Something worth HEARING

Happy Hump {giggity}  Day Everybody (I guess that’s what they call it?) Here’s a little something different I wanted to share that is 100% KJ #CoSigned:

Once upon a time there was a bunch of tiny frogs who arranged a running competition.

The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower.

A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants.

The race began….

Honestly, no one in the crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower.

You could hear statements such as:

“Oh, WAY too difficult!!”
“They will NEVER make it to the top.”
“Not a chance that they will succeed. The tower is too high!”

One by one, the tiny frogs began collapsing.

Except for those, who in a fresh tempo, were climbing higher and higher.

The crowd continued to yell, “It is too difficult! No one will make it!”

More tiny frogs got tired and gave up.

But ONE continued higher and higher and higher….

This one wouldn’t give up!

At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog that, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top!

All of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?

A contestant asked the tiny frog how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal.

It turned out….

That the winner was DEAF!

The wisdom of this story is:
Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be negative or pessimistic because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you.

Always think of the power words have.

Because everything you hear and read will affect your actions!


And above all:

Be DEAF when people tell YOU that you cannot fulfill your dreams!

This topic has been coming up a lot lately in my life. It’s classic #KupahJames101! The only thing I want to add is that there isn’t only power in what you hear or what you read; but also in what you say. Believe in yourselves and don’t let negativity affect you, and be sure to #MakeMoves and share that positivity with and towards others too! #StayKlassy and #LiveYOURDreams

Tour of Boston: Where were you for St. Patrick’s Day?!

St. Patrick’s Day is definitely one of the most heavily celebrated events in Boston. Could it be Southie, the Boston Celtics, Movie “The Town,”  “The Departed,” and their insane embellishment of our accents? (I digress). It seems like every year it’s all anyone is talking about and I’m constantly being asked where I’m going to be and if I celebrate.  Truth is, it’s just like any other weekend for me & #Klass. Meaning: fun, exciting and filled with music and dancing. In other words, worked a few gigs!

This year St. Patty’s Day was on a Sat, which means I was spinning at Chocolate Bar, then I made a special appearance at Red Lulu in Salem, Ma. I love the Chocolate Bar even though I don’t eat much of the chocolate. The Langham Boston Hotel is a dope spot. Right in the heart of the Financial District, the hotel is home to one of my favorite spots; BOND and Cafe Fleuri. Cafe Fleuri has the most amazing, over the top brunch w/live Jazz (perfect for the the next morning). Seriously check that out on Sundays, and Chocolate Bar on Saturdays is a great way to spend a Saturday afternoon. Who isn’t obsessed with Chocolate?!

I won’t even begin to describe how much of an adrenaline rush I had after spinning for Red Lulu on Saturday night. I don’t get behind the DJ booth too much for 2 reasons: 1) Dj Kazz and the rest of the #Klass Dj’s are far better than I, 2) It’s incredibly difficult to stay back there while everyone else is dancin’ it up. Ha! However when I do get back there, It’s a completely different type of fun for me! Red Lulu is a new sexy spot on Lafayette St. Salem, MA. The sister of Lolita in Boston and they both never fail to impress in any regard. I was able to play songs from all kinds of genres and that was easily the best part. From Peter Gabriel, to the Police, to Diddy, Maino, Rihanna, Kings of Leon I mean the list goes on. Crazy Good Time!

Both Lolita of Boston and Lulu of Salem are KJ #CoSigned! Amazing food; I’ve seriously never had anything from there that I didn’t love. Salmon Coco and Shrimp Tacos Please! O,r if you are the healthy type peep their version of the Caesar salad (Try the Croutons) & the drinks are unparalleled. They’re creative and different; every drink is muddled with fresh ingredients/fruit and the menu continues to evolve. Some of my personal favorites are the Bonita, White Lie, Gin Blossom & Diablo margarita. They’re always integrating some new seasonal drinks and menu items soon so check back for any new recommendations!

So how many of you #Bostonians DID go to the St. Patrick’s Day parade in Southie? Any good spots YOU can recommend? Please feel free to respond to this blog and yes I’m serious I want to know what you did!

