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The Time is Now…

Whats up party people?! 

Kupah James here. Its been awhile since I’ve shared some of my thoughts w all you and I hope this message finds you well and in good health. As many of you know I have just returned from an amazing journey. A journey where I made new friends, connections and was also humbled by an experience for which I will take w me for the rest of my life. 

This message isn’t about what took place during my time over “There” lol. This message is a message I have been bringing for years and this is just another dose of #MakeMoves. I live laugh and love HARD. I make no apologies for that and NEVER WILL. I have lost friends and made family and relationship sacrifices to establish and maintain a life of happiness and healthiness that I chose. I have also given much of my time to the youth in hopes that they may one (soon) bypass me. I will continue to give and share and promote and talk and snapchat and blog and vlog and laugh and comment and #MakeMoves. lol. 

Whatever it is you are not happy with you must begin the process for which to change your stars. There isn’t any other way to do it. Man up, Buck up face yourself and get it done. There isn’t any time to waste on shoulda, coulda, wouldas. One of the most valuable lessons I have learned over the course of my life is the importance of “Time”. The discussion about “time” is for another day however the concept is one we can all relate too. Time and what we do w our time is truly wasted on the youth. So if we know this to be true, what are we waiting for? Large or small you have to make the effort to set goals and then reach them, PERIOD. Setting goals isn’t enough and if you don’t bang that bitch out then you will be left w your head hanging when it’s too late. Time is inevitable but it’s also flexible and can benefit those who put forth the blood sweat and tears to accomplish what other make excuses for. 

I leave you w a fist pump and a high five! Hope to see you at the end of your next journey cuz I’m about to embark on my next one. Stay tuned and stay positive always especially in the face of adversity! See you all soon! #MakeMoves 

Blog to Vlog…

Hi Everyone, It has been a few months since my last post and I wanted to first say Happy New Year (2015) to everyone. I also wanna express my extreme gratitude for each one of you for your support over the last few years following and reading my blog. I set out with the intention to give just a little insight into the life, dreams, motivations, fears, losses and achievements of my life. My hopes and aspirations are and were to help anyone out there looking for some optimism or a positive outlook on whatever their dreams and motives are/were.

I have received such good feedback and awesome suggestions over my time blogging and i hope to have reached you as much as possible and i thank you for this relationship we have built and maintained over the life span of my blog.

I am incredibly excited to announce that i am taking my blog to another level and migrating over to video! Video is overwhelmingly popular today and through years of great feedback many of you have sought after me making my blogs into videos. The sense is that my personality is one you enjoy and that i am able to connect a little better through video vs text. Obviously everyone isn’t saying this but I feel like its a great time to make the change and I hope you all enjoy my next stage along with me.

I have already begun making videos and you can find them all on Youtube Page. My goal is to first turn many of my blog entries into vlogs and of course mix in some other new, fresh material as well. I hope you continue to take this journey with me as I have enjoyed hearing from you. I look forward to more ideas and thoughts of all of you so please do not hesitate to reach out and let me know what you’re thinking.

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Chivalry…

Texts, Tweet, Private Messages, Instagram Likes, Tinder Swipes, Emoji’s and Snapchat… This is where chivalry lies today. I can argue in circles around myself about whether this is good or bad but I’m gonna leave that up to you. I will however attempt to lay it out for you to make the best most logical decision for yourself.

Back in the day man “courted” women by taking them to a show or or a bite to eat. Men would show up at her work place “uninvited” with gifts or flowers, he might stop by her stoop where her lady friends were hanging out after school or work. He might write her a poem or sing her a song, do a little dance or even make her a meal. Women would laugh and giggle, play coy and taunt, her friends were tease and whisper but everyone would be earnest and yes he was trying to date, sleep with and become romantic but he was allowed to be a man and she was pure enough to be a women. Those were the days… Or were they?

Today (in modern language) (See Key located at the bottom for words, phrases and acronyms unknown) Someone posts a W.O.D. selfie on IG and it is screen shotted by a THOT/Thirsty Dude, shared with a snapchat story then stalked on Facebook only to be followed on Twitter and swiped through on Tinder looking for a New Bae to pop up… Did you get all of that. I can do it again if you need me too. Keep Up! This applies to both men and women alike not just one side here. I place no blame on either side. I’m merely laying it all out here. Shall we go on?

Let’s….

We live in a “point the finger” society where its totally appropriate and necessary to blame and point the finger at everything and everyone accept ourselves (mirror effect). How we got there is irrelevant to this post and to be discussed in a later blog. We do not look in the mirror when she doesn’t respond or if he doesn’t call you back… We just blame that person for being “just like everyone else”. Now what about the part where you are acting like everyone else? Maybe? No? Just a little?

