, looking over your shoulder, trying to see what your playing and what’s coming up next. If you’re not escorting them out from behind the Dj booth they are in your face asking you to play today’s “hottest music” (as if you didn’t know any better) or worse, they want you to play the bonus track to Elvis’ hidden album on repeat and swear that it will get EVERYONE dancing. Meanwhile, if they did a 180 they would see that the dance-floor is about 90% in full effect at the exact time they want to hear the never ending story theme song! C’Mon people! As if this wasn’t bad enough they are notorious for NOT DANCING and MEAN MUGGING you ALL NIGHT while you PURPOSELY DON’T/WON’T play their song. Sorry I laughed out loud on that one.

These two particular groups are the ones you want to look out for and be mindful of. Aside from them you want to play the best music for your crowd while providing the best amount of interaction. Our job is to inspire and remind our audiences of the fun they can be immersed into by the selection of songs played in particular order.

The goal is to forget what’s going on outside and focus on what’s going on inside. Music is easily the remedy to most mental frustrations and I’m proud and honored to be able to bring together strangers in a night club or share in the celebrations of families at a wedding or honor the Bar or Bat Mitzvah man/woman on their journey to adulthood. Proms are no different; playing hits of the last 10 years while students reminisce on the last four years of their lives and look towards new horizons. Playing that song you forgot about or dancing with that one person who hasn’t danced in years or watching a young one know the words to both a Rihanna song and a Michael Jackson song, seeing ties come off and heels removed (wait wait wait I got a little ahead of myself, heels should always stay on… #KLASSY) but you get the point.

This is what I do and this is the internal playlist of steps Boston’s Kupah James of Klass Universal Entertainment. Should I have the pleasure of entertaining your next party of if I have already had the honor of performing for you in the past, I love what I do and I do what I love. I’m extremely lucky to know and believe this. I plan on providing the Klassiest entertainment this country has ever seen and raising the bar for the next decade of Klassmates. Keep an eye out for Shadi, Bobby, Lindsay, Rachel, Kazz, Hectik, Case, Matty, Evan, J Diaz and more. We are changing the way private parties are played through Klassifying each one of our events and bringing them to the next level!

 

#MakeMoves! So, let’s hear it: Which are you?! Ringer or “Dj”?

Parents Just Don’t Understand

This week is for Young Adults (kids) and my Big Kids (Adults) so share with anyone whom fits into either of these two categories. Still with me? Good.

Parents and their children are notoriously getting into arguments which, at the end of each encounter, leave both parties feeling a little defeated. I have had my fair share of ups and downs with my own parents (mother) and even if I feel right in my argument, I still feel like a sack of potatoes shortly thereafter. There’s just something about the connection with parents that does that to you.

Per usual I was talking to one of my closest friends about parents and parenting and, while I don’t have any children of my own, please allow me to shed light on what I think happens between Adults and their respective Youths.

As a youth we are taught to mind adults simply because they are adults; no questions asked. We are taught to be honest, share, pay attention, be polite, wear our seat belts, obey rules and laws, believe in the Easter Bunny, leave fallen teeth out for an imaginary woman with wings who will somehow get into my locked fortress of slumber only to sneak into the space between my drooling face, pillow and mattress to take out the fallen tooth and replace it with a dollar bill of which is most likely bigger and heavier than she is which makes me wonder where she keeps all of these $1 bills in the first place? Sighhhhhhhh.

My point is that we look up to our parents while we are young and I think there may be some gaps in between. Now we’re left with how to bridge this transition from childhood to adulthood and what happens when children are no longer children.

I want to note that I still look up to my mother and lots of parents for the sacrifices and commitments they have made to their children. But, parents no longer are in a position to hold you accountable for table etiquette and convince you of imaginary characters. So because the teaching (for the most part) is done parents can feel left in the dust by their children.

Youth will be always be ahead of Adults in regards to technology, language, slang, fashion and modern day trends because that’s new and evolving daily and the youth, who have NO responsibilities can keep up with the changes daily unlike the adults who are still sitting in traffic trying to reach DD or Starbucks before the morning meeting at 9am sharp.

Conversations now sound like this “(Insert your name here) you have all the time in the world for your friends but never anytime for you family”, “You should be careful with the guy/girl because I heard a story in Texas of a guy who did blah or a girl who tried to blahhhhhh” Or my personal favorite “Kupah you should slow down, you try to do too much and maybe if you showed some patience….Blahhhhh” catch my drift?

What I think parents need to understand is that while the child should never take the role of parent, parenting needs to evolve even if nothing else around them doesn’t. Parents need to trust the investment of time they put into their children to make good, smart decisions, and hang with the right crowd and get enough sleep.

I am 30 years old graduated top of my undergraduate class with two bachelors degrees, worked for the state for 7yrs, created and operate a 6 figure company, teach fitness, I’ve been in magazines and billboards and my mother will still say to me “watch out” and “be careful” or “I do too much” Did I miss something?

I understand that parents never stop feeling like parents and from the bottom of my heart I hope mine never stops. But I am suggesting that all parents evolve in their relationship with their youth. Evolve into a role of counsel and support; children will reach out for advice and support when it’s wanted and really needed.