Black Swan

So, I just watched Black Swan for the first time. Before I watched it I had of course heard many mixed opinions about it. So going into it I tried to remain objective and just let the movie dictate my thoughts, emotions etc. Now after watching the movie, realizing that I am no expert by any means, I do have some thoughts I felt like sharing. I would like to state now that the following is completely just from MY point of view as a man. It doesn’t apply to all men or all women or all situations, and I realize there are a variety of themes and points and layers to this movie. I’m just going to hone in on one aspect that struck me personally. (DEEP INTAKE OF BREATH) now GO:

I don’t understand how anyone could watch this movie and not feel some sort of extreme sympathy for women. If I didn’t already realize all that women had to go through and all that they’re capable of emotionally; bearing children, nurturing, building, organizing, supporting, unconditionally loving (in many ways they’re the stronger sex),  this movie certainly added a new element to a woman’s range. It’s the psychological element that I feel the average man would be totally excluded from understanding, yet it’s an element that is so easily influenced positively and negatively by men. And granted, not just men, the character Nina was influenced by herself, Lily’s character, her mother etc. But the point is more about giving insight to men into how they’d never realize the majority of women could probably relate on some level to Nina’s character.

The forced narcissism, the idea that they’re never enough, the striving to be absolutely perfect, it’s just this psychological stew of thoughts, emotions and pressure that go through a woman’s brain every few seconds while trying to appear totally fine and play it all off. It’s not a weakness, it’s amazing and humbling as a man. Asking a woman how her day was: she could easily have been stressed, excited, happy, felt attractive, felt unattractive, let her mind run away with itself with worry, laughed and felt care-free, all in the first three hours of her day and so when she just says “it was fine” there were SO many more layers to her day and to each interaction she had.

I think there should be a call to men to make a solid effort to be more of a woman’s companion, than say, a woman’s provider for example, because men really are not accountable on this level.  Men shouldn’t be “saving” women, but they should have an active role in developing a healthy self-esteem and PARTNERing with women. This movie opened my eyes and I recommend it to all of you. Men, don’t judge try to understand. Women, learn from it and own your emotions and your dreams. All of you, be confident and honest in your lives. Harmony and love! Kupah James

#Klassroom Tour of Boston

There are many great places in this world and I plan on conquering quite a few in my lifetime. But, Boston is one of the #Klassiest. I am so proud to live here, and by living in Boston I mean living in the general vicinity of Boston HA!

Can we take a moment to appreciate all that this city has to offer?! I know they call America a melting pot, but if one American city could represent that best it would be Boston. Boston has so many different groups and types of people, places, cultural experiences, and HISTORY. It’s a city where you can walk from one neighborhood where you know you’ve got to keep your head down and not look anyone in the eye, to dapping up strangers and asking for directions. You can walk by a girl who’s in a business suit and looks sexy, but totally reserved and conventional in Govt Center and then see her late night breaking it down on the dance floor to Kanye and Jay-Z.

#Bostonians are smart. It’s a haven for education and on the flip side, is so culturally diverse you can make it successfully in pretty much any trade you’re passionate about. #Bostonians are tough. Whether its book or street smart, or both (which most #Bostonians are) they can hold their own in life and know how to survive. I firmly believe once you’re a #Bostonian you can take whatever life throws at you and survive anywhere else.

I’d like to have fun with this so I’m officially starting a Boston anthology of blog posts. Every few posts there will be one about Boston. It will include a Kupah James tour of Boston; my favorite places to hang out, dine, dance, see and shop as well as simply where I’m at or where Klass can be found any given weekend. And then, just some of my humble opinions and thoughts about Boston and #Bostonians of course.

To kick start this tour I’d take you to the Boston Public Library in Copley Square. It’s amazing. I head there in between meetings, I hold meetings there, and absorb all of the knowledge. It’s such a beautiful and peaceful place. It’s motivating to be surrounded by so much information and power (because knowledge is power duh!). Check it out sometime you won’t be disappointed!

Go explore and tell me about YOUR experiences!