I’m not blaming her and I’m not blaming him so if there’s no blame then what? What’s the answer? Well here’s what I think it is? Technology while it obviously has its advantages also opens up the world making it largely smaller simultaneously. Men don’t have to go looking for a woman when he can find one Tinder and women don’t have to get to know just one man when she can get to know 7 off of her IG account. Men don’t have to ask what you’re about because your universe is online?! Women don’t need to keep you interested because she’s too busy taking selfies in her boy shorts.

Accessibility… everyone is so DAMN Accessible 24/7, smart phones and social media has lifted any privacy or culture of “time and place”. Now men expect women to respond immediately and women expect men to plan regularly because we have calendars in our phones and “read receipts” on our texts. We have geolocation apps and check-in options. We have snapchats stories, selfies, shared links, comments on status’, wifi, and hotspots galore and AHHHHHHHHH. Lol. It’s amazingly nightmarish. And inappropriately normal in 2014.

Women don’t cook, Men still don’t listen, Women do crossfit and Men cry and shape their eyebrows, Women make more money and Men take Dick-Pics and Selfies AND POST ONLINE! Come On?! Am I the only one who sees this terrible roller coaster of potential gender crisis? lol. Honestly it doesn’t even bother me that much but you know who it does bother? YOU. You’re single and can’t figure out why? Where are all the good men, how come all girls can do in public is post pics and like other people IG photos? How come the only conversation ever had is about IG, Facebook, Tinder, Twitter, Snapchat and the damn Kardashians. Who cares? Really Who cares!

Why are you home on a Friday night with no plans? Why didn’t he call you back? How come she hasn’t check my message and replied? How come she won’t drive here? Why can’t he make a plan? We are all too accessible. No “Me” time anymore woman who say they are working on themselves are just interested in someone else dude take the hint. Or how bout women stop hinting and just say your not interested. OMG? Did I just figure it out? Lol. #RocketScience

When a girl says “I can’t wait to go home and go to sleep” that should mean… She can’t wait to go home and go to sleep, but to some women it could mean “I have no plans and open to make one with you should you choose to ask me”… Yeah good luck with one ladies, let me know how that works out for ya? And fellas please please stop  taking nude selfies, girls are showing everyone just like you do when you receive one from a girl. #MindBlown #WhoWouldaThought

What do you think it is? What do you think makes Dating so Damn Difficult today? Where is chivalry? Dead? Hiding?

I just think it needs to be re-defined and re-introduced. Let’s work on that together and see if we can’t get two people to meet, get to know one another, fall involve and live happily ever after… What Say YOU?

If you need to find me please google me and send me an email off of my website it will notify my iPhone and I can respond through text while updating my twitter and posting selfies on IG after I took random pics and videos for my snapchat story hoping that one girl will send me a direct message and like my Klass Universal Page on Facebook. #LMFAO

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As Promised Key:

IG – Instagram

W.O.D. – Work of the Day most commonly used in Crossfit

THOT – That Hoe Over There (I didn’t make these up) #SMH

New Bae – A shortened version of the already short word “Babe” (yea ok) #SMDH

SMH/SMDH – Shaking My Head/ Shaking My Damn Head

 

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Mindstream…SHE…

So this one is a bit different so I hope it reaches as many people as possible. I blog because if you know me you know I have a lot to say and i’m always buzzing around about something. You know that i don’t complain but I do hold life accountable for its short-comings. lol

Most of my blogs are whatever comes to mind. Meaning sometimes its a conversation i have had with someone or a piece of art I see somewhere, It could be from a quote I read that gets my mind racing.  Inspiration to write can come from anywhere and I truly encourage any of you out there who haven’t tried it to do so. It’s extremely rewarding and for yourself.

This Blog Post is a little different than the norm. I have an interesting mind and it can go pretty far sometimes and every once in awhile I will take just one word and start writing whatever comes to me and I call it “MindStream” there are no boundaries or rules just words coming out (hopefully it makes some sense) but its intended to express an emotion, desire, fear, or even provide clarity to this world we are all living in. I hope you enjoy it and please share it with anyone and everyone. Subscribe as well!

