The other day someone asked me what I look for in a companion and without hesitation I answered, “Beauty, Brains & a side of Fitness.” It came out so fast I had to say it more than once to make sure I was ok with my statement. If you know how my brain works then you would know that I was playing it over in my head looking for holes in my own thought process. LOL.
First, lets establish that while I have the definition of a wandering eye.. I do not try to wander… therefore that behavior isn’t my forte. Moving right along… I have many layers and if one were to pull back some of those seemingly complicated ones they would find that I can be one of the most easy going people you have ever met: Simple, direct and to the point with no secrets or nonsense in the background.
For example, when I say I like something…wait, are you ready for this? It may come as a surprise, but, it actually means I like something… OMG NO WAY. I would not waste the energy on the acting job I would have to commit to in trying to convince my audience of anything other than the truth. The same goes for things I do not like… Ladies I’m not other men therefore I cannot speak for them but, when I say I do not like something, it is NOT an invitation to seduce me into liking it. SAVE everyone’s time or either sneak it into my life and then I’ll pull the “I told you so” or, leave it be. I’m not one to rock boats or fix stuff that doesn’t appear to be broken. I eat chicken broccoli & ziti and many variations of this particular dish. So, in 24 months when I order it please do not assume I’m boring, rather be happy that we are out in public and still enjoying social events together instead of Bertolli Dinners which can be just as good in a time crunch.
Shallow: probably the single most debated word/topic I discuss in addition to Cockiness and the true existence of Santa Claus (who I’m pretty sure still visits me once a year – now that guy MakesMOVES! Ha.) Anyway I state loud and clear that attractiveness (to me) is important when thinking about relationships. I do realize that all the glitz and glamour fades and that’s why I also have Brains on my list and as added security (a side of fitness) to me means that whatever is LOOKING good will look good just a little longer than the one who exercises the right to drive by the gym and wave. Made myself laugh on that one: true story.
Brains are absolutely necessary to keep my attention during conversations and social interactions with other people. Gossip Queens, FaceBook Addicts, Non-Voters, and Land of ‘living with your parents,’ doesn’t suit me very well. Please have an opinion about politics, religion, history, future, technology… Something other than what happened on Kardashians last week or who Justin Timberlake was caught with on a secluded island. Spare me! Not interested. Stimulate my mind and I promise you won’t be disappointed.
Side of Fitness is exactly that. I’m not looking to date a female version of myself. I respect all that and those women should be proud to work as hard as they do to reach the goals they have set for themselves. I just don’t want to put my hands on larger muscles than mine (know what I mean.) A side of fitness is just that “a side if fitness.” To me that means a woman who respects the body and likes to take care of it. I don’t just mean just physically either, I’m talking mental, emotional, and spiritual Fitness. Exercise the mind anyway you can. Utilizing a fitness center is really more about mental health anyway as it promotes dedication, drive, consistency and goal setting. Find the nearest gym, sign up and then find my match.com profile! Lol kidding. My account ran out so you will have to resort to just bumping into me on the street.
What does it for you? What do you seek in a companion, partner? What traits are important to you? What do you bring to the table and what advice can you give to others? Sharing is caring so leave a comment!