In a lighter sense, you can evolve with the times through your Youth and learn some things from them in turn. One suggestion: Youth get their information from smartphones, social media and conversations with friends. Adults get it from the tainted, spun, biased news…. Stop watching the news and get outside with your youth. Facebook and Twitter are not the enemy, Fox 25 news is! Lol. Learn to text and snap chat, tweet and email, Skype or FaceTime back and forth, use an app, you might learn something and have something new to relate to and discuss with your Youth!

There’s plenty of love out there and we all have it inside of each and everyone of us. We just need to open up and MakeMoves…. Until next time!

Subject for Debate

A friend of mine is reading a book and sent me this passage over the weekend. She thought it would be an interesting conversation topic for me LOL!

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“Our entire society’s based on discontent: people wanting more and more and more, being constantly dissatisfied with their homes, their bodies, their decor, their clothes, everything. Taking it for granted that that’s the whole point of life, never to be satisfied. If you’re perfectly happy with what you’ve got—specially if what you’ve got isn’t even all that spectacular—then you’re dangerous. You’re breaking all the rules, you’re undermining the sacred economy, you’re challenging every assumption that society’s built on………..

Throughout history—even a hundred years ago, even fifty—it was discontent that was considered the threat to society, the defiance of natural law, the danger that had to be exterminated at all costs. Now it’s contentment. What a strange reversal.”

French, Tana (2008-07-17). The Likeness: A Novel (p. 165). Penguin Group. Kindle Edition.

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I think there are many things to be said on this subject. It’s a great subject for debate and I think it’s a matter of what you do with the choices you make. If you’re happy with what you have and you’re content, but what you have are the things you truly wanted, not just settling for not making an attempt at your dreams, then I think that can be more than enough for someone.

It’s true that society is based on discontent in the more shallow dissatisfactions described above, but also on deeper levels. I believe it comes down to wanting to live and feel your life. Reaching, changing, trying on new ideas, careers and experiences in search for that meaning and feeling of fulfillment. Maybe it’s something that’s never attainable and that’s the journey that your life is, or maybe it is and either some people find it and it just doesn’t look the same as mine would.

I definitely want more. More businesses, more fun, more money, more success, more clients, more travel, more homes, more people to share this with: more. And I make no apologies for that. It gives me fire, it makes me who I am.

The second part, about how this principle has changed throughout history I just find interesting! That’s so true! I don’t even know what to say – it speaks so much for itself. That is history in its finest form, that’s the anthropology and the evolution of humankind. Done and done.

I personally don’t fear contentment; I guess I kind of feel sorry for it #NoFilter. Again, I do think it works, if you find what you really wanted along. If all you really wanted was a happy relationship with a secure home and 2 vacations a year to places you’ve always wanted to see. And, that happens, then I support that. If you look around and tell yourself you can’t do this or that’s not realistic and just accept that defeat, I don’t.

Please share your thoughts and opinions!

Klass Universal Event Recap: Olivia’s Mitzvah

Spring is almost here and we have begun the 2013 Mitzvah season. This year we started off w a client/friend we have been working with for almost two years!
It was held at the very popular Rumor Boston a local nightclub. Everything was there the sound, lighting and the awesome space. The lovely, talented Ivy Fynn was the event planner and she made sure we had everything we needed.
There were almost 300 in attendance for this bash and Klass was fully staffed with our own Dj Kazz, Shadi, Leanna, Kayla & our newest member Bobby D. Creative Events was also in the building providing temporary tattoos and awesome photo booth novelties. We’ve been integrating more and more novelty items and they add so much to the experience and seriously, where were these items when I was growing up?!
Everyone had a good time and Olivia (guest of honor) looked so pretty, sisters Carley and Leana were also looking quite marvelous. Mom and Dad were ready to let loose and just wanted to make sure everyone danced the night away. To top the night off we even had one of our Djs make a customized mix for everyone at the party. So much fun was had and we are glad that everyone was happy! It really is a success when we can have just as much fun as everyone in attendance!
Below is the letter we received from the planner and we could not be more appreciative of her and the opportunities she gives us!
Any questions about Klass Universal events – please ask! And, as always, subscribe, share and comment. Until Next Time!

How do you challenge yourself to #MakeMoves?

How do you challenge yourself? I write a lot about #MakeMoves and how I strive everyday to accomplish as much as i can and live as much as possible. But, how do I do that everyDAY? How do you?

I have days like everyone else when I don’t want to leave my place and I just want to watch movies or play a game and ignore my phone. And, I definitely take time to do those things, but usually it will be a part of my day, not my entire day. So I don’t call them bad days I have unpleasant “Moments” lol these moment are part of life and I take them and do my best to find the good in every moment. Usually just by trying a little harder those moments become motivators and I continue on a better, happier, healthier path.