SHE… will be loud in presence and respected in silence, long winded but straight to the point, she will be courageous in her efforts to withstand the tides of mis-guided torpedoes coming from any direction, sent from uneducated minds saturated in the wrong times, she will move to an internal clock and rhythm, she will Stand when others sit and remain productive when others are stationary, she will make points using facts not fiction or undeveloped thoughts plucked from any impulsive emotional highway, she will make mistakes, she will laugh often and cry in happiness, she will sleep safely, live aggressively and love with grand affections, she will care unconditionally and support with the clearest understanding of what needs to be done and has to be done. She will pause a SuperBowl 3rd Down play in the fourth quarter with her beauty and stifle the most educated or pompous men with a unique hybrid thought stream combined of emotion and rationale that is her Yin Yang and not and opposites of the spectrum. She would’ve developed this over a coarse life of twists n turns, commercial breaks and epic events, she breaths the cleanest of intentions and gives utter devotion to the things she loves, she will be cared for, supported and loved by all that is he, She will be His and He will most certainly be Hers and till death they will never part, they will prove that loves extends beyond the half-lived. SHE… is and forever will be my “Woman”. 

 

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Just this once…

Just this once you should try harder
Think first
Ask the question
Wait a Minute
Get it done
Move over
Sacrifice
Set a goal
Re-evaluate
Take an interest
Brush it off
Only take “yes” for answer
Hold your head high
Say “thank you”
Call back
Open a door
Smile
Make a wish
Drink a cocktail
Hit the gym
Wear different socks
Watch that movie
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Be Nice
Sit Down
Mind your own business
Not assume
Play your role
Visit a friend
Remember a loved one
Accept the universe

I haven’t written in awhile and wanted to drop a little bug in your ear! Hope you Try some of these and please email me with ideas for blogs and/or other things that I can add to this list?

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Branding – Some basics

Branding is so very important and, not just in business, but in life in general with social media being such a force in how we communicate with each other. Each one of these sites is showcasing your “brand” all over the World Wide Web.

Confession: every time I make a new friend on FB or a new Twitter follower, I immediately creep all over their pages, walls, photos and anything else I can. And most times I don’t have to ask any questions because their entire life, interests, hobbies, thoughts, beliefs and profession are online.

This should be extremely alarming to you if you are not thinking about your online profile…

Things to consider when posting online:
•It doesn’t come down on its own, whatever you post is online for about as long as the site is alive, and long after you have forgotten you posted it.
• World Wide Web: Not a secret club house, if you put it online it’s for the world. Please do not convince yourself that anyone can’t find it.
• Private Social Media Life: This is simple, it doesn’t exist. A private social media platform is an Oxymoron. Unless you have read all the terms and agreements before checking that box then how can you argue?
• Storefront: Is what your posting as interesting to the world as it is to you? Didn’t think so. An extra thought before posting historically never hurt anyone, EVER!

These are just a few of things to ponder regarding social media. There are many ways to create a brand and maintain it. Do you have to be on the cover of a magazine or play professional sports, win an academy award? Well yes, but that’s not the point.

Branding isn’t what you have done necessarily and it doesn’t have to be a specific goal either. You wanna have a direction, a goal, an image. There should be something to where you wanna get to and then you need to create the Brand to help get you there. More importantly, once you have acquired this you must continue to evolve your brand as your continue to grow.

Never forget that it’s much easier to fall off the Pedestal then it is to climb it.

I’ll leave you with this Quote, that I didn’t create…

~Remember and be nice to all the people you meet on your way up, because those will be the same people you see on the way down.~

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Black History Month: Modern Day Entrepreneurs

To continue the discussion around Black History Month I wanted to also call out a variety of modern day entrepreneurs that have been taking over film/tv/toys/music/clothing/appliances/entertainment..

Lonnie G Johnson: Engineer and inventor who has developed multiple things in energy technology. Most notably.. he was the inventor of the SUPER SOAKER! #BestToyEver #LetsHaveAWaterFight

Tyler Perry: I know everyone knows him as the Madea character and movie director (which is no small feat – those movies are crazy popular!) But, he actually got his start as an accomplished playwright. He’s also an author, producer, songwriter and has created multiple television shows.

Tyra Banks: Not just a pretty face.. She was a successful model and turned that into a TV and film career. She now has her own production company which has produced a number of shows and movies including America’s Next Top Model which is still going strong over 10 years later. She’s one of four African-Americans who has repeatedly been one of Time Magazine’s most influential people.

George Foreman: Starting out a troubled youth who dropped out of high school he became an Olympic winning boxer. After retiring from his storied boxing career he brought the George Foreman grill into our lives. #GeniusIdea. Fun fact: Of his 12 children, 6 are named after him.. 5 sons named George and one daughter named Georgetta.

Russell Simmons: Third richest hip-hop figure he’s a true businessman. He created Def Jam music label and a few clothing lines, most famous being Phat Farm. Def Jam is known for many hip hop artists, some big names today include Kanye, Rihanna and Frank Ocean.