I focus on my goals. My goals exist for a reason, they’re things I WANT and ENJOY. This is motivation enough for me. I am very disciplined when it comes to reaching my goals, because my goals are pretty dope as it is! There are times when others will attempt to change my focus and provide unsolicited advice. It may sound a little harsh but I would implore you to not listen to these individuals. Yes, it is in a good nature that they are trying to help. But most cases people never fully understand all the variables and factors going into every/any situation therefore they advice, opinions and thoughts are off by default. It is no fault of theirs and if you tell them then for sure they will be insulted so stay focused on the goals and for goodness sake trust yourself. If you got yourself to Monday and Tuesday then there’s no reason why you can’t make through Wednesday and Thursday, Friday and the weekend will take care of itself. Lol.

I remind myself of how great it feels. It feels pretty amazing to look at what I’ve done in a day and FALL into bed with NO regrets. People want to know why I smile so much.. I’ve made moves all day and created my own happiness what?! It feels great to get new events, meet with new event planners, new clients, new equipment and at the end of the day it feels great doing what I love and even better people love WHAT I DO! So remind yourself of how great it feels to do something good for another or yourself. DO IT!

I know I only have me to blame. This sounds negative but stick with me. I’ve built my circumstances and I’m my own boss, if I stop and fail it’s on me. I not only let down myself but I let down those that support me and believe in me. It’s a big responsibility and enough to keep me moving. There are no excuses in the world of Entrepreneurship and I won’t make any. I come off harsh at time to those I care about and I can only hope they understand the pressure I am under to answer every question when it reaches my desk. I don’t think many understand and I don’t need you to. But My role is a role I welcome gladly, the good/perks and the whole bag that comes with it.

I want to be the change. How can I tell other people to #MakeMoves and to expect more of others, if I slack myself? Let’s face it, I talk about this all day long and I’m not about to be a hypocrite. Lead by example. I didn’t make it up but I remember that phrase in my head all day everyday. But know that if I get my job done you better get yours done as well. Accept responsibility for all not just the rewards.

 

When it’s hard, I try harder. If I am walking into undiscovered territory, I’m nervous (it DOES happen,) or maybe I’m not feeling 100% I just push forward. I usually end up meeting someone new, LEARNING something new, having a blast or challenging myself physically or mentally. People want to believe in other people so give them something to believe in. If you sound like your knees are trembling then that will show and then your message will get lost in the fray, but if you stand tall and look people in the eyes (STRUT) then with everything you got… Fake it till you make it! It works trust me (wink, wink.) You think I woke up one day and said “Oh, I wanna host events of the highest regard with celebrities and fancy venues, mitvahs and weddings at the State Room?” Haha. Not a chance… I faked it and made it. Period.

You might say, that all sounds great, but is it really a big deal to just say screw it once in awhile? No, it’s not a big deal. But, it’s a choice and it leads to other choices. Giving yourself a reason to dial it in is giving yourself a reason to sell yourself short. No debating about it. Still not convinced? Let’s try this, next time you want to take a “Day Off” think about some man or woman somewhere who isn’t and how much they are accomplishing in those hours you wanted to CHILL. Then, and only then if you still feel like your “Day Off” is justified then go nuts. But if you’re, like me or people that I MakeMoves with, then your picking up what I’m putting down.

How many of those days are enough days to get you off track? How many of those days are days that could have brought you that much closer to something? And honestly, how many of those days do you feel as good about yourself and energized in comparison with the days when you #MakeMoves?
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What are your motivators?

How do you challenge yourself?

 

Breathe. Stretch. Pose. Let it go.

I had mentioned on my previous fitness post that I go to a yoga class twice a week and I thought I’d tell all of you about my classes and about my experience getting into yoga. As I had no idea when I started.

When it came to yoga in general I was a blank slate – I knew it was focused on stretching, breathing and overall calmness but that was about it. I went to a class, a traditional yoga class, and it was just too dull/not challenging enough for me. I like stimulation and to feel some energy!

After this, a friend invited me to a Bikram yoga class. I don’t know if any of you have heard of or been to a Bikram yoga class but it’s basically yoga in an extremely hot room. Like over 100 degrees, those of you that know me personally know I already sweat a ton when it’s cold out, you should see me in a Bikram yoga class #JuSayin. Each class is 90 minutes long and covers 26 poses and breathing exercises.

When I went to my first class I had just pulled my back (I would not recommend exercising/yoga when you’re injured) my muscle was inflamed, I was very uncomfortable. But, even though I was really hurting I was still so calm. I went back when my  back was better and was sold. I love Bikram and look forward to my classes. They’re a KJ#CoSigned way to #MakeFitnessFun

Source: Google Images

It’s the only thing I do for me specifically and each time I go I’m in competition with myself. In competition over poses; getting an extra inch out of bend or stretch that kinda thing. For example, there’s a spine-twisting pose and I just can’t get my arm behind my knee and down to the other knee. But I will and I work towards that LOL.

Source: BikramYoga.com

On a sidenote I am extremely humbled by all of the women in the classes who were killing it! I am so impressed each time.

End of the day I love Bikram, I highly recommend it for any and everyone. Men get to a class, women bring your men to a class! 90 minutes in a crazy hot room sounds intense, and it is, but it’s also relaxing and does so much for your flexibility, balance, well-being.

Let me know your thoughts! Have you ever tried a yoga class? What was your experience like, have you tried different versions?

As always, thanks for reading!