Sean “Puffy” Combs: First one to sign Notorious BIG on Bad Boy Records.. Producer, artist, created the TV Show Making the Band, actor.. Richest figure in hip hop worth $580 million. Other ventures he’s known for are his Sean John clothing line and now owner of Enyce, owner of two NY restaurants and developed Ciroc vodka. Also known as.. Puffy, P. Diddy and Diddy.. and somehow never lost brand recognition. #Didn’tWorkForPrince

And then there’s Michael Jordan, arguably the best Basketball Player ever, this man has done things that might not ever be eclipsed (at least in my mind.) I could probably blog about his quotes and sayings for 2 whole months and still not capture all that he has left behind. I do not know every business deal or endorsement he has but Michael Jordan did it, and he was one of the first and he did it the best. Not only an amazing basketball player but as a role model he captivated me as a young boy and made me feel like if I worked hard enough I could have anything. Now a days you can “flick” through IG, FB and Twitter and be motivated by anyone or anything, its good but bad. You can simply pull out your phone, tablet or laptop and “SEEM” motivated by scouring social media. Back then (I’m old reference) you actually had to go and buy books or watch documentaries and plan your nightly activities because the Chicago Bulls played on TNT at 8:35 and you couldn’t record it. Any way Michael is and always will be one of the most important and influential people in my life. He’s the definition of an entrepreneur – he has his hands in and on everything. #Can’tLearnEnoughFromHim

Oprah: #NuffSaid. #Recognize. #BlackWomen. #1. #AspireToBeAsSuccessful.

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Any surprises? Who else would you include? Most interesting Black History Month facts?

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Remembering Black History Month

In honor of Black History Month I thought it would be fun and interesting to talk about some famous African American entrepreneurs over the next few weeks.

Paying homage to those who paved the way for those today..

Madam CJ Walker (1867-1919): Founder of the “hair-growing” business. She got her start trying to cure hair loss and turned into a self declared hair culturist creating Madame CJ Walker Manufacturing Company complete with sales and marketing departments. She even opened a college to teach others her craft. Her products were hair treatments and lotions. She inspired the first permanent wave machine and fun fact: Was the first self-made female millionaire in America! Not just first African-American millionaire, but FEMALE millionaire. Yeah, look out Oprah!

Elijah McCoy (1844-1929): Child of former slaves who escaped on the underground railroad, he was issued more than 57 patents in his lifetime. After an apprenticeship he began working as a train fireman and oiler. He create a lubricating system for steam engines to prevent them from overheating without requiring the train to stop. Fun fact: Other manufacturers tried to copy, but, their product was never as good, so people would say, “I want the Real McCoy” which is where the STILL USED statement comes from. Lol Um DOPE! #History

Garrett Morgan (1877-1963): I’m gonna go out on a limb and say this dude is one of the most interesting inventors and entrepreneurs I’ve read about because of the importance and lasting impact of his creations. He created multiple inventions and was a very successful businessman. But, two of his inventions were: the Gas Mask and Traffic Lights. His original gas mask was called a safety hood. He was able to save a number of lives after a tunnel explosion almost killed a number of water works workers. After running into some issues from people who didn’t want to buy from a black man. The US Army used his gas mask during WWI when poisonous gases were heavily used.

After witnessing a bad traffic accident and seeing the need to have a back up or replacement for policemen or traffic workers directing traffic he created the first traffic signal. This was sold to General Electric for $40,000 and was the original model for the traffic lights we use today. WHAT?! … I mean.. WHAT?!

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Today I wanted to start by showcasing some amazing people we either have never heard of or can easily get lost over time. There are so many amazing African American entrepreneurs and inventors modern day that I want to talk about too – but, special notice needs to be made to these 3 (of many, many others!)

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Micro-SOFT takes new approach.. Should you?

Microsoft just announced a new CEO today, Satya Nadella. He’s worked for the company since 1992, has the technical goods and gets the vision and vibe of the company. These are the main points mentioned in his selection. He wasn’t some fancy business man who “knows business” and hands were shook and deals made. He worked from the bottom to the top. Literally.

Reading about this, Nadella was quoted in a New York Times article: “In an email to Microsoft employees on Tuesday morning, he wrote that he is “defined by my curiosity and thirst for learning.” I buy more books than I can finish,” he wrote. “I sign up for more online courses than I can complete. I fundamentally believe that if you are not learning new things, you stop doing great and useful things.””

I hadn’t known about this guy before today. But, HELLO! I can confidently say he’s the f***n shit. Work your ass off. Be loyal. LEARN. Motivate yourself. Be great. THERE ARE NO EXCUSES.

You can’t read that and make excuses anymore. You’re just done. I don’t want to hear it. Sorry, I’m not sorry. Mmkay?

Let’s face it he started working for a company in the early stages, they had no idea the monster the company would become. They believed in it. They worked hard. They didn’t let people put roadblocks in the way. Or they did, and they ignored them. (Haters I’m looking at you.) This guy didn’t just get rich with the company and jump ship. He must have believed in it in some way or another, or loved the hell out of his job and kept doing what made him happy. Either way he stuck around and it paid off.

I’m an entrepreneur who’s running a thriving business. Do I want to be 1000x bigger and more successful? Yes – and then I want to by another 5000%. I believe in myself, I believe in my company, I believe in the amazing people that work for and with me. To everyone that tells me enough is never enough for me, I’m never happy, I’m never satisfied. I say to you: I am happy, I am satisfied, but there’s more happiness and greater satisfaction to be had. And, I want it.

I do not intend to stop. I do need to read more. I want to read more. I will read more. Not just to read, but to learn, to expand my knowledge base, to connect to more people. To diversify me, my company, my life and my experience.

Do you think this guy needed to take online courses? Did he need to learn more? He had JOB SECURITY PEOPLE. He had money. He had experience. But he kept reaching for more and now… HE’S THE CEO OF MICROSOFT. He’s the THIRD ONE. The first was Bill Gates. Done and done.

Like I was saying.. No excuses. Make Moves.

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“I want to live my youth not experience my age.”…

That came to me one day while debating with another about dollar bills and what to do with them, how to save it, make it, blah blah blah. I realize the importance of rainy days and/or emergencies. I know that saving money is one key to a financial security as well as ones future. We are told to manage dollars and live on a budget. Not to live beyond our means; the list continues and as we grow older we only hear more sophisticated versions of “Save Money”.

If I would like to retire young enough to enjoy some fruits of my labor then saving money is a necessity.

What if I’m to be a family man? Then my family is a wonderful reason to save. Save Save Save! A lesson they teach early in school and continue to encourage this value as life continues.

What if I wanted to just be a spend thrift and die broke?

What “They” don’t teach is how to do both, enjoy the money we’re earning now and be prepared for the future.

Let’s remember how we came into this world and how we are leaving it. Most likely it will be in a similar fashion: Broke, little to no clothing and hungry. What I mean by this is that you can’t take all that money you save with you after this life and since we haven’t figured out the exact science to say when most of us are going to die, why am I supposed to save ALL THIS MONEY?

I personally don’t want to visit Aruba and/or Hawaii in my 60’s or 70’s when I have an inhaler and a bum knee, you might but, not me. I wanna run on an Aruban beach NOW and possibly with my walker when I’m 90. Lol. I want to wear nice suits that fall on my shoulders perfectly, I would love to see something magical early in life but then be able to revisit it later on in case I realize I wasn’t mature enough to appreciate it the first time. I want to work hard and thus play harder and when my time comes I won’t feel like I was too busy saving my money to enjoy some of the freedoms and luxuries it can provide.

Don’t be fooled.. I do get it!

The average adult, with the aid of medical and technological advancements, can now live longer and may need more money saved to sustain. A soon to be grandmother is expecting her first granchild or an additional family member then I see the need to be watchful of saving. If one parent is serving the country in a military capacity then I understand that. I could go on about why living longer could/would be completely justified in needing to save more.

For me… I want to live long enough to say that I have “lived”. Simple. We have all heard phrases like “live life to the fullest” or “live like there’s no tomorrow” however I do not believe we take that to its full potential. I want to be mindful of doing that.

I live life every single day, take chances, meet new people, welcome good change while learning from poor change. I appreciate the awards and apologize for my shortcomings (well some of them) lol. I live! I push myself and refuse to be stationary by society’s expectations or demands. I set my own. So how does this relate to the title of this blog?

As a child in a single household we survived by the strongest most intuitive bold woman I will ever know: my mother. Welfare, section 8, food stamps all were part of my adolescent stages. While one half of my creation did exactly what was asked/required of her she could not protect me from the horrible humiliation I felt due to our financial situation. No one could have, it was a necessary experience I was to live and learn from. And believe me I learned…

I have successfully completed high school w 4 years perfect attendance, double majored during my undergraduate career, shared 7 years of my life working for the Norfolk County D.A.’s office while building a high end sophisticated entertainment company. Let me assure you I’m just getting started and I plan on going until I can’t go anymore.

Work hard, play hard, live bold, challenge conformity, dare to be different, question authority and believe in your own ability to #MakeMoves

See you all next time!